Cding: The Quest for the Perfect Solutions

Posted 06-19-2015 at 10:22 AM by Agla

I came across the word “skincaretainment”  used to describe the enjoyment that skin care enthusiasts take in finding, testing and sharing information about skin care products.  I found the term amusing not only because the word fit exactly the concept of what draws people to skin care forums but because I felt that the concept had so much in common with our cloth diapering world.  We already have created the word “Cding,”  which is not only an abbreviation for cloth diapering, but is also a term that covers the experience, enjoyment and sometimes frustration of finding products that fulfill our specific cloth diapering needs.  While skin care enthusiasts look for the perfect facial wash or nighttime cream, cders look for the following perfect solutions:

The Night Time Solution-  This would be the perfect combination of diaper, soaker/insert and cover that allows baby to wake up in dry clothes and bedding.

The True AIO-  This would be the all-in-one diaper that would ideally take your child from the newborn stage all the way to potty training.

The Perfect Wash Routine- The perfect ratio of water: detergent accompanied by the most efficient number of rinses.

The Best Fitted- The fitted diaper with the most absorbency and the best fit.  This diaper would contain most blowouts but would not so bulky that it would be distracting.

The Best Cover- The cover that would be the most pleasing to the eye that lasts through repeated washings without losing efficacy.  It would also have the most effective closure system and the best fit so that they are comfortable to wear while still keeping everything in.

A parent may find the perfect solution only to have to start the quest again when the solution doesn’t work for the next child.  Still we continue our research and eager trips to the mailbox because for many of us cloth diapers are more than functional, they are also an entertaining hobby.

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Winter ABC Game

Posted 05-7-2015 at 06:09 PM by Ellen

Learning the letters of the alphabet is an important skill for young children. Rather than drilling them with flash cards or having them learn their ABCs by rote, make learning the alphabet fun while teaching social skills like learning how to take turns. This ABC game incorporates learning about forest animals and a craft with letter recognition, so it will help keep your child interested. If you keep the activities fun, your child will continue to learn ABCs and other skills with greater enthusiasm.

This ABC game refers to a bear that lives in a cave. To introduce the activity to your children, you may want to start by reading a book about bears and their natural habitat. One example is, “We’re Going on a Bear Hunt,” by Michael Rosen. Your local public library will have other titles available. Read the book a few times so that you and your children are familiar with the story and that bears like to eat fish. (This will be important later on in the ABC game.)

Make a cave craft

Materials Needed:
• Small boxes (about the size of tea boxes)
• Brown construction paper
• Glue
• Plastic bear figure (Gummy bears are an option)

Instead of having the kids cut strips of brown construction paper to cover the boxes to make a bear cave, give them some practice for their fine motor skills by having them tear strips of the paper instead. Once they have enough paper to cover their boxes, they can glue them on.

It’s not necessary for the cave to look wrapped up neatly like a Christmas gift. It’s a cave, after all, and there are no perfect corners in nature. If you have a child who is a perfectionist, reassure him or her that the idea is to cover the box with the strips, but not to make it look “too” neat.

Once the bear cave has been completed, you can use it for the Winter ABC Game.

Winter ABC Game

Materials Needed:
• Blue construction paper
• ABC fish (magnetic letters) – you can also draw letters on paper or cut them out of magazines for the game

This game is for two players. Each child takes a turn being the bear. At everyone’s turn, the bear growls as loud as he or she can and says, “I’m hungry for a J (or any letter that is displayed on the table) fish”. The other player finds it and gives it to the bear, which is then placed in his or her cave.

• Next, the second player has a turn and gets to be the bear. He or she has the chance to growl and ask for a letter that is in the “water”. Players may need encouragement to wait patiently while the other person looks for the letter that has been requested and not to “help” or interrupt.

• This activity can be varied by using numbers instead of letters. Small figures of animals or people could be used to teach vocabulary about wild animals, farm animals or different professions. You can also use colored stones, pompoms or other small items to mix up the game and make it more challenging for your children. Write some simple words on cards to practice sight recognition once your children are old enough to learn to read.

