Babysitting

Posted 01-30-2013 at 11:17 AM by whitneywalters

My friend called me in a bind, basically begging me to watch her two kids for the day. The sitter she had lined up bailed on her, she had to work and her husband was out of town for work. Of course I agreed. I figure adding two kids to my bunch wasn’t really going to make much for a difference anyway. The biggest hassle was going to be picking her kids up from school. I knew I would not be able to fit all six kids into my car at once so I worked it out with my sister to have my oldest two stay at her house. My sister just lives next door so it was the simplest solution. I also decided to let my kids have the day off from from school ( we homeschool ) and we would just make up for it on Saturday.

Here is how my day went.

6:15 – Woke up early by three year old daughter.
6:15 – 7:45 – Watching cartoons with three year old daughter
7:45 - Other three kids wake up.
8  - 8:30 Breakfast.
8:30 – 9:30 – Coach older two children to clean rooms.
9:30 – 10:30 – Rush to get some house work done.
10:30 – 10:45 -Finish getting everyone dressed.
10:45 – Head out to get friend’s daughter from pre – school.
10:45 – 11:15 – Drive across town, wait in parking lot to get her from school, pick her up and drive back to my house.

Diaper Swapers

The Things Doctors Say

Posted 01-30-2013 at 10:56 AM by Krista

I’ve been thinking a lot lately about having babies. It shouldn’t be much of a surprise, as my husband and I are trying to conceive. Each month I hope that this will be the month that I get to laugh and cry and rejoice, waving around that stick in the air that declares, with two pink lines, that we are finally pregnant. Of course, there are days when I wonder how much disappointment I can take before I give up.

I was thinking earlier about all the reasons doctors give you for why you aren’t conceiving. I have heard several:

“You should cut your caffeine intake if you want to get pregnant.”

“You should try to lose some weight if you want to get pregnant.”

“You need to cut out all alcohol if you want to get pregnant.”

Changing Doctors

Posted 01-25-2013 at 09:46 AM by Krista

As many of you know, my husband and I have been trying to conceive for several months. Even though we had problems starting a family in the beginning, after we’d worked through those hurdles we have never had an issue. In fact, its been  quite the opposite. My second daughter was the result of one night of pleasure during which my husband forgot the condom. We thought–like other couples–since  it was just the “one” time we would be OK…well, we are OK, and we also have another beautiful little girl to show for it.

Our third pregnancy was  conceived while I was still on birth control, trying to prevent. Needless to  say, I never expected to have problems getting pregnant. Having problems I am,
however. My doctor seems unconcerned. Once checking to make sure I was with the  same man (my response of “of course!” got me a strange look) and checking to make sure I’m ovulating (I am) he told me to simply give it more time. I have to  admit that my $40 copay felt a bit wasted that day.

After two more  months have come and gone without those precious pink lines, I am ready to move  on. I am changing doctors. Now, maybe this is the right move, and maybe not, but
I am tired of sitting by and doing nothing. I want to take charge and see the  results I long for. I am thinking that my doctor isn’t going to

My goals for 2013

Posted 01-25-2013 at 09:38 AM by whitneywalters

I made myself three goals for the new year. I am not big on resolutions since most of the time, they are not kept. That is why I made goals for myself that I know I can keep and need to be done.

1. Get healthy
- I know I need to lose weight but I am not setting a number goal. Instead I have just made a goal to become more healthy. Things like eating better, making sure I am eating more vegetables and fruits, being more active and cutting down on sweets. I am hoping by doing these simple things that I will start to take off weight.

2. Declutter
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We did this last year also. We got rid of a lot of stuff but I know I still have more that needs to go. So once again, I am going through every room in the house and getting rid of stuff that I know we do not need. We will donate, give away and sell items that are still in good shape. I know we have a lot that will be trashed as well. The one area that I know I need to be stricter on this year is toys. We have more toys then any family needs and it is time to get them out of my house.

