I am a very hands on type of mom. If my kids need help learning something at a park, I am right there to help them learn. I get involved in their art projects, play games and do a lot of other things to spend quality time with my kids. I am sure that some people would call me a helicopter mom but I am perfectly okay with that. I like being involved with the kids activities when we are out. We play tag together, swing with them and play with them. If they want to try something new but do not have the confidence to do it alone, I help them. I know a lot of people are hands off and want their kids to figure things out on their own when it comes to the park. This is just not how I parent.
When Alex wanted to go down the fire mans pole but was afraid, I helped him. At first he wanted my hands on him, not long after that he just wanted me to stand there in case he needed me and now he is going down it with ease. Having Mom close by gave him the confidence he needed to be able to go down on his own. He loves doing it now and does it several times while we are at the park. He always has a huge smile on his face and wants me to watch him.
Destiny has been wanting to learn the monkey bars. She is just a little bit to short to reach the bars on her own so I help her across. I hold her up and she pulls herself across. I am thinking once she grows the couple inches and is able to reach the bars, she will be swinging across them all on her own. She also had a fear of climbing high on the jungle gym. She wouldn’t even make it half way before she would get scared and want help. It took some coaching and having me right there with a hand on her before she made it over the top and down the other side.
Kairi and Amelia both love to sit on my lap on the swings. Kairi is old enough to sit on the big girl swing by herself now and she does most of the time. She does still like to hop on my lap and have a ride. Amelia loves swinging with me, she will hold my hand and walk me over to the swings.
Amelia also loves to slide. She has been going down the small slides on her own for a long time now but has been afraid of the bigger slides. I was able to reach her hand from the ground and if I held her hand she was willing to try the big slides. It was not long after before she was going down the even bigger winding slides all on her own.
I know some people would say that I should just let the kids figure these things out on their own but being hands on works for us. The kids want me to help them, if they want to do it on their own, then I let them. If they need my help, I am there to do it.