• This ABC game is simple, yet can be used in a number of ways, using most any animal. Young children will likely have a lot of fun being the bear and being able to “roar” when it’s their turn – something normally not encouraged to do at home.

You can even expand the game to talk about what types of animals the bear would and wouldn’t be likely to see when he emerges from his cave in the spring. This simple game can be the foundation for a lot of learning for your children, starting with their ABCs.

Snow Salt Tray Sensory Play

Posted 05-7-2015 at 06:06 PM by Ellen

Are you looking for a way that your children can play in snow without the hassle of getting them dressed in snowsuits, boots, hats and mittens? It’s easy – just make your own snow salt tray for sensory play. This activity can be used in a number of ways to keep it interesting and it’s something that your children will find soothing.

Why sensory play is important to children
Sensory play is not simply about touching items. Through these types of activities, children learn how to examine objects, categorize them and ultimately make sense of the world around them. This is where they learn about different textures, scents and tastes.

Your child will no doubt spend some of his or her time developing gross motor skills by walking, running and jumping, but developing fine motor skills is also important. These skills allow us to perform activities like writing, doing up buttons and laces, using a keyboard and other skills.

Sensory play helps children develop these skills by allowing them to practice their fine motor skills. Through their play, they are opening and closing their hand to pick up objects, pinching things between a thumb and forefinger, pouring, manipulating sand or “snow” in this case by allowing it to run through their fingers. All of these motions are controlled, which takes practice if a child wants to be able to move an object or the snow where he or she wants it to go.

Kids are completely focused on what they want to do during the activity, rather than the actual skills involved in making their hands perform it. If they need more time or they have to repeat something to get the results they want, there is no particular pressure on them. They just try again. These activities allow them to keep on practicing these important skills without realizing they may need to work on them. Learning while having fun is one of the best ways to develop any skill.

Making a snow salt tray
Materials Needed:
• Epsom or table salt
• Small animal and bird figures, cars and trucks, buildings, people, shapes, trees, etc.
• Colored blue glass gems or marbles/construction paper (to make water)
• Scissors or markers/pencil crayons
• Container at least two inches deep

You’ll need a container so that the “snow” doesn’t make a mess in your home. Anything that you have on hand can be used – a mixing bowls, flat cereal bowls, a deep platter or baking dish, a divided serving tray, etc. Simply pour about an inch of salt into the bottom of the container – indoor snow!

If you want to add a water feature with your snow, use colored blue glass gems or marbles and place them in a separate container or section of your container. You could also have your children color or cut up a piece of blue construction paper to represent water.

Playing with a snow salt tray
There are many ways children can play with the snow salt tray, so let your little one get busy!

• They can tell a story or create an adventure by making hills and valleys out of the salt. The animals and birds might enjoy walking or jumping in the snow or taking a dip in the “water”.

• During play, your child is touching the Epsom salt, feeling what it’s like to have it run through his or her fingers. These textures are important and many children enjoy this type of activity.

• You can also use the snow salt in a different way by hiding some small objects in a large bowl of salt and inviting your child to find them using their hands in a type of snowy treasure hunt. Can they identify a shape or a small toy only by touch? Try it and have some fun with it.

• With the variety of figures and objects that can be incorporated into the “snow”, this activity can be changed in a number of ways. If you are reading books about snow or life in the Arctic or Antarctic, you may want to incorporate similar figures to the snow salt tray to bring the book characters to life. Your child will find it easier to relate to the idea of animals and people who live closer to the North and South Poles by connecting such stories to creative play.

My First Pet: Choosing the Right First Pet for your Child

Posted 05-7-2015 at 06:04 PM by Ellen

At some point, most children ask to have a pet of their own. Before you make a decision, you’ll have to decide whether the pet is going to be a family pet (where everyone will be involved in caring for it), or if caring for the animal will be mainly your child’s responsibility.

If the idea is for your child to have a pet of his or her own, keep in mind that young children are probably not mature enough to take on the responsibility of caring for a dog or a cat independently. You are probably better off starting with a smaller animal first.