3. Read 50 books
I love to read but it isn’t always easy to get a lot of time to myself to do so. Last year I started using goodreads on facebook and during the summer I made a goal of reading 25 books by the end of the year. I was able to exceed my goal and it felt great. I loved reading a bunch of new books and that is why I am doing it again this year. I am pretty sure I will be able to more then exceed this goal in the coming year.

Being more giving

Posted 01-24-2013 at 12:23 PM by whitneywalters

I have made a goal for myself. I want to keep the holiday spirit after the holidays are gone. I love the giving spirit that comes along with the holidays, I consider myself a fairly giving person but I know I have room for improvement.

I made a list of ways I can be more giving all year round.

1. PIF or RAK
- Around the holiday season I see a lot of people doing random acts of kindness or pay it forward things for strangers. It is always really inspiring to hear these stories. I have done it myself and it always feels good. This is something I can do all year round pretty easily. Little things like paying for a strangers coffee, dropping of some extra food for someone I know has been sick and just doing little things to show people that I care.

2. Giving gifts for no reason
- I like to give gifts but generally it is something that is only done for birthdays and Christmas. I have decided to change this. I am going to give things randomly through out the year. I do not always have a lot of extra money to spend but I am really crafty and I love to bake. I know I can make stuff for people to brighten their day. I plan to randomly drop off cookies to my neighbors, bring sweets to my pastor and do other things for family members.

So much for that

Posted 01-22-2013 at 09:12 AM by whitneywalters

I wanted to take a bath, I was just getting over having the flu and soaking in a super hot bath sounded wonderful. I told my husband that I wanted to go soak and he asked if I could take the baby in with me since she needed her hair washed. Well, that meant the water would not be nearly how hot I wanted but I could always bathe her first and then heat my water more after she was done, so I agreed.

I managed to sneak into the bathroom without the other kids noticing, Destiny was busy with a puzzle, Kairi was watching her favorite show and Alex was playing his DS. Amelia got really excited when I took her in there, she loves baths and anytime I take her in and shut the door she starts trying to rip all her clothing off. She managed to get everything but her diaper off and sat there dancing back and fourth while she watched me trying to get the hoards of toys out of the tub. We had one of those bathroom toy organizers but it disappeared so right now I put the bigger stuff in the sink and the smaller stuff in a plastic bin. I finished picking all the plastic sharks up and finally got the bath started.

I left Amelia’s measuring cups in so she could play. We were happily playing fill the cups with bubbles when there was a knock on the door. My first thought was, ” Drat! We have been discovered.” I asked who was there and what they needed, it was Destiny and she had to go potty. I let her in and of course she started in on wanting to come in the bath with us. I told her over and over there was not room, she would need to wait till later and that maybe she could take a bath with Kairi later. It took several minuets of negotiating with her and she finally went back out into the living room.

Grieving a Year Later

Posted 01-22-2013 at 09:09 AM by Krista

This December has been more forlorn than usual. I am used to feeling harried  with the preparation of Christmas and birthday parties all lumped together. I am used to feeling frustrated as our bank account doesn’t measure up to the demands of my creativity. I am accustomed to family drama this year, and hurt feelings as someone doesn’t get what they want. All of these things usually leave me feeling drained and wishing for January, as dreary as she is.

However, I’ve been feeling even more upset than usual. Something hovered outside my conscious, waiting for me to discover it. When I did, I felt like I was being punched in the gut. My dreams turned to death, and the face of my child that I never got to see. I kept dreaming that I was pregnant–and since we are TTC these dreams seemed expected, at first. But in the dream I was pregnant with a child I’d met before.

And that’s when I knew. I was in mourning, grieving for the baby we lost a year ago, before I’d ever even hit the second trimester. The loss of my Jordan was something that I took very hard. I had decided I didn’t want any more children before getting pregnant with him. Since losing him, I have been trying ever since to no avail. This further insult, my body refusing to comply, was enough to send me into a black funk.

Not so thrifty grocery trip!

