Exchanging ‘I Dos’ On a Budget

Posted 02-27-2013 at 03:10 PM by Krista

I have a friend that is engaged to be married. Since she and her husband-to-be want to try to conceive as soon as possible, the wedding is very soon. As in, July of this year. The problem with this seems to be…well, everything! She can’t find a location that fits her budget—or, should I say she can’t find anything that she likes within her budget. Ditto for wedding dresses.

Now, eight years ago when my husband and I exchanged vows we opted for the courthouse, for those very same reasons. It was simple and definitely cheap. However, we had no type of celebration afterwards, no guests at the ceremony, no flowers, no pictures. I regretted it for years. Most girls I know grow up dreaming of how their wedding day will be, and most of us dream of something special. For one day, we should get to have everything we want. I believe that, but unfortunately bank accounts don’t always comply. If I could turn back the clock, I would still go to the courthouse—but I would invite our friends and family to see us married, and have a kick-butt party afterward!

Why? Because realistically, two almost-adults couldn’t afford a nice wedding, especially since we weren’t receiving any outside help. My friend is in a similar situation, minus the almost-adult bit.

Like I said, it bothered me for years that we didn’t have a traditional, beautiful wedding, but I am older and wiser now. And you know what I realized? That the wedding is only one day of your life. Yes, a very special day, but just one day. The thing you should be the most worried about is all the days to follow that you’ll spend with your husband. That’s what’s really important.

However, with that said, I don’t believe that people should get married without coming to terms with the type of wedding they can afford. I didn’t do that prior to saying “I do” and I was bitter for a long time. So, in that case, if you can’t afford some type of wedding ceremony, and that is going to be a problem for you to cope with, should you get married or wait? I want to hear your thoughts!

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2 Responses to “Exchanging ‘I Dos’ On a Budget”

  1. Stacy418 on February 27th, 2013 5:25 pm

    I think if a big wedding is important to you, then you should definitely wait. But, if you will be ok with something small and simple, pool your resources and Make the most of what you can afford. My husband and I had a beautiful wedding on a budget; our dj and photographer were both close friends and my mom and I made all the flowers. A close friend of mine had an aunt that made chocolate turtles for our favors. It was inexpensive and simple, but people still talk about it to this day! It was so much fun, and more meaningful because our friends played such important parts!

  2. MamaNae on March 4th, 2013 7:49 am

    I say get married with the understanding of what your budget allows. Why put off your entire life so you can have a party? If your friend tweaks her dream just a little she can have a BEAUTIFUL wedding without all the trappings. Scour Ebay and Craigslist or thrift shops for wedding dresses…I’ve seen some beautiful ones at 2nd hand stores for next to nothing. Ask a friend who has a nice camera (and the ability to use it!) to take photos. Invite all your friends over for a trip to Hobby Lobby and then a “Flower & Center piece making party”. For the reception find a nice spot and then do it potluck/picnic style.

    When my husband and I married my aunt’s mom (who is a professional photographer) did the pictures for a steal, my in-laws couldn’t contribute financially but they gave us a HOG! We had a hog roast reception, so very yummy. It was a beautiful day, I have great memories…and it didn’t break the bank ;)

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