Clueless Parent Here!

Posted 05-15-2013 at 09:47 AM by Krista

Being a parent is so, so hard. You know, today I had several moments where I wondered what I ever was thinking when I decided to reproduce. You know those Facebook statuses about people needing to pass a test before being allowed to become parents? Today I wondered what my score might have been.

I know these last few sentences sound like I am throwing myself a pity party, and trust me, at some point I’ll get over it. I’m not looking for attention, I swear. I’m just feeling very overwhelmed, and when wondering who to share it with I thought, who better than other mothers?

Today at my daughter’s speech appointment the director came out to speak with me—uh oh!—about my daughter’s progress. She first asked me how she was doing since beginning therapy. I absolutely raved about how much better she was doing, how much better she was able to communicate and how it had given us a better relationship. She seemed simply conversational…

Until she dropped the bomb she’d come to deliver. She said that my daughter was far behind her peers. She needed to be able to write her name—seriously? She just turned four. I had no clue. She needed to be able to organize things into a pattern…be able to use a computer mouse…some of you are probably laughing at me right now, but I honestly had no idea. She told me she will be expected to read by kindergarten! What?

I feel so out of the loop. I feel like the worst parent ever. How could I not know these things? And now I feel like I’ve disadvantaged my girls because we can’t afford preschool, and because I’ve apparently been living under a rock. What do parents who can’t afford preschool do?

At this point it feels like my options are taking out a loan to pay for preschool—good Lord! And I was worried about college!!—or quit school so I can get a job. Neither one will make me happy, but we do what we have to for our kids. The “simple” solution is for me to teach her, but how good can I do when I thought that matching games, coloring inside the lines, and knowing her numbers and colors was good?

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2 Responses to “Clueless Parent Here!”

  1. Kausha on May 26th, 2013 6:58 pm


    dont feel bad about not knowing. They expected so much more out of kids these days it is nuts. I dont think we learned how to write our name till kindergarten. Hang in there it will be okay. I’m sure you can come up with some time to teach her the things she will need to know before she goes to school. Kids are smart and learn faster than you know it. =)

  2. Kimani on June 1st, 2013 3:09 pm


    I would suggest a second opinion… or to just believe in yourself and your daughter. She does not sound behind to me, and you are doing everything you can. I think it’ll all sort itself out :-). Even if she’s a little behind some of her peers, she’ll catch up! Reading by kindergarten? The lady must be kidding! I’ve known only one child who read by then…. I sure didn’t!

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