I think most of us would agree that communication is the key to a successful relationship. I don’t think I ever realized how hard it could be before getting married. It’s strange, because once upon a time J and I communicated fine. Better than fine, actually. That’s part of the reason we fell in love. I could hear him out and offer kind, well intentioned advice. Now…
Well, you know how some conversations go. Everything comes out wrong. One of the advantages of marrying young is that you literally get to grow up with your spouse. One of the setbacks is that you change so much through the years, and we definitely have. With it our communication styles have changed, and as a result we often talk and talk but no one hears.
It’s almost comical, sometimes we will talk about a subject twice, and then we think we have reached an understanding. Then one of us will go and do the exact opposite of what our partner thought we’d agreed on. Ever hear the expression sometimes you have to laugh to keep from crying? That pretty much covers how I feel about it.
It got me to wondering though…a lot of times I feel like, hey, we’ve been married eight years. We should have this thing down by now, right? So I was wondering if anyone else has this problem? Any advice or tips would be greatly appreciated!