I am reading an amazing book right now, entitled Captivated, by Stasi Eldredge. In it, the author discusses how the world pushes women to think that they don’t live up to some imaginary standard where we are either not enough—not pretty enough, thin enough, successful enough. Or we’re told that we’re too much, too hard to handle. Does any of that sound familiar to you?
If so, you’re definitely not alone. I know that I feel insecure a lot, particularly about my parenting. Half the time, I feel like I don’t have a clue what I’m doing, and my oldest is four! Oh, sure, I know how to clean a cut and kiss a boo-boo. I know how to break up fights and find missing shoes. But the rest of it, the important stuff like making sure they’re happy and emotionally well adjusted…I just don’t know if I win in that department.
A friend recently told me that parenting is hard for everyone, regardless of their background. Even those that grow up in good, stable homes, she said. It is reassuring to hear that I am not the only one who struggles with seemingly simple decisions. As each of you knows, not only is parenting such a challenging journey, it is also one where other people judge the decisions that you make.
So, if you are right there with me, questioning your parenting abilities, despairing when it gets tough and wondering if you are doing the right things…then at least you know one other person out there, struggling to do what it is best. Unfortunately, we won’t ever know for sure how we’ve done until our children are grown, but at least while they are at home it is never too late to keep trying and improving!