My son Alex is a very rough and tumble boy and he is going through the stage that anything for girls is gross. He has two favorite colors, he loves purple and blue. He came home after Sunday school one day and told me he had to pick a new favorite color. I was a little confused about this statement so I asked him why, he told me a little boy in his class told him he could not like purple because purple was just for girls. He was upset because he really liked purple but if it was just for girls then he did want it to be his favorite anymore. Of course I told him he could like any color he wanted but he was still upset because the other kid made fun of him for liking a girl color.
So, that night I showed him a lot of other boys I know like the color purple, that there is nothing wrong with boys liking purple and that some boys even like pink a lot. After showing him pictures of a friend of mine that he likes a lot wearing a pink polo he decided it was okay after all to like purple still. He got down off my lap and told me he was happy that colors are for everyone, he did not want to have to stop liking purple. I told him if the boy ever told him that again he was just to tell him that colors are for everyone and that boys and girls can like whatever colors they want.
I am trying my best not to fall into the color trap when it comes to my kids. I know when I was a little girl I hated pink, my favorite colors were red and brown. I wanted nothing to do with pink and I did not like it when people bought me pink clothes. My oldest daughter on the other hand loves pink, she would wear nothing but pink all the time if I let her. When she was a baby, I did not buy only pink for her, she had clothing that was all colors of the rainbow, she came to love the color all on her own and I wanted it to be that way. I do not want to put a gender on a color, I think colors are for everyone and kids should be able to like whatever color they want.