Breastfeeding is one of the experiences that dads don’t have, but they are still a part of the breastfeeding team. Breastfeeding can be difficult, and though it’s natural, sometimes it feels like a mom just can’t do it right. She is going to need her partner more than ever to help her get through the difficulties and discomfort that comes with breastfeeding a new baby.
Feeding Times Are Crazy
Aside from the soreness of breastfeeding and childbirth, new moms sleep less. New dads do as well, but moms need to be up every two hours to feed the new family addition. That doesn’t include the time she will spend awake worrying about every little hiccup your new little one will make.
Dads, we know that you work and come home tired, and that the new baby is going to wake you up as well. It doesn’t take much to help your new mom around the house. Try doing one chore per evening that she would normally do. Make sure she gets the rest she needs as well as plenty of fluids.
My husband was finally used to changing a disposable diaper. He could roll it up and dispose of it. He knew which side was the front and how to unfold the diaper. Then we switched to cloth diapers and daddy had to beat the learning curve of diapers all over again.
I’m a stay at home mom and the main diaper changer in the home, but on the weekends I let my husband take over a little bit in that department. It didn’t take long to notice that he wasn’t comfortable with cloth diapers at all.
Don’t Expect Him To Know
I needed to sit down with him over a loaded diaper and teach him how we change diapers all over again. For example, we didn’t just roll them up and toss them away anymore. If they have solid waste it needs to be disposed of in the toilet as much as possible after the changing. We use inserts. It was important to know how to place them and which side of the diaper was the front and which snaps wrapped around.
What was even more important than all the diapering logistics was not making my husband feel like an idiot for not knowing how these new diapers worked. I asked questions and demonstrated. The next opportunity came to him.