Still nursing to sleep

Posted 09-27-2012 at 11:45 AM by whitneywalters

A lot of people I know have been shocked when they learn that my fourteen month old daughter is still nursing to sleep for naps and at night. The conversation came up a few times with people I know when they were discussing the sleep habits of their kids that are the same age and another time when someone asked if she had spent a night away from me yet. Amelia is not ready to be away from me at night. She fights sleep if I am not near and I do not think it would be a happy time for anyone involved if I was not with her.

I have had a lot of people trying to push me towards weaning her telling me that I should not have to nurse her to sleep anymore and that if I did not break this habit now it was going to be even harder when I wean her. The thing they do not seem to understand is that I am not weaning anytime soon and that I think her habit is just fine. Normally, when I tell them I am not weaning anytime soon they will do one of two things, change the subject or try telling me all the reasons why she no longer needs to nurse. I am usually polite and hear them out but then I tell them all the reasons why she is not old enough to be weaned and remind them that all my other kids were still nursing at this age as well.

I did wean my three other kids at eighteen months, Alex actually weaned himself at that age. I had been tandem nursing him and his little sister and one day he just told me that it was for baby and he was done. My oldest daughter I weaned because I was pregnant again and the same for my third child. Since I am not pregnant and have no plans of becoming pregnant, I see no reason why I would wean. The plan right now is to nurse till two and I may go beyond that point.

Honestly, I do not care that she nurses to sleep. I like knowing she is comforted by me and I see nothing wrong with this habit. I think most people need to mind their own business and not worry about the sleep habits of my daughter.

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23 Responses to “Still nursing to sleep”

  1. rebekka117 on September 27th, 2012 2:20 pm

    my 20 month old nurses to sleep for naps and bed as well, it’s such a nice bonding time for the two of us i’m in no hurry for it to end and it doesn’t appear he is either!

  2. taraga on September 27th, 2012 7:19 pm

    I guess I’m a total weirdo freak because I’m still nursing my 22 month old to sleep. No plans on stopping either. Keep it up mama!

  3. mommyh74 on September 27th, 2012 9:44 pm

    I am still nursing to sleep at, almost, 23 months. I’m proud and I know my son will let me know when it is time. You go girl!!!

  4. Lisa T on September 27th, 2012 10:51 pm

    I nursed my son to sleep until just after 20 months. I loved every minute of it, and still enjoy rocking him before he goes down. Continue to do what’s best for both you and your daughter!

  5. Funky Birdie Boutique on September 27th, 2012 11:24 pm

    Agreed, I see no reason to change when you are not bothered by it! C’mon is the “threat” that she will never wean… Really? Course she will! I loved nursing wish we didn’t hit so many stumbling blocks with darn over-complicated tongue ties. I say live it up, a little for me too lol!

  6. starbeam on September 27th, 2012 11:41 pm

    people act like i shouldn’t be doing this either, and my son is only 5 1/2 months old! we co-sleep, and other than a few nights when my mom has been visiting and begged me to let him sleep with her, he has spent every night on my chest or by my side. he nurses to sleep unless he just happens to fall asleep in the car. it’s wonderful. i love it and i love being near him. there’s nothing wrong with it. cherish the time while they still want to snuggle up with you. i know it won’t last forever.

  7. ksingh on September 28th, 2012 9:24 am

    Our daughter is 26 months and she still nurses at night and if she is cranky (nap time, temper tantrums). I don’t want to fight with her about it. It gives me a sense of belonging and it gives her comfort. What we share between each other is nothing but positive. If someone asked me if I still nursed her I would not be ashamed to say that I do.

  8. newbaby on September 28th, 2012 11:16 am

    DD is 27 months and still nurses to go to sleep. If I was not currently 6 month preggo she would probably nurse more often, but I don’t think I have much for her anymore. The World Health Organization recommend nursing for AT LEAST two years. Not many people know this fact and it is not common to nurse even up to a year in the U.S. I love this special time we have together, however b/c I am preggo it is hardly bearable. Not sure how much longer I can stand it. It is a mix of so many different emotions for me.

