Who Wants This Baby, Anyway?

Posted 06-11-2012 at 01:32 PM by Krista

Twice in the past week I heard words that I never thought would come from my husband’s lips. He came home from work, on two separate occasions and mentioned that a baby he saw at work was “cute.” What?!

My husband has rarely noticed children that aren’t his own. Don’t get me wrong, he loves kids. He just isn’t the type to call them “cute” unless he’s talking to the parent. I raised my eyebrow the first time, but the second time it hit me: he was subtly, maybe unconsciously telling me…

“You want another baby, don’t you?” I asked, half-shocked, half-accusing.

“Yes,” he agreed.

Diaper Swapers

Potty Wars

Posted 06-11-2012 at 01:26 PM by whitneywalters

We have started potty training our two year old daughter and it is showing itself to be a bit of a battle. Kairi is a very stubborn child. W I have been trying to train her the same way I trained her brother and sister. My son was trained by three and my oldest daughter was trained at 21 months. We did naked training with both of them. I let them run around naked from the bottom down while they got used to using the potty, would take them to the potty every fifteen minuets or so for the first couple days and when they got better we let the pick out undies they liked.

It took me awhile to train my son, he was willing to do it but would get busy playing and then wet before he got to the potty, my daughter on the other hand was so easy it was crazy.  It took a matter of days and she was good to go. The only problem I had with her was her being terrified of automatic toilets for the longest time. This routine is not working with Kairi at all. She is okay with peeing on the floor and in undies but she tries taking diapers off when we use them.

Why We Garden

Posted 06-7-2012 at 12:00 PM by whitneywalters

We just got done planting our garden for the year. We have combined gardens with my parents, they live in the country with lots of land and simply they have more room for it then we do here in town. I love having fresh veggies and fruit and we plant a large garden every year.

This year we planted spinach, lettuce, tomatoes, beets, potatoes, onions, summer squash, zucchini squash,egg plant, green peppers, red peppers, yellow peppers, jalapenos, dill and corn. My parents also have cherries, grapes, blackberries, pears and peaches. At our house we have a pear tree, a plum tree and a pumpkin plant. The kids wanted to try planting the pumpkin we had for a decoration last year, so we threw it in the corner of the yard and are letting it do its thing. They are really excited about growing the pumpkins.

The Definition of Loss

Posted 06-7-2012 at 11:20 AM by Krista

My husband J and I recently lost a baby. We did not intend to get pregnant and were taking measures to prevent such an occurrence. However, life being the funny thing that it is, we did become pregnant. I stopped taking birth control and began looking at baby gear online, hoping, praying for a sweet little boy to enter into our family and join us. We already have two beautiful, perfect little girls.

We lost the baby less than a week ago. My husband does not understand my distress. Not only that, he is shocked by my lack of relief. Granted, we could not afford another baby, hence why we are trying to prevent having another. And yes, the timing is wrong, it would have been a messy, sticky situation. You know what else it would have been? A baby. My baby.

He sees my tears and uses science in a vain attempt to comfort me. It wasn’t a baby, he insists. It was never going to be a baby. Why cry over something that wasn’t and never could be? It was cells, he insists. It didn’t even have a heart beat.

I suppose we all cope in our different ways. For all his protests, I know that my husband refuses to see this as a baby because the pain will be too much to bear. When I mentioned naming it, he froze. Anytime he starts to refer to our loss as a baby, he tenses up and changes the subject. When a friend commented that she was sorry for our loss, he stared at her

On the Same Team

Posted 06-6-2012 at 10:00 AM by Krista

A favorite teacher of mine once told me that a house divided falls. I didn’t realize until many years later that he was quoting the Bible. Anyway, those words of wisdom have always stuck with me, and I have tried my best to remember them in order to keep my “house”, my family, connected.

In my area college football is a very, very big deal. One of the first things someone will ask you upon meeting you—if they can’t tell already from your apparel—is what football team you pull for. I kid you not when I say that that can make or break the friendship. I was raised to be an Alabama fan, and I have remained so except for the eight minutes I called myself an Auburn fan. My father locked me out of the house (no, I am not kidding, and I was ten) and I have never wavered since.

My husband is a Texas fan. I have heard more than once that we need a “House Divided” sign. My sister said the very same thing to me this morning, and I responded to her the way I always do to those who say this.

“We are not divided. When Alabama plays, we pull for Alabama. When Texas plays, we pull for Texas. It has never been an issue in our marriage.” (I will say that the teams did play each other in 2009, but before that it hadn’t been done in about twenty years. It is rarely an issue, and neither of us is that diehard to let it affect our relationship.)

“Well, you’re not a true fan,” she chided. “You should be happy whenever his team loses.”

