I saw a post going around facebook a while back about marriage. It was a picture of a married couple kissing and the kids were in the background covering their eyes and making a face. The caption said, “Be a great parent and gross out your kids.” I snickered, showed my husband and he laughed also. Then it started a conversation about how he never saw his parents act like that and really wish he would have.
Chris and I are very affectionate with each other and it does not matter who is around. My kids usually do not say anything about it since they are pretty used to it. There are times that our oldest will scrunch up his face or say EWWW. We will continue to be affectionate in front of the kids. We want them to look at our marriage and want that for themselves when they are older.
Growing up was the same for me. My parents were always very loving with each other. I knew when I was older I wanted a relationship like theirs. They showed us what a good marriage was.
Chris never saw his parents be affectionate with each other growing up. They slept in different rooms since he was a small child, he could count on one hand how many times he saw them kiss or hold hands. When he and I first became friends ( he was 18 and I was 14 ) it was a little shocking for him to see my parents together. He was not used to seeing people my parents age snuggling on the couch, holding hands while out and about and kissing. He never saw his parents act like that and the most his friend’s parents ever did was sneak a kiss once and awhile. He said he would never forget the day that he saw my Dad walk past my Mom and slap her on the butt. He thought my parents were a little strange and it made him uncomfortable. As time went one and he and I got closer he realized that my parents relationship was how a marriage should be and he grew to really like them. He told me shortly before we got engaged that he hoped our relationship would always be like that.
Chris and I have been married for almost eight years now and we have people tell us we still act like newlyweds. I take that as a compliment. I hope we continue to act like newlyweds for the rest of our lives. We will always gross out our kids and hope that one day they will be grossing out their own children.