My best friend is talking to a guy right now…well, actually, the term talking wouldn’t apply. She is interested in him, he professes an interest in her, but rarely does he ever respond to her texts or Facebook messages. He is very attentive when they are together, but it seems that with him it is “out of sight, out of mind”. Again, I rely on his lack of communication to pass this judgment. As a woman, I rely very much on communication to assess a relationship. My friend feels the same way, and is often trying to figure out how he feels since she can never got a hold of him.
It reminds me of the movie “He’s Just Not That into You” (my friend definitely didn’t like the reference when I told her the movie title!) where a guy is giving one of the female leads advice. He tells her that if a guy is interested, he will find a way to talk to her. His advice was let him find you. Then you will know if he likes you, because he will find a way to show you. In this particular case, my friend feels that as nice as he may be when they are together because he doesn’t reach out to her when they’re not (she is the one who initiates the hanging out) he must not truly like her.
What do you guys think? Do we put too much emphasis on communication, or is this a legitimate issue? If he’s not calling you, is he just not that into you?