I shrugged it off. If not getting upset when his team loses, if rooting for others teams when mine isn’t playing means I’m not a true fan, then so be it. I’d rather be a true fan of my husband.

Wool vs Fleece

Posted 06-6-2012 at 09:39 AM by whitneywalters

Since I started using wool and fleece two years ago I have had a lot of people ask me the difference between them and what the benefits are. I just wanted to share the list that I have come up with over time.

Let’s start with Wool.

Pros -
Naturally antibacterial fibers from natural resources.
The best material for absorbing moisture and keeping babies dry.
Can be air dried between uses.
Very breathable, keeps you warm when it is cold out and cool when it is warm out.
Lots of variety, there is recycled wool, interlock, knit and crochet. Lots of adorable choices out there.
Very high resale value.

Cons-
Can be very expensive. The wool in my stash cost me between $20 – $60 a piece. You can find it for less and much more.
Needs to be hand washed and air dried. My husband has ruined more then one  piece of my precious woolies by accidentally drying them.  Needs to be lanolized to make water proof. Takes longer to dry.

Cancer?

Posted 06-5-2012 at 10:20 AM by Krista

Recently my husband and I learned that my mother-in-law was going in for more testing after an abnormal pap smear. The next day the doctor discovered a lump in her breast. I had to explain to my husband what these things meant, and what the possible outcome could be. Needless to say, two in one week seemed a dire prediction of sorts.

My husband and his mother do not have a good relationship. They do not understand one another, and to this day my mother-in-law blames various people for their problems. She used to blame me—she has even admitted as much—and when she came to like me, she began blaming her grandmother, who has since died. In any event, she seems perplexed by their lack of love for one another.

She has sort of adopted me, in the fact that if you watched the three of us interact, you would believe that I was her child and that J was the in-law. She treats me better than him. She is kinder, encouraging and affectionate with me. She is short tempered and demanding of her son. That being the case, I wasn’t sure how he would react to the news.

Cloth diapering no-nos!

Posted 06-5-2012 at 09:42 AM by whitneywalters

Since I started cloth diapering 4 years ago I have made my fair share of cloth diapering mistakes. I am hoping that I can help others learn from some of the mistakes I have made.

1. Extreme washing
- I was very guilty of this for the first few months of my cloth diapering journey. I washed all the diapers I had on hot water, used way to much detergent and dried them all way to long. My AIOs starting to stink and for the life of me what was going on. Then I did some reading and realized what I was doing wrong. It took some time but I got the wash routine down and we have not had any more stink issues.

2. OS does not fit all
- I have used several OS diapers on my four children. Right now the only OS diapers I have in my stash are BG AIOs and Sunbabies AIOs. I can use the BGs on my two year old and my 11 month old but I can only use the Sunbabies on my 2 year old. I have the original Sunbabies and they are simply too tight on her thighs. They work great for my older girl because she is tall and thin. Other issues I have run into with the OS diapers are outgrowing the rise before the weight and leaking around the thighs trying to make the waist fit.

Living Money Free

Posted 06-1-2012 at 10:05 AM by Krista

How long do you think you—or any of us, really—could live without using money? And by “money” I mean a single penny. I could go a day…maybe a week, as long as we had filled up the tank before the week started, and had done our grocery shopping. Even then, with all my needs met it would still be a hard week to get through. It might be close to torture, even! In our society, money is made king. Whether we like it or not, the statement itself is true, making even a week without spending money, even with all needs met, a tough thing to do.

And yet, living without money is exactly what one individual is attempting to do. His name is Daniel Suelo, he is fifty one years old and lives without money. Living without money means living without debt—yes, it’s true he doesn’t have a mortgage, but that also means that home for him is a cave in Utah. He eats off the land and even has been known to go searching in trash cans for his meals.

Temper temper

Posted 06-1-2012 at 08:49 AM by whitneywalters

My four year old daughter has a temper and she is also a drama queen. It has not been a good combination lately. She has gotten a bit sassy lately. She rolls her eyes, stomps her feet, slams doors and find a way to over play anything when she is mad. I swear her favorite thing to do is roll her eyes and say ” why do I have to do it” whenever she is asked to do anything.  She is acting worse then a teenage girl as of late.

Usually this behavior is directed at me but she does it to her brother and her Dad. It seems to annoy my husband more then it does me, unless it is really over the top and she is being flat out disrespectful I ignore it. I have found that playing attention to it usually causes her to do it worse, if I don’t play into her attitude she stops because she sees she is not going to get her way or any attention for having a bad attitude. I am trying to get Chris to see that he needs to stop reacting to her, the more he does, the worse she gets. He needs to learn to pick his battles. I know this is a stage she will grow out of eventually.

I have set some ground rules with her. She has learned there are serious consequences if she breaks any of these rules.