Posted 06-20-2012 at 09:30 AM by Krista
After much discussion, my husband J and I agreed to have another child. We decided to start immediately, so I went off the pill and have been off for about a week now. This is the first time I have actually gone without it for this length of time.
Before conceiving my first child, I didn’t take birth control. In fact, we didn’t use any type of control once we were married, so three years in we knew there was a problem. I began taking it after I conceived my first daughter, but after they “fixed” my infertility, I was as fertile as a rabbit. One missed pill led to my becoming pregnant with my second daughter a mere ten months after her sister had been born. I’d been taking them for about six months at that point.
I became pregnant again this past December, and stopped taking them for about a week and a half. We lost the baby that I carried, so I started back up again. Now, at the tail end of May, I have stopped for what I intend to be for good. We are hoping for a successful pregnancy this time around, but regardless, we plan on our next child being our last. After which one of us will get…um…taken care of. So, if all goes according to plan, I will never take birth control pills again.
It’s an odd thought. An end of an era, in a way, as all things are when you know you will be done having children soon. There is just one problem with this scenario. I believe that I am experiencing withdrawal symptoms due to not taking the pill anymore. Except for the short break I mentioned, I have been taking the pill every day for nearly two years. I guess there is bound to be a few side affects as my body gets back to “normal”.
Summer is here and my family is on a strict budget once again. We have a little more wiggle room then we did last summer but we still have to keep our summer activities low cost. We are an active family of six and we try to do at least one family activity on the weekends.
Here is a list of some of our low cost summer plans-
1. Picnic in the park
– This is one of the kids favorite things to do as a family. We pack drinks, sandwiches, chips, fruits, veggies and a dessert. We eat lunch at a local park and then spend the afternoon playing. The area we live has a nice park with a shelter, a pond and a play area so we always go there for our picnics. We always have a blast and since we have to eat lunch anyway this ends up being a no cost family outing.
Posted 06-18-2012 at 10:57 AM by Krista
Over the weekend my husband and I decided to take our girls to the zoo while the weather was still bearable. I am the kind of mom who buys some clothes with the intention that they will be worn for a certain purpose or time. For example, when I bought these matching elephant shirts for my daughters, I knew they’d wear them when we went to the zoo. I don’t do it for every article of clothing, of course, so the few I select for certain purposes I get very excited about.
My daughters—particularly my three-year-old— were very excited about going to the zoo and seeing the animals. She was less excited about the outfit I’d selected, however. She didn’t want to wear the elephant shirt she wanted to wear a dress. And a fancy dress at that! Initially, I was disappointed that the matching outfits I’d envisioned for this day was ruined, but I began to see the upside. Even as she and I disagreed about what she’d wear—no, she couldn’t wear her Easter dress. Or her tea party dress—I was amused at her asserting herself about her clothing, because she never has before.
“Mommy, I don’t like my glasses.”
Those are the words my six year old son said to me while in tears the first day he got his glasses. He had been less then happy to find out at his eye exam that he needed glasses. I was not surprised when the eye doctor told me that Alex needed glasses. Every person on my husband’s side of the family wears them and a few people on my side wear them. Even before his appointment I had told my husband that if any of the kids needed glasses, I was betting it was going to be Alex. Something in me just said he was going to need them.
Alex is far sighted, his vision is not that bad right now but he does need glasses. My husband and I sat down and had a long talk with Alex about his glasses We were trying to get down the the real reason for him not liking his glasses. We talked about all the people he knew that wore glasses, told him he looked cool in them, that there was nothing wrong with wearing them and that he would eventually learn to like them. He just kept saying over and over again that he did not like them and did not want to wear them. He just wanted his eyes to work without them. It broke my heart to hear him cry about it.
Posted 06-15-2012 at 12:23 PM by Krista
Every year on Father’s Day I try to show J how very much he is appreciated by the girls and I. Unfortunately, this time of year is marked by a lot of other holidays for our family, not to mention summer, which is vacation season. There never seems to be enough money to pay for the really nice things I’d like to do for him, so I usually have to figure out something cheap.
This year I have come up with a few ideas. I am making him a power point slideshow showing what a great dad he is, featuring pictures of him and his girls. I will make one of his favorite dinners and we will watch it with the girls. The last picture is one of the girls pretending to be Daddy…my oldest is in her Daddy’s coat, and my youngest is carrying his briefcase. They are both wearing “Daddy’s girl” shirts.
