My daughter just turned five, she has always had a flare for the dramatic and has been known to throw some fits. I thought they would start to get better now that she is getting older but they seem to be getting worse. Her fits have gotten way out of control and of course most of them have to be in public.
We had gone to the grocery store to get a few things and I told the kids they could each pick out a type of fruit . Everyone had their choice except Alex and he was deciding on what kind of grapes he wanted. Destiny had already picked raspberries and then she noticed that the green grapes had a princess on the package, of course this meant they were special princess grapes and she wanted Alex to pick those. Alex likes red grapes more so that is what he picked. Destiny was really mad, I told her she could put her raspberries back and get the green grapes but this was not an option in her book, she wanted both, I told her no and she threw a fit. She was wearing a pink cowboy hat, she threw it on the ground and when I told her to pick it up, she crossed her arms, stomped on it and yelled that she wanted the grapes. I was shocked, she may be dramatic but this is even a bit much for her. I managed to stay calm. I picked up her hat, put it in the cart, told her we were not getting the grapes and to stop yelling right now. She stopped yelling but whined the whole time we were checking out. Once we were in the car I told her because of the way she acted in the car and the way she treated her hat that she did not get to have her hat back for one week. She started in on a fit but I stood my ground, when we got home I put the hat on the top shelf in my closet and it stayed there until a week had passed.
This is not the only in store fit she has thrown lately either. We had gone to Whole Foods and she threw a fit when I told her we did not need to get more yogurt since we already had a bunch at home. She started jumping up and down and yelling that she wanted more. I firmly put my hands on her shoulders and told her to stop right now or we would sit in the car until daddy was done shopping. She stopped but you could tell she had an attitude the rest of the time we were in the store.
She has been doing this at home when she does not get her way. Like when we play CandyLand and she does not win or if she thinks something is not fair she starts in with the jumping or the stomping. I try my hardest to keep a cool attitude about it, remind her to use her words and tell her why the way she is acting is not acceptable behavior. I also know this is a normal stage that a lot of kids go through and that she is still learning how to express her emotions. All that said, I pray she gets through this stage fast because my nerves are about fried.