I was going on a walk with my best friend the other day when we happened upon a topic of conversation that—at least to me—turned interesting. First, let me share a little background with you. I have had the same best friend for ten years (or at least I will have come August). We have been together before I got married, before I had children, and though she has done neither of those things she has been one of the only constants in my life. She is wonderful and I am blessed to have her in my life.
She also tends to be overly jealous. If she thinks I am getting close to another female, she tends to make comments about it until I reassure her of my devotion to our friendship. Until this past week, I thought the jealousy only extended to female friends. I found out otherwise.
Recently, my husband and I bumped into a former coworker and friend. We’d all worked together for a few brief months at Chick-fil-A before he went away to college. I haven’t seen him in eight years, and yet, when we bumped into him we all still clicked. We were able to laugh about the past and catch each other up on the lost years. We had him over to dinner shortly afterward, and my friend came over to meet him.
The walk I mentioned happened the day after.
“You guys really seemed to be having fun,” she began. I gushed about how sweet he is, and how I can’t believe we still have so much in common. It wasn’t until she kept mentioning him in conversation later on that I realized she was hurt.
“Don’t you get tired of just hanging out the four of us ( this count includes her fiancé) all the time?” I asked.
“No,” she replied.
“Really? You don’t ever want to spice it up a little?”
“I have never wanted to hang out with anyone but you guys. I know you’re not like that…” she replied.
It got me to wondering. Am I the odd one out? Am I the only one that likes to meet new people or reacquaint with old ones and have a larger group of friends? Maybe I’m silly, but hanging out with the same people every single day gets a bit old after awhile because in our case it means we’re doing the same thing all the time. Is it wrong to invite others along to mix it up a bit?
I told her I still want her to be included, I just want to add our reacquainted friend to the group. What do you guys think?