Unconventional Lullabies

Posted 04-30-2012 at 12:21 PM by whitneywalters

All my kids have loved being sang to while I am rocking them to sleep. The thing is rarely was it an conventional lullaby that they would settle down for.

Alex did like twinkle twinkle little star but he is the only one out of the four that little what would be considered a normal lullaby. I do remember one day I had been at the store and had left Alex with Chris. Alex would have been about five months old at this time. When I came home Chris was humming I can’t stop loving you by Van Halen and Alex was fast asleep on his shoulder. He told me that Alex had gotten really upset and that was the only son that came to his mind. It had been one of our wedding songs because I adored the song, apparently Alex liked it also.

Destiny was a needy baby, she spent almost her entire first year in my lap, in the sling or with me in some way. One day she was being fussing in the sling while I was doing house work and then all the sudden just stopped and stared at me. Soon she was fast asleep. I had been listening to the beetles and was singing the song I want to hold your hand. She loved it and from that point on that was the song she loved to hear. She is four and a half now and she still likes that song.

Diaper Swapers

Intentional Womanhood

Posted 04-30-2012 at 11:48 AM by Krista

Intentional Womanhood: I have seen this phrase around a lot lately and have been wondering what it meant. I did my homework, and found that it is talking about women striving to make their husbands and children their number one priority. They strive to keep their home warm and nurturing, a place that their family can truly call home, a place where they long to be. It’s all about creating a safe, loving environment.

Women that believe in Intentional Womanhood wear their badges of motherhood and wifedom with pride, not shame. They are not afraid to let anyone know that they have chosen these roles for themselves, no matter what society thinks of it. So often in our world today we are made to feel as though we need to be ashamed of our choices to stay at home, if that what we do, or feel regretful for returning to work, if that’s what we choose. Society would look down on us no matter what we do.

However, living with Intentional Womanhood means being brave enough to let go of others’ opinions. It means caring about your family and taking your worth from them. Don’t let anyone look down on you for the choices you make concerning your children or your marriage! We can all, each one of us, only do our best and pray at the end of the day that that is enough. There are days when I myself get down about still being in college. What guarantee do I have that I will find a career when my children are all in school?

Life is full of more doubt than guarantees, and particularly on the days when it feels like my children don’t listen to a thing I say or my husband comes home too exhausted to help with the kids, on those days I do question my choices

What works for one may not work for another

Posted 04-30-2012 at 11:28 AM by whitneywalters

When it comes to cloth diapers what worked for one child may not always work for the next. This is something I have found out in the years of cloth diapering my four kids.

When I first started cloth diapering I tried using the same types of diapers for my two oldest kids at the time my son was 21 months and my daughter was 6 months. It did not work well at all. My son was long and lean and my daughter was about average sized with chunky thighs. The diapers that worked best for Alex were atd aios and some wahm pockets I had, Destiny would have huge red marks around her thighs and they leaked. She did really well in bumkins and nana bottoms. Alex would soak through the bumkin each and every time, I also could not keep him in anything velcro, it would be off in a matter of seconds. The one diaper I could use of both of them was bum genius OS pockets.

Destiny and Kairi were both in diapers at the same time for a very short period. Destiny was potty learning at the time Kairi was born, in that short time I had them both in cloth they wore the same brand rarely. Destiny wore a nana bottom or bum genius OS every day and Kairi was in a fitted, very baby fitted, an atd or a nana bottom. Even though the bum genius fit when they both were in diapers, I did not like the bulk on a newborn so I did not use them on Amelia.

Yeast Rash Battle

Posted 04-27-2012 at 10:04 AM by whitneywalters

My nine month old daughter Amelia has had several yeast rashes in her life. I swear they go away for a matter of weeks and then bam we are hit with one again. I just got more medicine from the doctor to treat another yeast rash. I have tried two different prescription meds now and tried treating it naturally. It seemed to go away with those treatments and then reappear in a matter of weeks. I am bound and determined to get rid of it for good this go round.

I have been scouring the internet for all the information I can get to banish this rash for good. I have found a lot of good information and found the regiment we are going to do to rid her of the rash.

1. Use her medicine -
I am having to use a liner in her diapers because the rash ointment she has is not cloth diaper safe. I have been using a folded cloth wipe and it is working well. There are several natural treatments out there, I was able to get rid of one rash using tea tree oil and thought about going this route again. I am just trying the ointment the doctor gave us this time to see if it clears up faster. I know Amelia has to be getting just as annoyed with these rashes as I am and I just want to make her better.

The Difference Between Boys and Girls

Posted 04-27-2012 at 09:54 AM by Krista

I have two girls, and while I do hope to one day have a son, for the moment I can honestly claim ignorance on all things little boy. Well, most things…don’t all men have at least a tad bit of little boy in them still? Today my daughters saw the extended family for the first time since Christmas. They are three and nineteen months, so four months has seen them grow quite a bit.

They are currently the only small children in the family, and at one point I saw my aunt looking a bit daunted by the whirlwind of their rambunctiousness.

“Do you ever wish you had boys?” she asked my husband.

“Not really,” he shrugged.