What to consider in choosing a pet
Your child may say that he or she wants to adopt a certain type of animal without thinking about either the responsibilities involved or whether it’s a good fit for your household. The best approach to take when looking at bringing a pet into your home is to look at your lifestyle and figure out what type of pet would most easily fit into it.

Since you know your child best, you’ll also want to take his or her personality into consideration. Some pets require more care and attention than others and you’ll want to make sure that you choose one that your child will be able to get along with.

Here are some questions to ask yourself to help you get an idea of what type of pet would be best for your child:

• How much time per day/per week does your child realistically have to spend taking care of a pet?
• Will your child be able to follow a feeding/watering schedule for a pet? Would you need to remind him or her about it or step in to look after it?
• Will your child be able to clean out a cage, a fish bowl or an aquarium (with some assistance) regularly?
• Where will the pet be housed in your home?
• Will your child expect to handle his or her pet? How will your child get instruction about proper handling of his or her pet, if appropriate? Will you be available to supervise interaction between your child and the new pet?
• How much are you prepared to spend on a new pet per month or per year on food, accommodation, toys, veterinary expenses, etc.?
• Does your child have any allergies or sensitivities that need to be accommodated when choosing a pet?

First pet options
Small animals are considered good first pets for children and there are several options available. Here are some examples:

Guinea Pigs
Guinea pigs are rather timid and easy to handle. These animals are happiest living in pairs. They very rarely bite, which makes them a good choice for young children. Because Guinea pigs are quite active, they do need a reasonable amount of space and they require fresh fruits and vegetables, with a Vitamin C supplement to be part of their diet.

Hamsters come in a variety of sizes and actually prefer living the single life. You can place them in a smaller cage than a Guinea pig and they will be quite content. Keep in mind that hamsters are nocturnal and – unfortunately – have very short life spans compared to other pets (about 3 years). If you decide on a hamster, prepare yourself for an inevitable discussion about life and death with your child in the not-too-distant future.

Leopard Geckos
These colorful geckos make excellent first pets for older children, as they’re very docile and easy to care for. Choose an older gecko, if possible – they’re far more tolerant of being handled than a younger one. If you haven’t had the life and death discussion with your child, do it before choosing a gecko, as they eat live crickets and worms. Also, If your child is looking for a pet he or she can cuddle or roughhouse with, this is not the way to go.

Smaller birds – such as parakeets – make good pets. They’re intelligent, attractive and social enough to learn how to vocalize when in regular contact with your child. They do require daily care and attention and cannot tolerate rough handling, so you’ll have to decide whether your child would suit this type of delicate pet.

Fish are also good choices for first pets. They can be relatively inexpensive and small tanks don’t require a lot of space. While the relationship between owner and pet is decidedly one-sided, a fish or two will give your child an idea of what caring for another living creature is like.

Managing Dog/Child Interactions for Success

Posted 05-7-2015 at 06:03 PM by Ellen

People often think young children and pets — especially dogs — don’t mix. This is not necessarily true, but for the pairing to be harmonious, parents have to teach their children how to handle and treat the family dog with respect.

For the most part, how a child treats an animal is similar to the “do unto others” rule our mothers taught us as children. The fact that the “others” happens to have four legs and a tail shouldn’t matter in the least – they still deserve our respect. Below are some tips as to how you can establish and maintain harmony between your kids and your pets.

Choosing your dog
Finding a kid-friendly dog breed is the first step in establishing harmonious pet ownership, as some dogs are more patient and enjoy roughhousing more than others. If you plan to have kids and dogs in the same home, it is best to choose a dog that is more apt to handle inadvertent ear and tail tugs, as well as being treated occasionally as a fashion model.

Breeds such as Golden Retrievers, Newfoundlands, Greyhounds and larger terriers are historically patient and good-natured, especially with children. If you get a younger dog, teach your child that a puppy is a baby dog and that the puppy needs to be treated gently.

For older dogs, it is a good idea to learn as much about their history as possible before bringing the dog home. Plan a play date at the shelter or foster home so your child and the dog can get to know each other in a neutral environment.

