Often when I was growing up I would hear my dad say that he wanted better for his kids than he had growing up. My dad was the oldest of five children, and the household of seven lived off my grandfather’s $75 a month pay from the Army. They lived very hand-to-mouth, and as a result, my father only wanted one child. He and my mother had two. He wanted to be able to provide a better life for my sister and I than he had had growing up, and for him, that meant financial security.
I guess it’s different for us all. Yes, as a result of living under my Daddy’s penny pinching ways, I too worry about money. However, more than that I want to create a loving, nurturing home. I have already taken a step toward that by staying home to raise my girls. Unfortunately, my mom and dad both had to work when I was growing up. I want to focus on family meal times, and making our home a sanctuary where everyone can leave their problems at the door and feel secure within.
My husband wants my girls to be able to have anything their little hearts desire. (Yes, he’s an only child, so that’s how he grew up. Yes, he’s out to make me the bad guy!) He also strives to have a close relationship with each of our children.
It’s funny how giving our children “better” than what we had means something different for each of us. It motivates us to work harder, whether that be in the workplace or building better relationships with our children than we had with our own parents. They say that it’s a good thing to aspire to give your children more than you had. It keeps us evolving, it keeps us moving toward a bigger, better picture.
With that said, what do you strive to give your children that you didn’t have? What traditions do you try to carry over from your own family?