I tell you this, nothing will get some adults more uncomfortable then hearing a child say the actual name for certain parts of their body. You all know the parts I am talking about also. Usually their reaction will be either total embarrassment or giggling like a school girl. I do not understand either of those reactions, it does not phase me in the least.
I am very strict on my kids knowing the right name for body parts. I know when my son learned about his private parts some of my family was horrified. They wanted me to use pet names like “wiener” or “peanut.” It took awhile but eventually I got people on board with the fact that I wanted my kids to know the real name for body parts and there was no reason to get all weird about them using the correct name.
My oldest two kids are the only ones that currently have learned all their body parts. Alex just turned six and Destiny is four. They were both around three years old when they started asking me more questions about their bodies and wanting to know what they were called. I remember the day Alex asked me very clearly. I had him and Destiny in the bath tub. He was almost three and apparently just starting to notice that his little sister did not look the same as him. I swear I could see the wheels turning in his head as he looked at himself and then at her. Finally he looked at himself and said, ” Mama, what is this.” I answered him and told him it was called a penis. He looked puzzled for a moment and then suddenly very alarmed. He exclaimed, ” Mama! Destiny lost her penis”! I have to admit that I did start laughing at this but then I explained the difference between boys and girls and much to his relief his sister did not lose her penis.
Another lovely incident happened when I had my oldest in a store. He was not even two years old yet and Destiny was just a newborn. I took them shopping with me because I needed new bras. I had not yet taught Alex the real name from breasts yet and he picked up the word he used listening to other people talk. I was looking at a couple bras when suddenly Alex very loudly started saying, ” Mama, look boobies!, while he was pointing at all the bras. I was trying to hush him and it only made him louder and louder. Soon all the people in the bra section could hear him and they were all laughing. It was not long after that when I taught him the right name and taught him we did not need to shout it out all over the store.
Destiny learned the proper names to use for herself because I had to take her to the doctor for a urinary tract infection when she was a little over three. She kept telling me it hurt down there and pointing so I sat her down before her doctor appointment and taught her the right words to use. My doctor was really impressed that she knew the word vagina because most kids her age would come in and say their pee pee hurt.
Health was the main reason I wanted my kids to know body parts, I want them to know the right words to use to tell me if something is wrong. I used to babysit a little boy who called his penis his noodle. He kept telling me his noodle hurt and it took me a while to finally figure out what he was talking about, luckily he just had a rash and it was not something dangerous.