Family Man or Work Oriented?

Posted 02-20-2013 at 01:19 PM by Krista

My husband has been working for the same company for over two years now, and he loves it. After college he began working for Enterprise Rent a Car. He loves it there, and has been promoted three times. He is now an assistant branch manager, and has applied for a small branch manager position that we will hear about next week. He has done well there, but with that said…

We were having a conversation the other day about how, typically, a man can either be work oriented or a family man. Rarely in the corporate world can he be both. At least, that’s how it seems to me. I always would have said that my husband was a family man, until beginning to work for Enterprise. Now, while it largely depends on who your boss is at the time, the company on the whole frowns on leaving early or taking days off for family business. In my opinion that means they discourage family men. Maybe it’s the same everywhere for men, I don’t know.

My husband disagreed with me that working there had made his less family oriented. Then, the very day after our conversation he had to take off work to go with our daughters to the doctor because I had an appointment myself that I could not reschedule. He was gone from work for approximately an hour. His boss told him that he had been taking off a “lot” lately. What, exactly, qualifies as a lot? Well, last week he took me to an appointment he really was concerned about…on his lunch hour! And last month he took a personal day because we were having foundation problems. That’s “a lot.”

Maybe it’s just me, but I really find it sad that men today have to choose work or family and put one over the other just so they can advance within the company. For me, I would choose family every time but I don’t think my husband sees it so black and white. Am I the only one who has this problem?

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One Response to “Family Man or Work Oriented?”

  1. itsybitsynecessities on February 21st, 2013 10:33 am

    My husbands work is the complete opposite. They are always telling him family comes first. Back in November I had gotten the flu in the middle of the night, my mom was away and it was too early in the morning to call my grandma to come help with our baby. He called his work and told them he would be late as he had to wait to see if he could find someone to come watch out son ( he works at 6am so he called at 530am). They said not a problem at all and to stay home if he needed to.
    They have been very accomidating for other appointments as well and are even promoting him to forman!

    Good luck with your husbands work!

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