I have been a stay at home mom for almost four years now. I love being home with my children but it is very demanding at the same time. From the moment I wake up in the morning to the moment I lay down at night my day is filled. It is easy to let my whole day slip by without taking even a couple minuets just for myself and before I know it mommy burn out starts to set in. If you are a mom you know what I am talking about, you get short tempered, feel completely worn out and want nothing more then to escape from it all for awhile. It took me awhile to figure out how I could avoid the mommy burn out but now that I have I can say that I feel so much better. I not only feel better about myself but I feel like I am a better wife and mother now also.
Here are my tips for those who are suffering from mommy burn out:
1. Do not feel guilty about being burned out.
Often times when I started feeling stressed and overwhelmed with motherhood, I would start to feel really guilty at the same time. After all I wanted to be a mom and now all I wanted was to escape from it all. This would make me feel like I was failing my children. It took hearing it from my own mother before it really sunk in that every mom has been through the same feelings. Being a mom is a tough job, it does not matter if you are a stay at home mom or a working mom, it is demanding and feeling burned out is normal and it is okay. What is not okay is doing nothing about feeling the way you are feeling.
2. Take some time just for you.
I know this is easier said then done a lot of times but it is also really important. Talking a breather is not only going to make you feel better but it will make everyone in your family feel better because you will be refreshed and your stress level will come down. My personal escape is going down to the local coffee shop, leaving the kids with my husband or once and awhile asking my sister to watch them and just enjoying an iced latte. Sometimes I bring my knitting with me or a book. Even if I only get half and hour alone I feel so much better.
3. Make sure you are eating healthy and drinking plenty of water.
I honestly do not think I can stress enough how important this is. You are not going to be the best you can be unless you are taking care of yourself. A proper diet and hydration is key to a healthy body. On top of proper eating habits adding a daily vitamin can make you feel a lot better also.
4. When you feel like crying, laugh instead.
This can be a hard one for any mom. When nothing is going right, your plans for the day have gone right out the window and you feel like the day is never going to end, sit down take a deep breath and laugh.
- Laughter relaxes the whole body. A good, hearty laugh relieves physical tension and stress, leaving your muscles relaxed for up to 45 minutes after.
- Laughter boosts the immune system. Laughter decreases stress hormones and increases immune cells and infection-fighting antibodies, thus improving your resistance to disease.
- Laughter triggers the release of endorphins, the body’s natural feel-good chemicals. Endorphins promote an overall sense of well-being and can even temporarily relieve pain.
- Laughter protects the heart. Laughter improves the function of blood vessels and increases blood flow, which can help protect you against a heart attack and other cardiovascular problems.
5. Don’t talk down to yourself and do not compare yourself to other moms.
This last one is one I really needed to be hard on with myself. I had a tendency to let circumstances get me down and be way to hard on myself. Just because another mom seems to be able to hold it together better and have everything under control does not mean you are doing anything wrong. If you treat yourself badly, you are going to feel bad about yourself and this is going to lead to nothing good. Try only focusing on the good things and remember there is no such thing as a perfect mother. You only need to do what is best for you and your family.