I don’t know about you, but being a stay at home mom can be quite lonely at times. Loneliness has been one of the main frustrations I have with staying at home, actually. At least when I worked I got adult interaction. I’m not sure if I can count my husband, J, in that category especially after he gets home from a nine hour shift! I know he does his best, but sometimes a mom just wants to be able to talk to other moms, right? No one understands us better.
All the frustrations, the challenges, the joy. How you can be so angry at your kid one moment, and fallen back in love with them the next. People without children would probably try to have us committed, but another mom gets it all. I have a wonderful best friend who has been with me for ten years now. I adore her, but we are at completely different places in our lives. She recently got engaged, whereas I have been married for eight years. I have two children, and she is not sure if she even wants them. While I know she adores my girls, when we hang out I know she’s wondering if I’ve lined up a sitter.
I am on a mom friend search right now. My daughter is going to begin school in the fall, and I’ve been told that’s when you really tend to get to know other mothers and make friends, but I’m hungering for that companionship now. As I’ve been mulling that over I am reminded that the only way to have friends is be a friend yourself. As simple as that sounds, how can I expect others to reach out to me if I don’t reach out first?