Natural Childbirth Pain Relief

Posted 07-15-2010 at 06:52 PM by Faiths13

If you are anything like me, then you feel that natural childbirth is the best     choice for you and your baby. But the one question that keeps coming into your mind is how you will handle the pain of labor and delivery? The truth is, it’s OK to be afraid of the pain. When you are new to childbirth, it is like an unknown journey that lies ahead of you. But pain is a natural and necessary part of childbirth, and it is something that you can prepare for so that your journey is not so scary.

As you begin to get closer to your due date, you will want to form a strategy to help you deal with the pain of your natural childbirth. Here we will go over some options that can help you through your labor and have a positive experience.

Trust Yourself

The most important thing to remember is to trust yourself. You are a woman and your body was made to give birth. Know that you have the ability to birth naturally, to come through the pain and be strong.

Stay Positive & Stay Focused

There is nothing like letting fear overcome you to ruin what can be a wonderful experience. With trust in yourself and your body’s ability to birth naturally comes the positive attitude of that innate knowledge. Stay focused on what you are doing – bringing your precious baby into this world in the safest and most gently way possible.

Have A Partner You Trust

When you are in labor it is important to have a partner or support person who you trust by your side. Labor is exhausting and takes all of your energy and strength, so to have someone there to help you when you need it is imperative. A support person can bring you food and drinks, rub your back, hold your hand, help remind you to breathe, and just help make you comfortable overall. Best of all, a partner can help you to stay positive and focused on your goal of a natural birth.

Stay Home

When giving birth at a hospital or birth center, it will be helpful to stay at home as long as you can. When you are at home, you are in a safe environment where you are most comfortable. You are able to eat and move about as you please. This extended time at home will help keep your pain more managable while you spend time relaxing.

It is recommended to go to the hospital when your contractions are 2 – 3 minutes apart and lasting at least 60 seconds with your first baby and 4 minutes apart and 60 seconds long for subsequent births. Enjoy the time leading up to it in your favorite chair listening to soothing music, or sitting in your baby’s nursery as you envision him or her in your arms.


Movement is a wonderful tool in labor. Walking, dancing, swaying from side to side or gently rolling on a birth ball. Some woman may even rock back and forth on their hands and knees. Movement can help your labor progess and can also help you through the pain of each contraction.

One of the worst positions to labor in is stuck laying flat on your back. I can be more painful and it can also slow down your labor and decrease the flow of blood to your baby. If you are unable to get out of bed and move around, try to labor laying on your side or in a supported squat position.

Make Noise

Don’t be afraid to make noise. Just remember that when you are in labor, the best noise is a low moan that leaves your mouth open. You do not want to make high-pitched screaming sounds, as this will cause your body to tense and make the pain harder to bear. Keeping your mouth open helps to remind you to keep loose and to keep yourself open. It also helps you to breathe, where as screaming takes up more breath and energy. Remember, a relaxed mouth means a relaxed bottom.


As you labor, keep your breathing slow and deep. This will help you stay relaxed and stay focused. When a contraction comes on strong, remember to keep breathing. Focus on the sound of your breath and envision your body opening and getting ready to allow your baby to come through. Take each contraction, one breath at a time.


With your slow breathing comes relaxation. Even thoughyour uterus is working very hard, you can still help the rest of your body rest. This will help you keep endurance through a long labor. Relax your mind and all of the muscles in your body. Have your birth partner or support person give you a calming massage or rub your feet. It will be much easier to remember these techniques if you have already begun practicing during pregnancy. If you take a childbirth preparation class, you will go over many useful breathing and relaxation techniques that you can practice.

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21 Responses to “Natural Childbirth Pain Relief”

  1. boysniris on July 15th, 2010 8:14 pm

    Awesome tips! Personally I LOVE the Bradley Method — I had both my children this way and I have zero regrets.

  2. silmien on July 15th, 2010 11:58 pm

    I agree with all of these! The most important ones for me were my husband/partner being there for me, especially during the contractions. I was rocking on hands and knees, and he was putting strong pressure on my tailbone and squeezing my hips up. It may sound crazy, but it helped immensely during the rough ones. I had the most wonderful nurse, who constantly reminded me to breathe through the pain and her calmness helped me more than words can say. I had to be induced, which I was not happy about. But I was so lucky to have Carol as my nurse. It was like being in a birthing center, even though we were at the hospital. She never pushed drugs on me, for which I am very grateful. I didn’t want to waste any energy on denying an epidural twenty times. I’ve had friends that this happened to, and eventually the nurses just force it on you if you aren’t very clear that you DO NOT want drugs. Good for the mamas that can deliver naturally, but I know it’s not for everyone. Safe and happy births to all expecting mamas!

