Marriage Equality

Posted 04-12-2013 at 11:36 AM by Krista

This is a really big issue right now, causing users to flood the internet and media outlets with opinions. Right now, I have at least a dozen friends who have changed their profile picture to an equal sign, showing that they support gay marriage. Others have changed their picture to a cross. My newsfeed is flooded with everyone expressing their view.

I’ve stayed silent. I can tell you right now, that I am not changing my picture to an equal sign. For one, I don’t want to feel like I’m just jumping on the bandwagon. And that’s what I’d be doing, because it’s a confusing issue for me. As a person, as Krista, I think a person should be able to marry whomever or whatever they want. You heard me right. Why should it offend me that a woman wants to marry another woman? Or that a woman wants to marry her cat? As Krista, it doesn’t offend me.

A lot of people argue for the sanctity of marriage. Well, gay marriage does not change the sanctity of my marriage. What we hold as sacred should not and cannot be changed just because of what someone else does. If I hold my marriage vows sacred then how do they suddenly become soiled because two men vow to share the same vows? It doesn’t make sense to me.

As a Christian…I’m not entirely sure how I feel. I am not sure how I feel. Yes, God made Eve from Adam’s rib. She was a part of him. Yes, the Old Testament decries Gay relations (not just marriage) but it also outlaws a lot of things. According to Leviticus, having sex with a man as you would a woman is an abomination (18:22). Did you know that just a bit further down, it says that any man who has ever been kneed or kicked in…ah, his man parts, cannot enter into God’s congregation? (23:1). Sorry, honey! That was a bigger opps than we ever thought!

My point is we, as believers, are no longer held to the laws of the Old Testament. The Old Covenant ended at the cross, something we also celebrate when we celebrate the resurrection. Easter, anyone? Is homosexuality a sin? If it is, I am commanded to love my neighbor as myself, and hate the sin, not the sinner. We are told that all sin is equal in the eyes of the Lord, so why does no one protest lying, or cheating? Come on, folks. I find so much hypocrisy in this issue. If it is a sin, then honestly, that’s God’s problem, not mine. The Bible also tells us not to judge others.

At the end of the day, I guess I do support gay marriage. What I ultimately support is people following their hearts. At the end of the day, does it really change how I live my life? No. And if two people love each other and decide to make a commitment to each other, shouldn’t they be allowed to express it in the same manner I’m allowed?

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8 Responses to “Marriage Equality”

  1. musicmom2x on April 12th, 2013 2:18 pm


    I am so glad that more and more Christians are pausing to think this issue through.
    I especially like the part where you talk about how no one can change what is sacred to YOU. As a pagan I seem to be surrounded by people who try to do just that. It does not bother me in the least what people hold in their hearts to be true. Even if it is different from what I hold dear. I would not presume to tell someone they are wrong so why would anyone think it was ok to do so to me?
    I very much appreciate hearing a rational argument on this topic.

  2. dannimom on April 13th, 2013 12:30 am


    Totally agree! Eric and I firmly believe that love is love.

  3. Pixi6s on April 15th, 2013 7:29 am


    This is a very open minded opinion. I really appreciate hearing the idea that by stopping marriage equality other sins are being committed like “love thy neighbor”. I agree, just because it’s not my choice doesn’t mean I have the right to make the choice for someone else. It doesn’t change what is sacred to you.

  4. two4onemoms on April 16th, 2013 5:22 am


    Thank you. :)

  5. Havah on April 16th, 2013 8:51 pm


    Reference check: Leviticus 23:1 only reads, “The Lord spoke to Moses, saying” and then verse 2 speaks about the Sabbath and the Feasts. Not one mention of man parts or injuries to them in the entire chapter…

    And (not trying to pick a fight), but no longer held to the laws of the OT? Last I checked, the Ten Commandments are only listed in the OT …
    Mind you, I do agree with the Rabbi Hillel, “What is hateful to you, do not do to your fellow. This is the entire Torah; the rest is the commentary — go and learn”. I believe in the separation of church and state; this is a democratic republic and the people have spoken. But that does not mean I must vote according to public opinion. I trust that God says what He means and means what He says; and I vote (as I attempt to do everything, and fail frequently, I’m sure). Nevertheless, I will abide by the vote of the people without protest. Ultimately, you’re right: God is the final authority. It’s not about me or anyone else. The story of the earth is entirely about Him.

    Good reflection, Krista.

  6. Krista on April 18th, 2013 8:51 am


    Thank you everyone for adding your thoughts!
    You know what Havah? You are totally right! I didn’t even think about the Ten Commandments, but you are completely correct. That was a big Opps on my part, and I thank you for catching that and putting it here!

  7. mibarra on April 18th, 2013 9:10 am


    Here here. I find it interesting how many people throw around that quote from Leviticus when a) you’re right, the sacrifice of Jesus removed the need to live by the code of behavior put forth in that book, and b) since the majority of Christians aren’t living by Leviticus either, its quite hypocritical. Unfortunately moderate and well thought out opinions rarely get peoples attention, but instead we see inflammatory extremist views reposted over and over….

  8. fdupre on April 22nd, 2013 2:31 pm


    Let me start out by saying, I believe in one man one woman relationship. No I’m not closed minded. I’m respecting your opinion so please respect mine. I heard on the radio of people who are saying if a woman can like a woman or a man another man, than why can I not say I like a child. ( yes you read that correct. Someone actually asked that) so me as someone who is oppose to it I feel like this is going down hill fast! Opinions?

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