Chick Flicks

Posted 02-23-2012 at 01:35 PM by Krista

What woman out there doesn’t like a good, tear-jerking romance movie? Or a movie that showcases feminine strength, during which she also gets the guy in the end? Well, if you don’t then this article probably isn’t for you, but if so, read on.

I know someone else who loves them too: my husband. Yes, believe it or not, despite all of the sitcom jokes about women “forcing” their beaus to watch the dreaded chick-flick many men actually enjoy them, regardless of whether or not they have the guts to admit it! My husband is a hopeless romantic who is happiest when the guy gets the girl at the end. If not, he will declare in annoyed tones, that the movie “sucked” pouting all the while.

Sometimes I like to remind him that he is the same man who scored my love of a heart-breaking romance movie. After ten years of being together, he now trusts my judgment completely where movies are concerned. I don’t have to prod at all, and we will curl up in front of the TV with some popcorn to watch the story unfold.

Diaper Swapers

The Fun in Trying

Posted 02-23-2012 at 12:47 PM by Krista

For the longest time I honestly thought I was out of the baby making business. For those who might not know through personal experience, having two toddlers can cure anyone of the desire for a child! Especially when they are only twenty months apart! When I became a second time mommy, my oldest had huge problems with this interloper. And while things are definitely much better now, and they love each other, the scars of the memory have not quite faded. I honestly considered getting my tubes tied and tried to talk my husband in to it on several occasions.

He was never convinced that our family was complete, and as some of you who read my blogs (or who saw me post in the forums) we were pregnant just a month ago. It was our second unplanned pregnancy, and we both were a bit freaked. Our house was packed tight as it was, and we only have one income. As some of you also know, we lost the baby. At the time, I didn’t think I would want to try again any time soon.

Now I’ve been rethinking things. I have started to remember how fun trying can be. The air of romance…the fun, the thrill of finding out you’re pregnant. While our house is still tight and we are on only one income, my husband got a promotion two weeks ago. Somehow it gave us the breathing room that we needed to consider making another addition to the family.

When You SHOULD Use a Credit Card

Posted 02-22-2012 at 03:06 PM by Krista

We have all heard the evils of credit cards listed again and again, but there are times when charging a purchase to your credit card can be a good thing, especially large purchases. My mom is going through a situation right now where she got work done on her teeth and paid with her debit card. She is unhappy with the work (three months later she still can barely eat!) and the dentist is not returning her calls. She says she won’t be going to see him again, but you know what’s even better than avoiding a bad dentist? Getting your money back! If she had paid with her credit card, she would have a better chance of getting her money back, and fast. Why? Because it takes longer for a dispute to run its course when your checking account is involved, and most credit card companies offer a money back guarantee for situations such as this.

What are some other times it’s good to use a credit card? I personally use them for travel expenses, including but not limited to hotel rooms, rental cars, and the like. That way my account is not held up with a pending charge (rental companies often require a security deposit) or if the clerk makes a mistake and double charges me (which can take up to seventy-two hours to resolve) I am not at risk for overdrawing my account.

It’s also better to charge purchases when you are low on funds rather than risk over-drafting your account. An overdraft can cost up to $40 per occurrence, and some banks now charge a daily fee for each day your account remains overdrawn. It is much safer in

Teaching Charity

Posted 02-22-2012 at 02:20 PM by whitneywalters

My husband and I think that teaching your kids about charity at a young age is very important. Our two oldest are four and five and recently we decided it was time for them to have a lesson in charity and why it is so important to give.
Our kids have an over abundance of toys, we knew we needed to go through them and get rid of some. We usually do this when the kids are spending a day with Grandma but this time we decided the kids needs to be there while we did it and they needed to be the ones to pick what toys they wanted to donate.

We sat both of the kids down and told them what the plan was, the moment they heard us say get rid of some toys they started to argue. After awhile they settled down and we started talking about why they needed to give. We told them there are many kids in the world that do not have a lot of toys and would love to have some of the toys that they never even play with anymore. We told them it would make kids very happy and that they had more then enough to begin with. Our four year old daughter was really sad when we told her that some little girls have no dolls or ponies to play with and she was ready to give some way. Our five year old son was not thrilled with the idea but he agreed he would find some items to give.

I went upstairs with them and helped them sort through toys. I asked them both to fill a garbage full of items and I was really surprised how quickly they were able to do it. It took us less then fifteen minuets to fill both bags and we even managed to do it without any tears.

I Speak Toddlernese

Posted 02-22-2012 at 02:05 PM by Krista

An interesting thing that any seasoned mom can tell you is that no one understands her child like she does. This should be a given. At one point, they were inside us! My oldest is three years old, and speaks a language come to many of you, although I am about the only one who can understand her: Toddlernese. Doesn’t it seem like every child has his or her own version of it? And of course, mom is the best translator!

Now, don’t get me wrong, there are many times when even I have no clue as to what she’s trying to tell me, but being a stay at home mom I spend the most time with her, and as such, I have the best track record with decoding her inane ramblings. It is somewhat a source of contention between my husband and I because I often forget that my ear has been trained toward her use of half-words. My husband’s hasn’t, and he usually can’t understand her.

