Get in the Mood

Posted 02-20-2013 at 01:24 PM by Krista

You know what my husband hates about making babies? Timed sex. I really think he cringes a bit when I tell him, breathless with excitement (or high pitched with anxiety, as the months go on without a positive pregnancy test) that tonight is the night. He says that it takes all the romance out of it.

Now, see, there is a complaint I never thought my husband would have. He has even been known to say to me before, in these sessions, “I feel like all you want me for is my body!” Since when is that an issue?!

Of course, the last time we had to “try” to get pregnant was with our first child, back in 2008. Since then, we didn’t seem to have any problem, and two pregnancies are the proof of that statement. Now, though… we are back to our old tricks of timed intercourse, first on the day of ovulation and then every other day.

Now, I am not going to lie, back in 2008 I was a completely different person. Shocker, huh? And I was, shall we say, less interested in sex. Certainly less interested than my husband. Now though….

Anyway, these days it seems like more often than not my husband doesn’t happen to be in the mood when the stars align and I ovulate. So, I have invented a few techniques to get him there. I talk dirty, for example. Some sentences like, “Come on, give me thirty minutes now…and I will…do the dishes.” Or, “I know you’re tired…but I will let you play video games tomorrow night.” Or, his favorite, “I will play with you…and let…you win.”

Pretty romantic stuff there, huh? I hope I made you guys laugh, and maybe you can share your own techniques with me!

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5 Responses to “Get in the Mood”

  1. Pixi6s on February 20th, 2013 1:54 pm


    I find ways to wear something on the sexy side after our son goes to bed. We aren’t talking Victoria secret but I know little things (some as simple as wearing an old one of his buttons down shirts with few buttons done) that he likes.

  2. Havah on February 20th, 2013 3:11 pm


    LOL – DH doesn’t have that problem. More the inverse (since we’re NFP, every evening he looks at me with puppy dog eyes, “do I have to be good tonight?”). But like Pixi6s, I’ve found ways to communicate to him when we’re “ON” in ways that he appreciates. ;)

  3. Blessed2005 on February 20th, 2013 6:56 pm


    I was under the impression that after you ovulate(temp rise) you have missed it for that month. It was my understanding that you go every other day once you see mucus until the temp rise…..

    Not trying to butt-in, but thought I might should say something jic. Good luck ttc! :)

  4. Earthy Momma on February 20th, 2013 11:29 pm


    although u are ttc, and hubby isnt cooperating for you..i wish hed rub off on mine a little…i ALWAYS want DH to leave me the eeeef ALONE! lol i joke around n say i wish he had a woman or hooker on the side…but sometimes im not joking, HA! lol

  5. lemon.extract on February 26th, 2013 6:01 pm


    I can see where your husband is coming from, I hate planned sex, I “dread” it all day long.

    I like it spontaneous; babies will come when they are supposed to.

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