My three year daughter has developed a severe case of separation anxiety lately. We have no idea what caused it either. She used to love going to her Sunday school class but one Sunday about five weeks ago she decided she did not like it anymore. She started bawling when I took her in, clung to me and just said she needed me over and over again. So I let her come upstairs but that only lasted a little while before she was being loud so I ended up going down in the nursery and staying with her. The next week we tried again and she reacted the same way, this time I ended up staying with her in class, the first half of class she wanted nothing to do with the other kids, she sat on my lap with her face buried in my shoulder, eventually she started interacting a little and the last ten minuets she would would do stuff with out me right there.
I took some time with her teacher ( who is also the head of the Children’s Department at our church ) and asked her if she knew if anything had happened during class to make her afraid to go in but she could not think of anything. She did offer to let Kairi try to cry it out but I am not comfortable with that in the least. I do not do it as babies, I am not going to start as a toddler. I know her cry and she does not calm down after a couple minutes. She would scream until we came back, I won’t do that to her and I do not think it is fair to the other people in the class.
Church is not the only place she acts this way either. She is willing to stay with her Grandparents for a few hours some of time but she gets panicked if we are gone very long. She gets anxious if we go somewhere and one of us in not in her sights at all times.
It is a strange situation. She had separation issues when she was younger but it had been fine until just recently. She had been fine with staying with grandparents or my sister on the rare occasions that my husband and I actually go anywhere with out the kids. It is to the point now that I dread leaving because I know she will get upset.
I hope we can figure something out soon because I would like to be able to go to service and have her actually like being in class again. For now I think my husband and I are going to take turns staying with her and just hope this phase does not last very long.