Mama senses

Posted 05-25-2012 at 09:44 AM by whitneywalters

Ever had someone set off your mama senses? It happened to me when I was down town with my kids going to a local restaurant. A man stopped us and started talking to my kids. Everything in me was screaming something was not normal but I tried being nice. I let him talk to them for a little bit  but I could tell he was really focusing on my four year old daughter. He kept telling her she was so pretty, complimenting her hair and eyes but then he tried to touch her face. I stopped him and got the kids inside right way before he could do anything else. It really shook me up.

After we got home I had a really long talk with the older two kids about stranger danger and the importance of never talking to a stranger without someone they know being there. We talked about why they never go anywhere with a stranger and why we should never take anything from a stranger without a parents permission. I wanted to make sure they knew I was serious but I did not want to scare them either. I am pretty sure they understood, if I ask them why we do not talk to strangers, take things or go somewhere with strangers they answer me in a way that makes me think they understand me.

I just can not believe how uncomfortable the situation made me. Every thing in me was telling me to keep him away from my daughter, I just knew something was off and even though I feel a little bad about feeling that way since I do not even know the guy I would much rather be safe then sorry when it comes to my children. My mama sense had to have been telling me these things for a reason.

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5 Responses to “Mama senses”

  1. mibarra on May 25th, 2012 10:14 am

    Trust your mama radar! I wouldn’t have been opposed to scaring them a little with the topic, because it IS scary, but it’s good they understand. :)

  2. WisconsinMary on May 29th, 2012 1:45 pm

    There’s a wonderful book called Protecting the Gift about this topic. The author states emphatically that your mama sense is correct in situations like that!!

    Interestingly, the author did say it was good to teach kids to be comfortable talking to strangers in certain situations: if a child is lost, he/she is supposed to find another mother to ask for help if possible, or else find someone else that the child thinks seems okay. Yes, there’s a chance that they will pick a bad person–but that’s better than the chance that the person that comes along looking to “help” the child isn’t a bad person. :(

    (That being said, I saw a little girl (maybe 18 months) in the park the other day and I thought she was lost, so I walked up to her and asked her if she was okay. A little boy (about 4 years old) came along and said he was her brother, so I said goodbye and left. I figured there was an adult around somewhere, and since the boy said everything was okay it was time for me to leave. Maybe that’s something to teach them? If they ask an adult to leave and they don’t: that’s a problem.)

  3. emconigs on May 31st, 2012 9:36 pm

    I read once to tell you kids it is okay to ask an adult for help, but it is not okay for an adult to ask a child for help. I also usually tell them that they should try to look for a person who is working there, rather than just a random person.

  4. Blessed2005 on June 1st, 2012 6:27 am

    I had a similar situation at Hobby Lobby recently. A man that immediately made me shiver when he started talking about how my dd would be breaking hearts in a few years……she won’t even be two until July!!!!!

    I do not have issues being rude to people like that. I was polite this time in a way, but I was not about to encourage the conversation. As a victim of child abuse myself, I am VERY protective of my kids around ANYONE who makes me the least bit uncomfortable. I will not make any apologies for hurt feelings while I am doing my mom job….taking care of my kids.

    I think you were absolutely justified. It does make me giggle a little imagining you knocking some guys hand away from your daughter’s face….even though you didn’t say you did that. :o). Great job Mama!

  5. Blessed2005 on June 1st, 2012 6:27 am

    Not the smiley I was looking for…..oh well.

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