I hope he will enjoy seeing our memories flash by, seeing our girls grow up all over again on the screen. I hope he will see what a wonderful male figure he is for them, the inspiration for what they will look for in husbands of their own someday.
Posted 06-14-2012 at 01:57 PM by Krista
I came across this website recently, with a blog entry entitled “Marriage is for Losers.” I snickered a bit to myself, assuming that I knew what they meant. I based this assumption on the rise in divorce that our country has been seeing for years, coupled with a decrease in people getting married. If the marriage rate is declining but the divorce rate is getting higher that means that most couples end in divorce. It’s something we all know. So, marriage is for losers, right?
Wrong. That is what the article said, but not what they meant. They meant that to be happily married, you have to be a loser. What comes to mind when you think of a loser? The losing football team? A grown man living with his parents? Neither of these is what they were talking about.
Now, I don’t know about you, but after being married for nearly eight years my fighting style is best described as “fight to win.” To make it even worse, so is my husband’s! That means that a simple disagreement in our home can become a heated, escalated argument pretty quick.
My two year old daughter was just diagnosed with Cold Urticaria. Basically this means when she gets too cold her body has an allergic reaction. We found out after swimming in a really cold pool. She was not even in the water for 15 minutes before all the kids wanted out. I got her inside and was getting her out of her swim suit when I saw she was covered head to toe in hives. The rash got worse as I watched it, her belly looked like it had little welts all over it. I got her all dressed, gave her a dose of benadryl and called the clinic. I also took pictures of the rash so I could show them what it looked like before medicine.
She fell asleep and when she woke up the rash was gone, the clinic told me to keep a close eye on her overnight and bring her in for a check up in the morning.
Meanwhile I was online trying to see what might be causing the rash when I found information on Cold Urticaria, I could not believe what I was reading.
Posted 06-13-2012 at 12:20 PM by Krista
Today I had to take my oldest, Alison, to the speech and hearing clinic because she does not speak well. It has been a few weeks since I had my youngest evaluated; at that meeting the instructor made the suggestion that I get my three year old tested as well because she also was not speaking well for her age.
My husband and I have been dismayed and nervous ever since. I was dreading today, but I was praying that they would see her for exactly as she is, so that if she needs help she could get it. I won’t deny I felt both shame and embarrassment as I watched her give the wrong answers during parts of her test. I feel like, as her mother, and a stay at home mom at that, that I have failed her somehow.
Posted 06-12-2012 at 02:55 PM by Krista
My husband and I recently enjoyed a three day weekend in Panama City at the beach with our girls. My family didn’t do many vacations when I was growing up, and the ones we did were always at the beach. (Unless visiting grandparents count? Nah, I didn’t think so!) As such, I am a huge beach lover and have really been wanting to experience it with my girls. We did go last year, and my husband transformed from a sand hater to a beach lover! What an unexpected surprise that was!
We were really excited to go this year. We had an absolute blast. The girls played in the sand and my husband enjoyed taking my oldest daughter out into the water to tackle waves together. It was her absolute favorite part of the vacation.
On Monday when we loaded up the car to go home we were approached by a guy inviting us to a presentation for Wyndham resorts. They promised a free three day, two night stay and a hundred dollars. We had talked about bringing the girls back soon, so we agreed. Though we walked in with absolutely no intention to buy anything, we left with what our agent called a “starter vacation home.”
We have two babies in cloth diapers right now. A two year old girl and an eleven month old girl. It has taken me some time to find what works best for the girls over nights.
Kairi is the two year old. She still wants a sippy cup to go to sleep at night which leads to very wet diapers even if I change her in the middle of the night. I have tried BG aios and sunbaby aios, they both were soaked in the morning and she ended up with a rash. The only diaper that does not give her a rash and keeps the sheet dry is a nana botton aio with snaps. It has to have snaps though, Kairi likes to be diaperless and if she wakes up in the middle of night and sees she can get the diaper off, she does. That leads to a very wet bed for us since we are a co-sleeping family.
Amelia is eleven months. She still nurses in the middle of the night but she is not a heavy wetter like her older sister. She does have very sensitive skin. She can stay dry in almost any diaper over night but she seemed to get a bad rash really easily.