One thing I’ve noticed in the time that I’ve been here on DS is that the risk of drama can be huge when you post on a thread. Seriously, at times we have our own online version of Jerry Springer here! Wow. I try to be very careful how I phrase things, but nine times out of ten, someone gets offended. I’ve even had people get offended by my blog posts, one that I honestly thought would make people laugh.
We’re all (mostly) women here (please don’t be offended dads! I beg you!) and we’re doing the best we can to raise our children, to love our families, to provide good (or at least edible) food while keeping house. Some of us work, some of us go to school. Some of us do both (guilty!).
What does it matter if I use disposables and you cloth diaper your little ones? I tried it, it didn’t work out. We each have to make the decision best for our families. Who cares if I give my child formula instead of breast milk? At least I’m feeding her (which I couldn’t when my breasts stopped producing milk without warning, by the way) and isn’t that the most important thing?
We need to have more respect for one another. We need to say, “Hey, I see you’re doing the best you can, good for you! Hang in there!” Instead, we nitpick, we criticize, and then we justify it by saying that we’re entitled to our own opinions.
Of course we are. However, should we really be using those opinions to judge people and bring them down? I don’t really expect much to change because of this post. Heck, I’ve been defending my decisions to all of you, even though I shouldn’t feel like I have to.
And secretly, maybe some of us enjoy the drama. After all, if nothing else it keeps you entertained for however long it takes to type out several angry responses and follow-ups. Chances are that you will never meet anyone on here, (and I swear if someone I know joins I am canceling my account immediately! OK, not really.) and the freedom can be intoxicating. You can say whatever you want and no one knows you. If that is the case, please man up to your drama! (Thanks goes out to Hillargh for that quote. I think it should be made into a bumper sticker.)
With that said, let’s stop the hate-eration, ladies!