  9. Pixi6s on September 28th, 2012 12:36 pm

    The last nursing time my son and I had was right before bed and anytime he woke up at night. We stopped nursing at 18 months, one nurse a day wasn’t keeping my milk up. He took a bottle if I wasn’t home. After we stopped nursing we slowly weaned him off the bottle at night (he was already other times of day around 12m). It’s all about what is right for you and your family.

  10. Erin0183 on September 28th, 2012 1:15 pm

    Good for you mama! I still nurse my 14 month old to sleep too. No plans to wean anytime soon. I know that it’s good for him physically and emotionally. It might not be what’s right for everybody, but its what’s right for us!

  11. Art mama on September 28th, 2012 1:43 pm

    I nursed my first daughter to sleep until she was almost three. And I will this one until she self weans. People are so closed minded and haven’t done the research on the benefits of extended nursing. Good for you!

  12. ServingHim on September 28th, 2012 4:06 pm

    Doesn’t the mainstream organization American pediatric assosiation recommend nursing till 2 now?

    Regardless, the plain truth is it isn’t anyones business but yours and your husbands – period!
    This is pretty much why I don’t share many of my parenting choices with others. We pretty much go against the grain on everything and I don’t feel like being lectured by others about our parenting choices.

  13. need some diaps on September 29th, 2012 8:17 am

    Good for you!! My oldest nursed to sleep for a long time and didn’t wean until 2 1/2…we loved it and for what its worth he is a great sleeper at 6!!

  14. Noahs-Mom on September 29th, 2012 12:06 pm

    I dont find it odd at all that she is still BF to sleep. A lot of woman don’t BF for very long. I BF my youngest son till he was 3yo. He was EBF till 14mo. He BF to sleep till around 18m or so. Don’t even worry follow your heart.

  15. scentedcandle on September 29th, 2012 12:33 pm

    In the same boat ladies, still nursing my 17 month old to sleep and during night.

  16. chapmanrl6 on September 29th, 2012 6:33 pm

    Your child, you choice! Not any of anyone else’s business. My ODD nursed until 23 months and self weaned. We nursed 3 times a day up till then. My YDD will be 16 months next week and I don’t see her self weaning anytime soon.

  17. ElizasMommy606 on September 30th, 2012 6:31 am

    I nursed my daughter at night every night before bed until she self weaned at 21 months. I miss every minute.

  18. Mom3B1G on September 30th, 2012 8:29 pm

    My dd nursed to sleep until she was about 30 months old. She certainly didn’t NEED it, but it was part of our routine, and I had to change the routine in order to end it. I did get to the point I was ready to end it, though. I was feeling really exhausted, and I thought it would be better for me. Also, she was moving into a new room and a big girl bed. We made it a nice transition, and everyone was happy.

  19. andrea909 on September 30th, 2012 10:15 pm

    I don’t think there’s anything wrong with it. My first nursed to get to sleep later than 14 mos. and he still likes me to be close as he falls asleep and he’s 3. It’s hard sometimes but I enjoy the lovey dovey mood he’s in at those times.

  20. hanhtam on October 1st, 2012 9:29 am

    My son nursed until he was almost 4. He weaned himself. I don’t see anything wrong with it. So, I’m with you, my child comfort is more important than what other people think.

  21. HeidiMarie on October 1st, 2012 10:47 am

    Enjoy this precious time! Before long, they are all grown up and most of the things we worried about didn’t really matter in the end. It’s your business and yours alone. Do what feels right…this coming from a mom whose 3 year old twins still nurse at night. : )

  22. LL on October 1st, 2012 3:44 pm

    Love feeling welcomed in this subject! LO is 12 months now and I love nursing her to sleep for naps and bed time because it is relaxing for both of us.

  23. Vegs Dragonflies on October 2nd, 2012 7:59 am

    There’s one line that will get them every time, it’s…. “Oh, I didn’t ask for your opinion, nor did I need it.” (be sure to smile when saying it)

    My 5 year old nursed to sleep at night until she was 4. Only reason why she weaned is that I had to be on pain killers and was trying to pump and dried up. Before my 4 month old was born, both my 5 and 3 year old asked if they could start nursing again. The little ones know what they need and what is normal. Who cares what anyone else says.

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