When I was younger—I used to hate statements like that!! I am only twenty-seven, I should have no wisdom to pass on!—I used to believe completely in the magic of fate and the certainty of destiny. (I know, most people don’t believe in both. Don’t judge.) I was so sure that if something was meant to be that you would just know it in your bones. Again, I do feel that the long lineage of Disney princesses is to blame, at least in past, but we won’t go there.
And if a relationship wasn’t meant to work, well then, it just wouldn’t, and both people would know. Right? Right?! Unfortunately, it often doesn’t work that way. Relationships take hard work, commitment and patience from both parties. And that’s only touching the surface. I never expected marriage to be so challenging, but on the flip side, when you get it right it is also one of the most rewarding feelings.
My husband and I recently went through some problems this year and I have to say that coming through that fire has not only made us harder and stronger as a couple but has opened my eyes completely to the truth. Love is not always about romance and personal happiness. Often personal happiness has to be put on the backburner for the good of the entire family unit, and with our selfish natures that isn’t always easy to do—and that’s putting it mildly!
However, if we are able to do that and make the changes within ourselves that are needed to keep our relationship strong and moving forward then our love will be an example to others. I know I want my daughters to witness that kind of love so that when they begin their own search they know what to look for in a guy.