Hard Decisions

Posted 05-25-2012 at 06:43 AM by Krista

A few weeks ago an opportunity got mentioned to my husband, a chance to advance in the company that he works for. He applied for the job on Friday and got called for an interview after the weekend, on Tuesday. He said that it was the hardest interview of his life. We’re told that the job is very hard, stressful, and has a high turn over rate. While it should be a significant raise (emphasis on should. We won’t know until he is offered the job) it does mean a commute of an hour and a half one way. It could mean that he will have extensive travel.

I feel like we’re at a crossroads in our life right now, and we’re unsure of which path to take. His taking this job could mean an end to our plans for a third child, at least until we’re able to move. It could mean moving myself and my daughters into my in-laws home while we try to sell our house. It could mean months of being (practically) a single mother.

My husband asks if these things are OK, can I handle it? The only question I have in response is: is it worth it? It is so hard to tell. Every family must make sacrifices at one time or another for the betterment of the family, and I’d be willing to do that, and gladly, if I were certain that it was for the best. We’re going to keep gathering information and hoping for the best, and in the meantime maybe we’ll be able to make an informed decision about what’s best for our family.

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6 Responses to “Hard Decisions”

  1. mibarra on May 25th, 2012 10:12 am


    Such a tough decision!! I don’t know what I would do….

  2. SammieZ on May 25th, 2012 12:24 pm


    We just went through this! Hubby was in a position that had awful hours and was one hour from home. Had to work weekends, holidays, etc. Then he was offered a job that was Mon-Fri, small raise, but he would be travelling every single day, sometimes 2 hours from home. Because it was a set schedule and a small raise he jumped on it. I think if it benefits the family more than just money, it is a good decision. After all, we always seem to find ways of spending that extra income, right?? But having more family time is something we’ll never regret! Good luck – I know writing down the pros/cons (and prayer!) helped us immensely!

  3. mumtothem on May 25th, 2012 3:20 pm


    I could of written this just a few short months ago.My husband was offered this amazing job that had so many opportunities and a huge pay raise.After a lot of discussion we decided for him to leave his stable, finacially secure job and take this new job.3 months later and that was a horrible decision.We are paying double for health insurance, he works morning to night and the pay is significantly less than his previous job.
    It was such a hard decision and we thought it was bettering our life but it has done just the opposite.
    I hope your decision is easier for you and the outcome worth it!

  4. Krista on May 26th, 2012 10:38 pm


    Wow that is so great for you! Thanks so much for sharing!

  5. adiaraymom on May 27th, 2012 9:54 am


    I understand your situation, mama. I can’t say that our situation before was exactly the same as yours but I will let you know anyway:

    When we moved due to job relocation, we have two houses that we are paying in the peak of recession. One house we are trying to sell, and the house we are renting. We basically live paycheck to paycheck until I was accepted on TWO job (one full-time and one part time). The Full-time one is an hour and a half away from where we are living… and that’s an hour and a half away (one-way) day, as we live in midwest and travel like that can easily go up to 4 hours if the roads are bad and covered with snow or ice (I’ve driven in this occasion few times – it was tough!). The part time one is closer to where we live. But due to our situation, I decided to bite the bullet(s). On the full-time job I was an instructor and I have classes at night and sometimes I won’t get back home till 11pm. The part time one is rather flexible and sometimes I can work at home.

    DH has a full-time job and drops out DD1 on the way to work and he picks her up and take care of her till I get home. We are in this position for almost 2years! When we finally sold our house and was able to buy a house (rather than renting), I quit that teaching job, went back to school and concentrate on the part time job.

    If I were in your situation, I would encourage DH to try the job. Though they say that it has a high turn-over rate, who knows it could be the perfect job for him. And the job is waiting for a person like your DH :). But your would not know that until he tries it. Take a leap of faith and remember that (most of time), great risks comes great rewards..

    As you said it was an advancement, and if it doesn’t work out it’s a significant boost in his resume and career. It will have a great impact when he look for another job.

    GOOD LUCK!

  6. aj_18 on May 29th, 2012 5:17 pm


    You’ve already answered it yourself. Common sense says it is too much of a risk. 1)High Turn over rate 2)Commuting 3)moving and putting the house up for sale. Consider the worst case scenario…You can’t sell the house and hubby loses his job. Where will that put you? I wouldn’t do it because of the high turnover,the stress,the commuting,and this uncertain real estate market. Stay put and be thankful for his current job.

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