Training your human
Once you bring your new family member home, it’s time to lay down the law on behavior.

• Never allow your child to mistreat or purposely antagonize the dog. Even the most laid-back dog will only deal with constant tail tugs and ear pulls for so long. Children should learn at a young age that these things are not nice and are painful for the dog. This prevents kids from developing bad habits that could cause serious consequences. While Fido might not seem to care about his tail being pulled, someone else’s dog might not like it and could show his displeasure in a very negative manner.

• Teach your kids about a dog’s body language. Most people know when a dog is happy and when he’s angry, but many don’t recognize other emotions such as fear. Fear is what leads a dog to bite or attack, so knowing what a scared dog looks like can help prevent an unfortunate encounter. Also, knowing what might cause fear in a dog can help improve kid and dog relations. You and your children should learn why a dogs pins his ears back, tucks her tail between her legs or whines. All of these types of body language are clues as to how the dog is feeling.

• Don’t encourage bad behavior in your younger kids. Yes, it is cute when your toddler wants to ride the doggie, but it is still a bad idea. Smiling, laughing and taking pictures for your social media page just reinforces to your child that this kind of behavior is acceptable.

• As hard as it might be, you have to stifle your natural urge to laugh and explain why doggie should not be ridden. Older kids should know better – but if they don’t, admonish them accordingly for participating in such behavior. It will decrease the chance of something bad happening later.

Teaching your kids that dogs are beings that deserve respect and gentle treatment helps keep harmony in your home. Your pet should get some training too. A good obedience class will help your dog learn how to handle stressful situations.

If you have older children, have them accompany you and the dog to obedience classes. The dog learns how to behave, your kid knows what is acceptable and what is not; it’s a win-win situation that helps create a happy kid and pet-friendly home.

Five Ways to Calm your Child Before Bed

Posted 05-7-2015 at 05:49 PM by Ellen

Do you find it challenging to get your child settled down to get to bed at night? Kids of all ages often find it difficult to “switch off” at the end of the day. Their days are so full that they need time to be able to wind down or they won’t be able to settle down and get the rest that they need.

Parents attempting to put a child to bed who simply is not ready to settle down will usually run up against a brick wall of non-cooperation. Your son or daughter will resist staying in his or her room and bedtime will eventually turn into a battleground.

Setting up a routine of calming activities before bedtime will help your child learn different strategies to settle down for the night. Here are a few ideas to help you end that inevitable and stressful battle of wills.


Children of toddler age and up can work on an age-appropriate puzzle before bed. Sitting down and thinking about where each piece should be placed forces them to slow down their movements and focus their attention on a quiet activity.

In the case of a younger child, a simple wooden puzzle is a good choice. Older kids can work on a more complicated puzzle that they may not be able to finish in an evening, giving them a feeling of anticipation for “puzzle time” every evening until it’s completed.

Audio books

Toddlers and kindergarten-aged children always enjoy listening to stories – it’s another way to help focus their minds in one direction – and this activity they can do with a minimum of help. Your local library will usually stock a variety of age-appropriate CDs that can be borrowed for a few days. This will keep the selection fresh and give your child something to look forward to at bedtime.

Do let your child have some say about choosing the titles you bring home; being part of the decision-making process will pique their interest in the stories before bedtime.

Quiet play with a favorite toy

Your child may just need a little extra time to settle down by playing with a special “bedtime” toy, such as a favorite stuffed animal, doll or car. Make sure the toy is something that can be played with quietly in order to avoid over stimulation.

Younger children love having a “cuddle buddy” in their bed or crib, but should not play with toys that sing or light up at bedtime. Your daughter may want to spend time with a favorite doll you can settle in next to her with her own “bedtime” blanket. If your little boy loves cars and trucks, help him make a special “road” mat out of cardboard that is to be used only before bed.


Reading is a great way to get kids of all ages settled down for the night. Even toddlers can learn to lull themselves to sleep by thumbing through a few of their favorite picture books. The act of focusing on the book helps calm even the busiest little mind.

