Parenting is not easy but the tough times are always worth it. Those were the words of advice my Grandma gave me when I was pregnant with my first child. I can not tell you how many times I have gone back to those words in the six years I have been a mother. It is true, being a mother is the hardest thing I have ever done in my life but it is also the most rewarding.
My son is learning to read and it is proving to be a challenge for both of us. He is home schooled and there are days that I feel like a total failure. I have tried so many things and sometimes I feel like I am teaching him nothing. He is struggling with it and it is hard for me to watch. We had a hard day recently, he was being really stubborn that day, not wanting to do his workbook, not wanting to read his level 1 readers and just being really stubborn about school in general. I got really frustrated, snapped at him and he cried. I felt terrible, it was bad enough that he is having problems with his school work but I just made it worse. I made my boy cry over school.
I sat down with Alex and I told him how sorry I was for snapping. I explained I was just frustrated because it seemed like he was not willing to work with me. I asked him why he was not wanting to do his work and I asked him why he did not want to work with me on his reading. He told me he thought it was boring, he did not like reading and he just wanted to play. I told him that he needed to do his work, that learning to read was very important and then I decided that for today we would try something different for a little while and play some reading games instead of working in his book.
He spent some time on the computer playing some reading games we had, then we had a snack and went back to his workbook and level one reader. He was a lot easier to work with after that and he actually did really well reading to me. I learned that I just needed to take a step back, relax and just give him a breather. I was being to hard on him and I needed to make sure I was not pushing him so hard and making his work boring.
That night when his daddy got home from work he asked Alex if he would read him a chapter out of one of his readers. Alex willingly read not only one chapter but two and he only needed help with a couple words.
Sitting there watching Alex read to his dad and seeing that my lessons are working brought my Grandma’s words back to my head and she is right, parenting is not easy but the tough times are always worth it