“Can you get her some juice please?” I asked one night, rolling my eyes.

“What? Oh, OK,” he replied.

“Well, she just asked you to!”

“She did? When?! I can’t understand that!”

Having More Children in This Economy

Posted 02-21-2012 at 10:00 AM by Krista

A lot of people wonder if it is a great idea to have children (or more) in this weak financial economy. I once heard someone say that if you wait to have kids until you have enough money, you’ll go through life childless. However, in this day and age where people are being laid off and jobs are scarce, is adding to your already tight household budget really a smart move?

Well, I suppose it all depends. Second (and especially third) babies can be much less expensive, especially if they are the same sex. After all, you already have the baby gear and clothes, which are the most expensive parts of bringing a baby into the world, besides the hospital bill! Of course, if you opt to nurse and/or make your own baby food, you can save even more money there. And let’s not forget cloth diapering!

There are plenty of ways to ease the financial burden that having a child can be. Some of us are even more fortunate and have family that help out. I think the most important thing that can be said is that you shouldn’t not have a child just because of an uncertainty. If you or your husband has been recently laid off, by all means try to put the baby making on hold until your situation is a bit more stable. In my opinion,

Children and Sponges

Posted 02-21-2012 at 08:29 AM by Krista

I’m sure you heard the expression that children are like sponges. They just soak in everything they hear and see. I don’t know about you, but that is certainly true in my house! That is one of the main reasons that we, as parents, try so hard to monitor the movies, music and people are kids are exposed to.

An interesting thing my kids have taught me recently about sponges is that it really does mean everything. Including you, and how you treat them. My first sign was when I began watching my daughter play with baby dolls. She immediately would cuddle and kiss and soothe them. She would cry for them (too cute!) and then rush to comfort them. I have also seen her scold and spank them. (That moment I needed a hole to crawl into! It makes me laugh now, though!)

She is surprisingly gentle and loving with her sister. She likes to play mommy most of the time and is always looking for K’s cup or snack when she gets her own. I say surprising because of all the wonderful stories I have heard about sibling rivalry!

This morning, she tucked me back into bed, kissed my forehead and whispered “Night, Ma.”

It surprised me as well as touched my heart. And that was when I realized something: she was imitating me. All this time when I have felt like the worst, most awful parent who is often too busy to

Miracles Happen

Posted 02-20-2012 at 03:27 PM by Krista

I have been witness to a beautiful miracle. I know a woman, named Jessica, who has been married for over twenty years. She and her husband married when she was in her late twenties. Knowing that they wanted children, and the risks that come with having children in your thirties, they began trying to conceive shortly after saying “I Do.”  Year after year passed with no success. To doctors, she was a medical mystery, or better yet, another case of unexplained infertility. Women that fall under this category cannot get an answer to their question of why they cannot get pregnant. Medically, there is no reason they shouldn’t be able to, they just don’t.

Jessica, in her mid-forties in now pregnant with a little girl. On the day she found out, her youngest nephew began college. Her family has not had a baby in eighteen years. As you can imagine, she is over the moon. She is delighted and full of joy for her little miracle. Her doctor told her that there is no medical reason that she should become pregnant now, when she couldn’t before. Her response?

“I know. It’s God’s miracle to me.”

Seriously Exciting Xenogamy

Posted 02-20-2012 at 01:11 PM by HollyRay

I can’t even count how many articles I have read talking about sex this week, and I didn’t even go looking for them, social networking brought them all to me. Frankly I have no problem reading or talking about the issues involved with something so deeply entwined in our everyday lives, but I’m about to have a throw down over this whole “women should initiate more” issue, and here’s why.

1. Who said we don’t initiate?

Cosmo (ok not the greatest source) took a poll and it showed that 65% of women initiate on a regular basis, how often do they get turned down? A lot! Men need to stop this whining about who needs to initiate, do you know how many times I’ve “initiated” and my husband did not get the hint? Men are dense and sometimes even the most direct approach is lost on

Water for Elephants: a movie review

Posted 02-20-2012 at 01:04 PM by Krista

Water for Elephants is a movie based on the best-selling book that came out in 2006. I found the book to be wonderfully written and fascinating. Although movies never tend to be as good as the books, I had high hopes for this one. Reese Witherspoon and Robert Pattinson (better known to many of you as Edward—ironically, his name in this movie is Jacob) star in this wonderful film.

Jacob Jankowski, played by Pattinson, is in school for veterinary medicine when his parents are killed in a car accident. After attending to their affairs, he flees his hometown and jumps on a train, which happens to belong to the Benzini Brothers. He joins the crew and becomes the circus vet. He falls in love with Marlena, the “show stopper” of the circus, played by Witherspoon. There is only one problem: her abusive husband, August.

The film is funny, fast paced, and deeply moving. Also a plus is that isn’t quite classified as a chick flick—ask my husband—so you might be able to talk your spouse into watching with you! The acting is superb, but don’t my word for it: rent it this
weekend and see for yourself!