With all this baby making talk, it’s natural that without proven knowledge that the woman is having problems, the doctor says the dreaded words: sperm analysis. Now, I don’t know what it is, but my husband gets antsy when he hears that. I guess a big part of it is male ego—surely, his little swimmers are just fine. More than fine, even: he just knows that they are champion egg seekers!
Now, I’m teasing just a bit, but there is no denying that when their own fertility is called into question most men become defensive. My doctor told me that while we were waiting for me to ovulate, at which point we would begin running tests to make sure my body was in prime baby making mode when it was supposed to be, we should have a semen analysis run on my husband. I immediately cringed, because we were given the same advice over five years ago when we first started on our baby making journey.
I knew how he felt about it then, so I assumed I knew how he felt about it now. I asked the doctor if we could delay that test until the ones he wanted to run on me were done. I saw the wisdom in what he was saying…if we could go ahead and get my husband’s semen analysis in, that would at least be one thing to look at, and after all there is just that one test for men—as far as I know—while there are dozens for women. Still, I wanted to preserve my husband’s feelings.
I needn’t have bothered, because I was—I was happy to learn—wrong. When I did mention it to him, and told him how I had responded to the doctor, he said, “You know what? That’s fine. Go ahead and schedule it. I can do this test, if it might give you a baby.”
I was so happy to hear him so that. It was so sweet and understanding. But never worry, if your husband or partner is squeamish about sperm analysis, my doctor assured me that that reaction is perfectly normal!