When they will not share

Posted 04-26-2012 at 09:35 AM by whitneywalters

I know that all kids have sharing issues but they seem to be getting really bad lately in my house. My two year old daughter is going through a pretty bad stubborn streak and this is causing a lot of issues for her in the sharing department. If she wants something, she take it, does not matter who has it or what she needs to do. When it comes to taking things from the baby she just does and is not phased by the baby crying. If her brother or sister have it, she hits or pulls hair. She tried to do the same to Chris and I but she learned it would not work with the adults. She has yet to learn it won’t work with the other kids.

I had been doing all the text book things to teach kids to share, making her start sharing from an early age and always praising her for sharing, it has not seemed to have made any difference.

Now it is just a matter of getting her to see sharing is not an option it is a requirement in this house. Here is a list of what I am doing with her.

1. If she takes something by force, remove it from her right away.
– Any time she takes something from a sibling I take it back and give it to the person that had it. I also firmly tell her no and that we do not take things away from people.

2. Encourage sharing and teach by example.
– Whenever I see her willingly share with someone I praise her behavior. Showing her that good things comes from when she shares.I also make sure she sees me sharing things with other people, showing her that even mommy has to share.

Long Car Rides

Posted 04-26-2012 at 08:00 AM by Krista

Every parent comes to know the hard truth that traveling with a child for long periods of time can be challenging. Especially so for younger kids that can’t yet entertain themselves. For the Easter holiday my husband decided to rent a car for the two hour drive to my grandmother’s which became a four hour haul counting both ways. He chose the one with the DVD player because turning on the television instantly grabs and holds their attention, particularly when they are strapped into car seats.

I used to be strongly against the use of dvd players in vehicles and still am skeptical, though I will admit that it makes the drive much more pleasant for everyone involved. The main concern, of course, is that adults have—and will, certainly—lose focus on their driving while paying attention to the movie. While the models coming out today do not allow the driver to watch unless the car is in park—during which the screen up front in the console switches on—accidents do happen.

I know there are more and probably better ways to make a car ride more bearable. I can’t wait for license plate games and singalongs. My girls are both three and under, and can’t read—nor have either memorized song lyrics—so that will be a little while.

One size does not fit all

Posted 04-26-2012 at 07:48 AM by whitneywalters

I have had mostly the same baby girl clothes for all three of my girls. With the first two all the clothes fit both of them well, sometimes at different ages but still they worked for both girls. Destiny is always right on target for clothing, the age and size always go together, Kairi is long and lean. She was out of 0/3 months by five weeks, out of 3/6 by 3 months and so on and so fourth. She is now 2 years and wearing a 3T.

Then comes Amelia, at first I thought she was going to grow similar to Destiny, she seemed to size up right along with the corresponding age but once she hit about 6 months that all changed. She is short and chunky and while I adore her little rolls it makes her pants fit funny because her inseam is to short for the size waist I need to get. I actually had to get rid of all the jeans she had and get stretchy ones without buttons. The jeans that always worked for Destiny and Kairi were children’s place flairs, they fit perfectly and looked so cute on them. With Amelia they are way to tight in the waist and thighs plus to long in the leg. I am sure the bulk of a cloth diaper is not helping with the fit either.

When mom needs a sick day

Posted 04-24-2012 at 10:35 AM by whitneywalters

I am sure any stay at home mom can relate to the fact that moms do not get sick days. I recently had a nasty head cold and all I wanted to do was sleep, that did not happen.

My head was throbbing, my eyes were watering and I was blowing my nose every other minute but that did not make my four children need me any less. So I bought some severe cold medicine, ate lots of chicken noodle soup, drank lots of tea and suffered through it.
I knew that I was not going to be up to our normal busy days so I decided it was okay to break all the normal house rules. We watched way more television then I ever allow in one day,  lounged on the couch reading books, playing puzzles or playing quiet games. I let my son play video games longer then I ever had before. Meals were simple and fast to make, breakfast was cold cereal or poptarts and lunch was sandwiches and fruit. We even spent all day in our pajamas which pretty much never happens. Minimal house work got done and laundry simply waited.

The Marital Bond

Posted 04-24-2012 at 10:10 AM by Krista

My husband and I will be celebrating ten years of being together come this June. If you haven’t experienced it in your own relationship already, I’m here to tell you that a decade with a single partner can make it challenging to keep things new and exciting. Forget excitement, sometimes you just don’t have much to say to one another except work and the kids. I don’t know about you, but a lot of times this just isn’t enough for me. Yes, it’s life, but does life have to be so stale?

One thing that has always helped us get out of the rut is to try new things and begin new hobbies together. Granted, there have been some things that haven’t worked out (poetry, for example. He never felt comfortable reading it to me!) but right now we’ve landed on one. An avid reader myself I’ve often tried to get my husband into reading the same book so we’d have something to talk about. However, he never has been much of a reader, and definitely doesn’t read the books I find interesting.

Funny enough, it is him who has chosen this title. Right now we’re reading The Game of Thrones a series that has inspired both a television series and a video game. J has always been into fantasy novels, especially those based on lords and ladies and knights, so this was right up his alley. He is out reading me, for a change!