Posted 02-6-2013 at 01:33 PM by whitneywalters

Do you think lying to your kids is okay? Is it okay sometimes but not others? I recently read this article and I was pretty shocked about what I read and some of the comments left by people. I could not believe some of the things people lie to their kids about. I do not lie to my kids about rewards, ever. I find that to be completely unacceptable. If my kids are promised a reward for doing something, they get that reward. I use rewards as a learning tool and I do not want my kids to think my word is not trustworthy. In this house we believe that you always keep your promises. I also think lying to your kids to make them behave is wrong. I can admit that I did get frustrated and told my kids I was going to leave without them once and I immediately felt bad for saying it. We were running late and they were being super slow about getting ready to go. Honestly, thinking about what I threatened to do made me feel terrible so I apologized and tried explaining that we were late and needed to hurry.  I would rather not have my kids thinking I would leave them anywhere.

We do believe in Santa, the Easter bunny and the Tooth Fairy but I do not consider that a lie, it is make believe play to us. It is a tradition and fun. I know some consider this a lie, that is just not the case for us.

Lying is a big no no in this house, Chris and I do not lie to each other, we do not lie to the kids and we do not let the kids lie to us. If you get caught lying in this house, you will be made to make it right. Honesty is very important to us and we want to teach that to the kids. While I am not going to say my children never lie, I will say they are learning that if they are honest from the start, they are better off. If a no lying rule applies to the kids, then it needs to apply to the parents as well. We may slip up from time to time but we do our best to be honest.


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3 Responses to “Liar”

  1. Krista on February 6th, 2013 8:48 pm

    No, it’s not OK. I think most of us at one point or another. I used to say, “If you don’t hurry I’m leaving you here.” As that is not true, I have modified that to asking, “Do you WANT me to leave you here?” Seems to work just as well. ;P

  2. mibarra on February 7th, 2013 11:40 am

    I prefer not to lie to my children, but that doesn’t mean they always need to know the whole truth in detail, KWIM? I hate it when people use ‘fake threats’. I was in a store in within 10 minutes this mother yelled at least 7 times that if her kids didn’t quite it they had to go sit in the car with daddy. Some random man got mad and told her to stop yelling through the store. Some other lady mad a comment to her about how it’s a shame you can’t discipline your kids in public. I’m thinking, either be quiet or send them out to the car already… they know you don’t mean it! :)

  3. Angel894 on February 10th, 2013 1:49 pm

    I HATE empty threats. You may as well not do anything at all. Lying…I agree that sometimes kids don’t need to know the whole truth.

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