  3. juju12 on July 17th, 2010 7:34 pm

    Great post. I had both children naturally. Mostly because I had such fast labors (we’re talking two hours total for the first…)
    With the second, I had to be “induced” because of a possible high leak of amnio fluid. I talked them into breaking my water and I walked those halls for a while.
    Something didn’t seem right, so I called the doc and when she checked me, she said that the baby was sunny side up. Luckily, I could still move and got up on all fours and we turned her.
    If I had opted for an epidural, this birth could have gone differently. Its a personal choice, but with mine, I felt empowered to be in control of the labor by having the use of my legs and letting nature to its thing.
    Thanks for such a great (non-judgemental) and informative post. They should print this “cheat sheet” out for every couple wanting to go au naturale.

  4. catherine on July 21st, 2010 2:13 am

    Great post , i had given birth to two of my child in home itself, breathing and squeezing upwards is what i feel saved my life and my child’s. both the time i have wonderful doctor to take care of .
    Thanks again for your tips.

  5. stewartjess on July 21st, 2010 4:29 pm

    I also used the Bradley method for 3 of 4 of my children. (My first was born with lots of IV pain meds and an epidural and was a terrible experience!)

    I disagree with staying home as long as possible, but it’s just my preference. I felt like I needed to be at the hospital early so I could adjust to those surroundings and be familiar with everything available for me to utilize such as a birthing ball, rails, etc. I had a plan with me and my nurses were wonderful with respecting my wishes and only coming in when necessary to check me/baby. They do watch the telemitry strips from their desk so they are really able to keep a pretty good watch from the desk.

    I absolutely loved being able to get up immediately after having the baby and wash up while my husband and the nurses cared for the baby and changed the bed linens. It was wonderful :)

  6. pumpkinmama on July 22nd, 2010 6:36 pm

    All really great tips! We used the Bradley method too for our first son! It,literally, was the best experience during a very personally stressful time in our lives that was out of our hands. Giving birth was the only thing I felt I could control! We, women, are designed to give birth and should educate ourselves more on the fact that this is what our bodies are designed to do. Our second is due on November and we plan to do Bradley again… hopefully we’ll have success with a water birth. The first one almost was born in the water…. what a difference in pain relief for me!

  7. aubreyaks on July 23rd, 2010 6:20 am

    I have heard many wonderful things about Bradley and I think it’s awesome that so many mamas are having natural births. I used hypnobabies for my DS’s birth and honestly, I really believe pain is a matter of perception. I am a huge sissy. I am terrified of needles, and I hate, hate pain. I had a miscarriage that was awful and painful, but my birth experience? Painfree. I can’t imagine doing it any other way. Just thought I’d share :)

  8. saradawnell on July 25th, 2010 5:07 am

    So good to hear positive feedback about the Bradley Method. I am expecting my first child on 9/1 and that is the method we are doing, along with a birthing tub. I will have two midwives attending a home birth. Thought about hypnobirthing too, but I feel that the husband role in the Bradley Method is pretty close. I looked for scripts to hypnotize myself, but they are pretty tight-lipped on all that…lol.

  9. amyhunt on July 26th, 2010 3:18 am

    I was lucky enough to not have that much pain. I always knew I had a high pain tolerance, but not that high. My husband would press on my tailbone with a warmed cushion (old tube sock filled with dry beans and rice heated in the microwave for 1.5 min.) each time a contraction would come. I was able to relax in the tub as well and didn’t get to the hospital until I was at an 8 and 90% effaced. I only labored for 3 hours at the hospital and had a completely natural birth. It was awesome! I did suffer with fear once I realized how close to pushing I was when we got there. Next time, I’ll know better. Fear is way scarier than pushing!

  10. crystalfairy331 on July 26th, 2010 7:45 pm

    Thank you for this! I had my daughter with an epidural, but I want to go natural this time around! I’ll have to print this out so my husband can look at it and remind me of some good techniques!

  11. tmfletch on July 27th, 2010 3:41 am

    I agree with aubreyaks- I also used Hypnobabies for the birth of both of my children and it was awesome! The second time around I was still laughing and smiling well into the birthing time. Hypnobabies is truly a wonderful tool to add to the natural birth toolbox. :)

  12. mikeswife on July 27th, 2010 2:40 pm

    Just had a hbac in April. =) The first hour of labor, I didn’t know I was for sure but pretty much was nursing my toddler then visited the bathroom a lot. LOL The second hour, I sat on a birth ball, called my MW to say I might be in labor and did all the things you’re not supposed to do while having ctx like hold your breath and told my mom and DH to stop laughing. The third hour, I was checked by my MW, found to be at 7 cm so we blew up a tub and filled it while I was in transition. Got in, my water broke, I screamed like I was being sawed in half and a baby was born 15 min later. Nothing like I imagined it to be but great nonetheless.

