Spicing it Up

Posted 06-22-2012 at 02:42 PM by Krista

I was going on a walk with my best friend the other day when we happened upon a topic of conversation that—at least to me—turned interesting. First, let me share a little background with you. I have had the same best friend for ten years (or at least I will have come August). We have been together before I got married, before I had children, and though she has done neither of those things she has been one of the only constants in my life. She is wonderful and I am blessed to have her in my life.

She also tends to be overly jealous. If she thinks I am getting close to another female, she tends to make comments about it until I reassure her of my devotion to our friendship. Until this past week, I thought the jealousy only extended to female friends. I found out otherwise.

Recently, my husband and I bumped into a former coworker and friend. We’d all worked together for a few brief months at Chick-fil-A before he went away to college. I haven’t seen him in eight years, and yet, when we bumped into him we all still clicked. We were able to laugh about the past and catch each other up on the lost years. We had him over to dinner shortly afterward, and my friend came over to meet him.

The walk I mentioned happened the day after.

“You guys really seemed to be having fun,” she began. I gushed about how sweet he is, and how I can’t believe we still have so much in common. It wasn’t until she kept mentioning him in conversation later on that I realized she was hurt.

“Don’t you get tired of just hanging out the four of us ( this count includes her fiancé) all the time?” I asked.

“No,” she replied.

“Really? You don’t ever want to spice it up a little?”

“I have never wanted to hang out with anyone but you guys. I know you’re not like that…” she replied.

It got me to wondering. Am I the odd one out? Am I the only one that likes to meet new people or reacquaint with old ones and have a larger group of friends? Maybe I’m silly, but hanging out with the same people every single day gets a bit old after awhile because in our case it means we’re doing the same thing all the time. Is it wrong to invite others along to mix it up a bit?

I told her I still want her to be included, I just want to add our reacquainted friend to the group. What do you guys think?

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2 Responses to “Spicing it Up”

  1. BEBabyDipes on June 26th, 2012 11:12 pm

    It is so interesting to me how I am in the same situation. I have been bf with my bf for over 15 yrs, since we were about 12. She just recently got married and has no children yet. Our situation is different as I left home when I was 18 and we havent lived near eachother since then but still talk at least once and week and see eachother every year. I always love meeting new people and tend to see the good. While she is not interested in making friends at ALL and is always putting ppl down, especially ppl that I talk about. Because we are so close even though she doesnt meet my friends she knows everything about them that I do pretty much.

    Anyhow, to answer your question, no I do not think you are wrong to invite others. You and your bf are too different ppl neither of you are right or wrong! Just two different human beings… I think you guys just need to balance what you both want. Sometimes you invite others (for your sake) and sometimes you dont (for her sake)

    Maybe she just needs some reassurance that even though you enjoy meeting and hanging with others nobody can take her place:)

    Good LUck

  2. Krista on June 28th, 2012 4:10 pm

    Thanks for reading! Glad to know that I am not alone!

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