I am the perfect mother. Now before you close out of this blog and swear to never read a blog written by me again please read on. I am the perfect mother, for my family. The reason for this is because I unapologetically do what is right for my family. Even when it is unpopular with other family members or friends, if it is right for my husband and kids I do it. I was not always this way, it took a long while and lots of tears for me to come to a point that I was honestly able to ignore what other people said about certain parenting choices and do what was best for my family.
The area I live in is definitely not filled with like minded parents, attachment parenting, home schooling, not vaccinating and breastfeeding (just to name a few) are not very popular parenting practices. My husband and I only have a couple friends and family members that believe in parenting the same way that we do and this caused a lot of grief and hurt feelings for me in my son’s first six months of life. I felt like I had to defend my choices almost daily and some of the things that I heard from other people were down right cruel. It was a battle and I just did not understand why people thought they needed to tell me how to raise my child. After all nothing I was doing was causing harm and everything I was doing was out of love and wanting to do the best things I could do for my child. It took one particularly horrible experience over me breast feeding my son for me to come to the point that I was no longer going to defend my choices to people and I have to say it was the best choice I have made.
I have seen fights between grown women over different parenting choices that are worse then a fight between two high school girls. While I can admit that I am not innocent myself in the mommy war game, I can admit that I am coming to a place where I am not allowing myself to be a part of it anymore. I honestly feel that moms need to be there for one another and help build each other up instead of tearing each other down over different parenting styles. As long as our children are happy, healthy and well cared for that is what is truly important anyway. After all we are all just a bunch of perfectly imperfect parents!