Posted 01-17-2013 at 11:52 AM by Heather8183

DH and I went grocery shopping on Saturday.  I had my meals all planned out, and my list ready to go.  I wanted to go to Aldi, my go-to thrifty store.  However, we had a gift certificate from restaurant.com to a place where there isn’t an Aldi, so I thought we’d try out Sav-a-lot.  Well…turns out the name should be something akin to Spend-a-lot or Sav-a-not.

As soon as I walked in, I started seeing the prices and I was just shocked.  They were as high, if not higher than Walmart’s!  I should have turned around and left, but we had both kids, and I thought it would be a huge hassle to get them back in the car, and buckled, and go somewhere else.  One of these times I’m going to learn to trust my instincts!

At Walmart, a bag of shredded cheese is around $2.25, and Sav-a-lot has them for $2.50.  Not a huge difference, but still higher, and every little bit adds up.  I was absolutely blown away that a case of water was $4.99 at Sav-a-lot!!!  Walmart sells them for just over $2.00.  I know a bag of boneless skinless chicken breast is $6 at Walmart, and Sav-a-lot had them for almost $7.  Aldi sells cans of biscuits for $.40…I use them for the dumplings in my chicken and dumplings…they were $1.20 at Sav-a-lot.  These are just a few examples.

I know that grocery prices vary greatly depending on location, cost of living, etc.  I think that was one of the problems with our shipping trip.  We were in an area that’s mainly populated by Amish families.  Also, I think another issue was that Sav-a-lot sells mostly name brand items.  I hardly EVER buy name brand products.  Even with coupons, I find that I can get store brand cheaper almost always.  In fact, I can’t think of the last thing we bought name brand, except for our Millstone Foglifter K-Cups.

Lead By Example

Posted 01-17-2013 at 11:31 AM by Krista

I am a Southern girl, born and raised in Alabama. In fact, my parents still live in the house where I spent my childhood. Now that’s roots. Ever hear the phrase “don’t forget your roots?” To me, that means that you have to remember your family, and how you were raised. You can’t turn your back on your values, no matter where you end up making your home.

Something that my mom always used to tell me is that blood is thicker than water. I never understood what that meant as a kid. Is that technically even true, in the literal sense? I doubt it. However, the meaning behind it is this: that your family is behind you, even when no one else is. That they will never give up on you, no matter that.

Sadly, we live in a world where this isn’t always the case. Values seem to be a thing of the past, and families often ignore one of their own in trouble, just because they do something the family doesn’t agree with. How often have we heard about a friend being disowned because their family doesn’t agree with their sexuality, or the fact that they got pregnant out of wedlock? There are many, many more reasons. This is a disturbing trend in the world of late.

These are just some thoughts rambling around in my head right now. Sometimes, I wish my girls didn’t have to be raised in such a world. All I can do is do my best to raise them to follow these values, and the best way to do that is to lead by example.

Speech Delay and Toilet Training

Posted 01-9-2013 at 11:09 AM by Krista

My oldest who has an articulation issue was potty trained right before she turned three years old. I am trying to go through the process with my youngest, who turned two in August. I know she is ready—in fact, she was ready earlier than I was! I should have jumped on it when she was showing interest at fourteen months! Khalen is in Early Intervention’s speech program, and when I mentioned that I was trying to toilet train her the therapist told me that I shouldn’t worry about that, that because of her not talking potty training would probably be delayed. Didn’t I have that problem with her big sister, she asked?

Well, no. Not unless before three is considered delayed. Baring that in mind, I began to wonder if anyone else out there whose child was slow to speaking had issues potty training. If so, was there anything you were able to do to counteract it?

As for us, I really want this to work for us. My oldest liked rewards. She really enjoyed getting candy each time she was successful using the potty, and while my youngest certainly enjoys candy she doesn’t seem motivated enough by it. Our next step, I think, will be to get her very own portable kid potty chair. Hopefully she will find it exciting and look forward to using it. *Fingers crossed*