Mommy Guilt

Posted 06-29-2012 at 10:56 AM by whitneywalters

My baby girl got hurt and it is all my fault. I do not think I have ever had a worse case of mommy guilt. Amelia grabbed my glue gun while I was working on a project, she immediately started screaming, two of her fingers blistered right away, I slathered her fingers in burn anointment, called the doctor and they told me to take her to the ER to make sure it was not to severe.

The doctor confirmed that she had second degree burns on her index and middle finger. Her ring finger had first degree burns. They cleaned her hand really well and sent us home. We have to keep her hand really clean and watch for signs of infection. She seems to be ok, she uses the hand still but avoids bending her finger and will cry sometimes when she does.

Overall she is still in a good mood and does not mind it when I wash her hand.

I feel terrible about this, it was an accident that could have been totally avoided. I never should have been working where she could reach me and from now on I will not have that out unless she is sleeping or someone else is home so I can work in the kitchen where she can not reach me. This is the first time that something I was doing caused my kids to get hurt.  Yeah, I have accidentally bumped into them and knocked them over but never anything that actually meant a hospital visit. I just keep replaying the situation in my head and wishing I could go back and change it so she would not have gotten hurt. I have burnt myself plenty of times with that glue gun so I know how much it hurts. Mommy guilt stinks.

The damage –

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10 Responses to “Mommy Guilt”

  1. abunchoflemons on June 29th, 2012 2:33 pm

    Oh. I know how it feels. My oldest touched hot stove burner with almost whole hand fingers & it blistered. Younest currently fell on a metal plate a place had right infront of door to building & burn sides of hands. I felt so bad but it wasn’t hospital visit.

  2. chandni3 on June 29th, 2012 6:19 pm

    Aww, poor baby. I keep an aloe vera plant in the house. My sister grabbed the curling iron when she was little and my mother put aloe vera from the plant on it but missed one spot. Only the spot she missed blistered.

  3. BNC on June 30th, 2012 7:20 am

    Your not alone! Kara pulled my glue gun off the counter (I didn’t think she could even reach that high at the time!) and then stepped on it. She had a blister on her foot.

  4. whitneywalters on June 30th, 2012 10:59 am

    Amelia is healing well now. I felt so terrible, she just cried and cried!

  5. supejed05 on June 30th, 2012 12:19 pm

    I know that mommy guilt feeling! My DD fell down the stairs and broke her leg at 17 mo. because I hadn’t gotten around to putting up the baby gate in our new house. It was one of the most frighening experiences of my life. Thankfully, she healed perfectly and is a normal, active 3 year old. :)

  6. Earthy Momma on July 1st, 2012 1:39 am

    poor baby, n poor mama!!
    i know how u feel, if it helps u feel any better, my dd broke her leg (2 yrs old) by slipping on her art papers on the carpet, and i had said to myself just maybe 5 mins before, “i should pick those up since she is done coloring” and she slipped, and she got 2 fractures in her tibia/lower leg! that was a night mare!!! i feel for u though mama! hugs!

  7. EuphoricDysphoria on July 1st, 2012 6:25 pm

    I bent down to hug my DD and spilled hot tea on her my mistake. It blistered, was 2nd degree and required treatments.

    I didn’t know the lid wasn’t on properly.

    It happens, don’t beat yourself up :D

  8. Blessed2005 on July 2nd, 2012 6:52 pm

    I agree with “EuphoricDysphoria,” don’t beat yourself up. We all have things that we’d like to change. But I can say, that one’s personal experiences are the best teachers… son grabbed my straightening iron when he was around 18-24 months. After time and time again, of hearing that it was hot, his curiosity finally got the better of him. He burnt himself and I felt bad about it, but I must say that that experience has taught both of us important lessons. He never questioned me again(nor tested the reality)about an object being hot. I think it probably saved him a more severe accident later. At almost two, I see my daughter with the same cusiosity about dangerous things. While I don’t think we should purposely stand by and watch our children get hurt, I do believe that their experiences speak louder than our words.

  9. dmj on July 2nd, 2012 8:20 pm

    It happens to the best of us. Each mistake is a learning experience. Her hand doesn’t look that bad in the pic. If there is ever another burn to anyone in your home just use cold water unless 911 or your doctor tells you to use something else. I worked in the medical field and I can’t tell you how many times people or kids would come in with butter, Crisco, motor oil (for cars) or other “home remedies”. The ointment was probably ok, but cold water helps cool the skin. Ointments and other of the above list can trap the heat in and cause the skin to continue to burn and cause more damage plus lead to infection. I am glad your baby is ok, and really try not to feel too bad. That is why they call it an accident.

  10. musicmom2x on July 3rd, 2012 7:47 pm

    Deep breaths. I think we have all been there. Mine was at the zoo with my 8year old (then 8months) in his frame backpack carrier I put him on the table for lunch and he started bouncing (fiberglass tables wobble by the way) and flipped right over still strapped into the carrier and landed on his head on the concrete. That’s about a 5 foot fall weighted down with the carrier. Nothing like wondering if your baby is dying while waiting for paramedics in the middle of the zoo and going to the hospital for a CAT scan and a consult with the head of pediatric NEUROsurgery for his skull fracture to make you feel like a @&*%%^ parent……
    I think I would take the burns ;)

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