Older children who are reading independently can have a special shelf where they keep books that are reserved for their quiet time before bed. Help your child choose books that hold an interest for them – whether it’s a popular series or books by a particular author. The important thing is to encourage an interest in reading at a young age and the time before bed is the perfect time to do so.

Keeping a journal

School-aged children can unwind by writing about their day in a journal. Unlike schoolwork, their journal should have no format, no formula and no restrictions. Allow them to “unload” their day into it every night – no matter if it includes drawings, writing or colorful stickers. Whatever is in there makes sense to your child. Be sure to have a number of pens, colored markers and notebooks on hand for your child to jot down whatever comes to mind.

Making the transition from the activities of the day to going to bed isn’t always easy for children. Allowing them some “quiet time” every night before bed will help them relax enough so getting settled down for the night will be a much easier process – especially if the routine is established when they’re very young. You’ll end up with a less stressful bedtime, which will only benefit the entire family.

Looking Back At My Parenting Style Before Children

Posted 05-4-2015 at 09:09 AM by Matrivine


Do you know who can be the most critical of parenting? People who don’t have children. I’m sorry to say that I was no different. I would look at parents struggling with their children in private and public places. I would analyze their parenting style. And then I would wander off to future land where I would deal with my children in a more productive, less damaging and much more selfless way.

Yeah… I miss thinking I was going to revolutionize the art of parenting.  Now I’m a real parent to real children and much to my surprise I remember all those moments of judgement. While ashamed of my judgmental point of view, I’m glad I was paying attention. I needed some of the lessons these parents taught me.

The Good That Comes Of The Mommy Wars

Posted 04-30-2015 at 12:47 PM by Matrivine


I know. What good can come of war? What could all this social chaos and finger pointing lead to that would be beneficial? Well, the mommy wars may be a war of ideas, but it’s a war none the less, and war has a dark secret with a glimmer of hope. War is a catalyst for advancement and social change.

Technological Advancement

Like any war the mommy wars have resulted in technological advancement. Don’t believe me? We have baby monitors that have video as well as sound. We have five point buckling security in our car seats. We have created a safer crib, a safer bouncer, and ways to protect our children around the home.

Would any of this happened without the mommy wars? Perhaps, but the progress would have been slower. The pressure to have such items would not have been as severe. In reality our desire to be better parents have resulted in technological advancements by companies trying to cater to the grow “protect my child child” industry.

Goodbye Good Cop, Bad Cop Parenting

Posted 04-7-2015 at 12:47 PM by Matrivine

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Why Do I Always Have To Be The Bad Guy?

Imagine that you come home from work and have missed your family all day. Then the first thing you have to do when you get home is go up to junior’s room and straighten him out. It’s not fun for you and it teaches your child to lack respect for the babysitter or stay at home parent. It also associates your homecoming with a negative effect for your child. What can you do about it?

Discuss Discipline With Your Partner

The first thing you need to do is discuss what type of rules need to be instated with your spouse or babysitter. Discuss what type of discipline is appropriate in each situation and, in the case of the babysitter, when a parent should be handling discipline.

Bonding With a Difficult Baby

Posted 04-2-2015 at 12:39 PM by Matrivine

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As excited as you are about the new addition to your family, you dread the wailing at night that comes with your bundle of joy. You find yourself wondering why you thought you could be a parent and worrying that you aren’t giving your little one the best mommy they could have. Sometimes you are even worried that you may not like your baby. As soon as you let yourself think that you feel guilty.

To the new mom out there that feels this way, you need to know that you are not alone. Your sleep is being constantly disrupted and your body healing and possibly even chasing after your new baby’s older siblings. Anyone would feel ill equipped to bond positively with a crying baby, but it can be done.

Time Out

Not for your little one. Take a time out for you. Almost every book or blog I have read on being a new parent says it’s okay to put the baby down in a safe place (like a carrier or a crib) and take a moment to breathe. Those five or ten minutes can help you clear your mind of the negative feelings and give your nerves time to un-knot.