It is never easy for a parent to admit when they are in the wrong but I know it is an important thing to do. As for me, running on little to no sleep for days on end due to a grumpy teething baby, along with financial stress and everyday life had put me into a bit of a bad mood. I had been short with the kids, had a low level of patience and not overly pleasant to deal be around. This is not the way I want to raise my kids and when they brought it to my attention, I felt bad.
I get on them about keeping their attitudes in check and yet I was not following my own rule. I apologized to them. I should not have let everything make me grumpy and I told them I would try to have a better attitude. I told them it was only fair that if they are expected to have a good attitude, then so is mommy.
Let me tell you this though, trying to keep a good attitude while tired and stressed is not an easy task. I would catch myself slipping and I would give myself a “time out”. I would step away from whatever the situation was, take deep breaths, relax and then revisit whatever was going on before. It took effort on my part but it worked.
I also decided that I needed to just let some things slide until I could make myself feel a little more relaxed. Instead of pressuring myself to clean the house, do school with the kids, fix dinner and do everything else I cram into the day we had a lazy day. We went to the park and played for a couple hours, we did half the amount of school we usually do in a day, instead of a fancy meal we grilled hotdogs, made baked beans and cut up a pineapple. then we ate dinner outside, after dinner I took an hour of time for myself and I went downtown to the local coffee shop to read a book and drink coffee alone, we had a family movie night and I let the house work wait until the kids were in bed and I just did a few minor things and let the rest wait until the next day. Then I did something I never do, I went to bed way earlier then I normally do. The next day I felt much better and the day went so much smoother. I know I had just spread myself to thin and needed to calm down.