I have a friend that is engaged to be married. Since she and her husband-to-be want to try to conceive as soon as possible, the wedding is very soon. As in, July of this year. The problem with this seems to be…well, everything! She can’t find a location that fits her budget—or, should I say she can’t find anything that she likes within her budget. Ditto for wedding dresses.
Now, eight years ago when my husband and I exchanged vows we opted for the courthouse, for those very same reasons. It was simple and definitely cheap. However, we had no type of celebration afterwards, no guests at the ceremony, no flowers, no pictures. I regretted it for years. Most girls I know grow up dreaming of how their wedding day will be, and most of us dream of something special. For one day, we should get to have everything we want. I believe that, but unfortunately bank accounts don’t always comply. If I could turn back the clock, I would still go to the courthouse—but I would invite our friends and family to see us married, and have a kick-butt party afterward!
Why? Because realistically, two almost-adults couldn’t afford a nice wedding, especially since we weren’t receiving any outside help. My friend is in a similar situation, minus the almost-adult bit.
Like I said, it bothered me for years that we didn’t have a traditional, beautiful wedding, but I am older and wiser now. And you know what I realized? That the wedding is only one day of your life. Yes, a very special day, but just one day. The thing you should be the most worried about is all the days to follow that you’ll spend with your husband. That’s what’s really important.
However, with that said, I don’t believe that people should get married without coming to terms with the type of wedding they can afford. I didn’t do that prior to saying “I do” and I was bitter for a long time. So, in that case, if you can’t afford some type of wedding ceremony, and that is going to be a problem for you to cope with, should you get married or wait? I want to hear your thoughts!