Dealing With Worry, Anxiety, and Panic

Posted 08-23-2011 at 01:51 PM by Mel

I was on a natural parenting forum earlier today and read a post from a woman asking if anyone had felt the same way. Her concern was what would happen to her young children if something suddenly happened to her (heart attack, fell and was unconscious, etc.) and she was home alone with them. The thread was loaded with moms agreeing that they can totally relate. In fact, this question struck home with me as it is something that I worry about nearly every day. I tend to worry a lot and in the past year that worry has turned to anxiety and that anxiety has turned to panic.

When my first daughter was an infant I always worried I’d have postpartum depression and end up hurting my baby somehow. Of course, I did have postpartum depression, but I never hurt my baby. I think all those television shows, news reports, and the “don’t shake your baby” video at the hospital triggered some of this worry. I worried that her colic was because of something I was doing wrong. I worried that if she slept in her own bed she would die of SIDS. I checked her carseat to make sure it was installed properly every time I put her in the car. Do you see the main theme of this paragraph? Yes, it is worry! I spent the first few months of my first daughter’s life worrying. I didn’t enjoy it because I was so worried.

Of course that worry continued and when I got pregnant for our second daughter I worried even more. What if there was something wrong with my baby? What if I have a miscarriage? What if I get in a car accident while pregnant? All the “what if” scenarios raced through my mind. Everyone told me not to worry, but I couldn’t stop.

Diaper Swapers

Journey to Motherhood–Part 2

Posted 08-23-2011 at 08:30 AM by Krista

When we learned that we were expecting, J. and I called everyone we could think of to share the good news. Still elated from the news, I scheduled an appointment with my gynecologist.

“What are we doing today, Krista?” she asked, tapping her fingers on the desk.

“I’m pregnant,” I blurted out.

She sat back in her chair, and the surprise was etched all over her face. “So soon? This is unexpected.”

I beamed with happiness.

“Well, now, you probably won’t keep this one. There is a seventy-five percent chance of miscarriage, but at least now we know that you can get pregnant…”

The Schwartz Method

Posted 08-22-2011 at 08:12 AM by Britt Schwartz

The Schwartz Method, ever heard of it? Of course you haven’t, I just invented it!
(ok, I’ve been watching way too much Despicable Me – I heard Vector in my head while typing that).

One night after the girls had gone to sleep, Matt and I were up talking and we were discussing whether or not to move Payton to her own bed. Matt has been a great support for co-sleeping and he was fine leaving her where she was. I was feeling pressured from reading threads about co-sleeping to try and put her in her own bed.  At one point, I nearly broke down and told him that I felt lost, that I felt torn between being a Crunchy Momma and feeling inadequate to the Modern Mom’s . I was struggling with my identity as a parent.

Journey to Motherhood

Posted 08-22-2011 at 07:45 AM by Krista

I had been married to my high school sweetheart for three years before we began to talk about starting a family together. I started lingering in the baby section of department stores when I went out, fingering soft baby booties and smiling to myself. We started discussing baby names over the dinner table and debating nursery themes.

We took a relaxed approach in the beginning. We assumed I would become pregnant soon, like my friends had when they’d stopped taking birth control. As the months passed, my husband began rolling his eyes whenever I made the announcement that I thought I was pregnant. Yeah, right, I could practically hear him saying.

After yet another negative pregnancy test, I broke down and scheduled a visit to my gynecologist. To my disbelief and frustration, I was scheduled for test after test without anyone ever finding anything wrong. My doctor suggested I schedule my husband for testing as well, and he uncomfortably agreed.

We couldn’t get him an appointment for another two months, and I felt my chances at having children slipping away. It wasn’t supposed to be this hard. Children were having children, without possessing the skills to be able to raise them. I knew I would treasure the gift of life and watch my child grow up enjoying every moment, if only I was given the chance.

What is the deal with fleece?

Posted 08-22-2011 at 07:36 AM by whitneywalters

I started using fitted and prefold diapers with my third child and I wanted to try out all the different covers out there. I started with buying a couple of each types and it did not take long for me to find the fleece love. Not only was it adorable but it was also very affordable.It was nice to find a cover that worked really well, had a large variety of styles and prints to choose from and did not cost a lot to get.

What qualities does fleece have?
- fleece is breathable
– easy to care for and clean
– fast drying
– comes in many prints and colors
– hardy and stands up for frequent use and washing
– machine washable and dryable
– virtually stain proof
– very soft

Back to school: balancing college and kids

Posted 08-20-2011 at 08:20 AM by Krista

In a few short weeks, I will join the throng of many who are returning to school. Not in the traditional sense, as my college courses are online, but still, another item that will be added to the to-do list.

