What is a normal mother/daughter relationship? I have been thinking on this quite a bit lately. As some of you know, I have been having family issues that have been causing me to revisit troubled parts of my past in hopes of making a different future for my girls. My mother was told that she would never have children. She and my father tried every infertility cure they could find, and in the end they did end up having two girls. I was the firstborn.
My mother and I have rarely gotten along. There are few good memories about her and me while I was growing up. While we have come to a better relationship since I moved out and had children of my own, there is still a lack of closeness between us. She and my sister, on the other hand, are like sisters themselves. My sister calls my mom her best friend. They have matching tattoos, they are planning on being baptized together and my mom is even coming to my sister’s bachelorette party next month (please note: we will be going to a strip club!).
My husband, J, says that this type of relationship is “weird” and abnormal to the “normal” mother/daughter relationship. Of course, I have no idea what is normal in this case, so I was wondering if some of you mamas could help me out. Is this the type of relationship you have with your mother? Is this the type of relationship you’d like to have with your own daughter?