  13. camille on July 27th, 2010 8:40 pm

    i STRONGLY STRONGLY recommend hypnobirthing. it’s a little different than hypnobabies, i think only in the terminology but therefore the attitude towards the “pain.” i was able to cope with a 27+ hour labor, induced by pitocin and foley bulb and had almost 5 hrs of pushing, with the assistance of hypnobirthing techniques. and honestly, i don’t remember it as “pain” so much as “extreme discomfort.” the BEST part was the pushing because i felt like something was finally happening and it felt good to bear down against the discomfort and cramping. my BEST advice is to not think about the “pain” but to think of it as a means to an end–getting your beautiful baby into the world. think about what’s causing the sensations–the tightening of your strong uterus, gently moving your baby down…..anyway, i strongly recommend hypnobirthing!! :)

  14. MommyMarshall on August 1st, 2010 1:30 am

    I think the best tip for birth is to stay relaxed. My first birth was in the hospital and I was so nervous that I think it really slowed my labor down and next thing I knew the Dr. said I “had” to get pitocin and then the epidural came. That was not the experience I wanted at all. My next birth was at home and I just focused on relaxing and resting as much as I was able to, and I progressed like crazy. It was a 2nd birth so it was probably going to go more quickly, but I really think that keeping myself relaxed did wonders. :) that is always my #1 tip for new moms.

  15. pecksmom on August 1st, 2010 10:07 pm

    Very much agree with this article. I did second baby’s labor with Hypnobirthing and only had about 30 minutes of what I would call “pain”. First baby was epidural and NOT a good experience. Knew that I wanted something different the second time around.

    Focused on breathing and hypnosis and stayed very calm throughout. There was no screaming…did not even want to. Did have some moaning at the end though.

    My recommendation would be that if you are planning natural to try to find a local class beforehand that you can take and learn/practice relaxation techniques before being in the position that you need it!!

  16. foolsgold on August 6th, 2010 5:18 pm

    I had my firs induced with IV pain meds and my second was natural with no pain medication. There was no tearing or stitches with either one. My 1st was 6hrs of hard contractions and my 2nd was just over 4hrs. The empowerment that I felt from the natural birth was the most amazing ‘high’ I could ever have! I couldn’t have done it without DH there to support me. It was his first birth so he was nervous but did an amazing job of hiding it from me and doing exactly what I needed to help me get through the pain. Standing and dancing during almost the whole labor is what, I believe, helped it to go so fast (gravity helping pull baby down) .

  17. vqjohnston on August 10th, 2010 11:41 pm

    I had both of my kids 100% natural! I feel like the big thing was to RELAX! I didnt have anyone in the room except me and DH and that really helped me to stay focused! I hardly remember being in pain! it was amazing and ill do it every time!

  18. littlesteps on August 11th, 2010 6:32 pm

    I’m a first time mom, and gave birth 95% naturally. LOL! I had to cut the gravity of the last hard contractions to rest. I was in labor for 18hrs, the last hour of which, the doctors compared to 8 additional hours. My daughter was on a mission. I digress. I used deep breathing techniques learned in yoga class. That’s it. Running out of breath was my biggest problem with the longest contractions. It was uncomfortable, borderline painful, but manageable as long as I kept my cool. I had no idea what to expect, you learn in a class, but nothing compares to the real thing. I did none of the dancing, but loved the birthing ball. My biggest faux pas was not moving more, and next time I think I’ll try supported standing for birth.

  19. LMB mommy on August 12th, 2010 5:40 am

    I had a natural child birth with my second because of a terrible experience with an epidural with my first daughter. With the natural birth I found that lying in a tub of warm water focused on breathing and rocking my knees back and forth helped me to relax and progress faster.

  20. Baci-Girl on August 18th, 2010 2:01 pm

    These are great tips to keep in mind.

    DH and I took a Bradley class for our first baby. After having trouble at the end of my pregnancy, I ended up being induced and then had an emergency c-section. DH and I were crushed, but my midwife promised that the next baby would be born the way we wanted. As promised, I had a very successful VBAC two years later. My best friend read lots of natural labor books and acted as my doula, and helped DH and my father (who knew!) get me through 40 hours of labor at home before heading to the hospital. During those 40 hours, I walked, bathed, was massaged, ate and napped a little. As soon as I got to the hospital, I was constantly monitored, something that would have been a nightmare if I had been there for 40 hours of stuck-in-bed labor. My water hadn’t broken yet even though I was 5 cm dilated. My midwife broke my water and the baby was born within the hour. Feeling the baby move down my pelvis and pushing him out was the most incredible experience of my life. I wouldn’t trade that for anything.

  21. Kendall on March 2nd, 2011 1:43 pm

    I birthed my third child naturally. I labored for 12 of a 14 hour labor at home, walmart, and Zaxby’s. :) I left my house about 10 hours into labor and walked around Wal Mart, then I went to Zaxby’s and had lunch. It was about that time I made the decision to head to the hospital. I attribute my success to hypnobirthing, relaxation, and being confident in my body’s ability to do this. I am pregnant with #4 and will, again, be laboring and delivering naturally(if all goes well). I do plan on walking more and trying a standing position for birth… Great tips!

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