Like many, I didn’t go straight to college after high school. I began working instead, and before I knew it, it had been five years since I graduated from high school. My husband really urged me to go to college—a college degree means higher paying jobs, and what if something happened to him?

I began to take a few courses, and two semesters later, we were pregnant. I stopped taking classes to focus on my daughter, and didn’t return to campus until she was nearly a year old. That same semester I found out I was pregnant with number two! Yes, it was a shock, and so, I trudged on through classes, and by the time the semester was over, my belly was so big I needed the backpack to balance out the weight!

This time, I continued taking college courses. My next semester started two weeks before I gave birth. I began taking online classes and fortunately for me, my teachers were very understanding. Currently, I am only taking two classes per semester, but next spring—barring any more unexpected additions to the family, that is—I will be going back out to campus.

I won’t lie, it can be very difficult to add a load of schoolwork to your already overtaxed to-do list. If you’re thinking about going back to school, make sure that your husband is 100% behind you.

Don’t have $200? You can cloth diaper anyway.

Posted 08-19-2011 at 12:23 PM by Monica Beyer

I have heard often the argument that someone cannot start cloth diapering because they don’t have the money up front to begin. Totally legitimate! It is a valid concern. Even if you go a cheaper route, such as flats, prefolds and covers, it can still add up to over $100 in upfront costs.

Instead of viewing it as an “all or nothing” challenge, I suggest to these mamas to use other strategies:

1.  If you are still pregnant, request cloth diapers from family members and friends. If you’re having a shower, register for cloth. You can either register for them at an online store or a local store, or simply have your host write on the invitation, “Mama is planning to use cloth diapers, so instead of buying disposables, she would love a gift certificate to [insert cloth diaper store here].”

2.  Buy a diaper every paycheck, if you’re planning to use fitteds or pockets, or buy a dozen prefolds every month. You will soon build an impressive and fashionable stash this way because they do add up.

3.  Browse FSOT. Regularly. Daily. Eight times a day. You will find amazing deals. I promise. Don’t be shy — jump right in.

4.  If you sew, make your own diapers. You can make simple pocket fitteds from receiving blankets, for example (don’t tell me you don’t have dozens of those sitting in your closet). You can also find flannel on sale at your favorite fabric shop. Elastic is

What Are You Thankful For?

Posted 08-19-2011 at 10:22 AM by Krista

Yes, I know it’s not November, but sometimes it feels like the world is full of such negativity. We are pros at finding the dark side to every situation. Every day, the news is filled with tragedy.

It has been said that positive thinking is good for the health, so take a few minutes to find the good, even the great in your life! Dwell on it for a few moments, and even if it doesn’t add an extra month to your life, it might make you smile.

Practicing Elimination Communication

Posted 08-19-2011 at 08:10 AM by HollyRay

“MOM!!!! Henna pooped on the potty!” my oldest daughter Zaylee Ann informs me while I’m in the kitchen. “Ok Zay, can you dump it for me?” I ask, while up to my elbows in dirty dishes.

Zaylee Ann is 3, and the ever helpful mini mommy, Henna Raelene is 14 months, and both were raised using the potty from a very young age. In fact when getting my hospital bag ready for Henna Raelene I packed the infant potty, and she used it for the first time when she had her first bowel movement at 3 hours old. Some people think we are crazy for doing this, some think it’s awesome, and some just nod knowingly because they’ve done it too.

So what is EC really?

Elimination communication is, simply put, just that. It’s about working with your child to understand what needs they are communicating to you. When our children are hungry we feed them, when they are sad we comfort them, when they are tired we put them to sleep, and when they are dirty we change them or when they need to potty we take them potty.

How do you do it?

For every parent and every child EC can be different. I started when my children were still newborns, using a small infant potty that looks kind of like a

Get Your Groupon

Posted 08-19-2011 at 06:27 AM by Mel

I joined Groupon this year and have been amazed at their deals! Earlier this summer I was able to buy a $20 gift certificate to a local farm market that sells healthy meats for $10! My husband and I both bought into this Groupon and enjoyed our half off goodies! Plus, we were supporting a local business in the process. I also just finished using a five week yoga Groupon that was only $35! The classes are normally $12-14 each and I only paid $7! Talk about a great deal!

Groupon is basically “group couponing,” hence the name. There are a minimum number of people that have to agree to purchase the Groupon before “the deal is on.” Many times there are time limits on when you can purchase the Groupons and/or limits on how many Groupons are available. If you see a Groupon you want to purchase then act fast!

Sign up through a friend or follow my link below.