Recently our family went to Disneyworld. It was the first time for the girls, who are 3 (almost four) and my baby that just turned two. It was a lot of fun, probably our best family vacation up to date. There were the expected tantrums, of course, and tired, cranky moments. The only thing I didn’t expect to go through was what I am now referring to as the Daddy Wars.
What are the Daddy Wars? I’m glad you asked. The Daddy Wars basically consist of both girls fighting over their dad, vying for his attention and wanting absolutely nothing to do with their poor mother, who watches in confusion as the tantrums begin when Daddy picks up one girl, and not the other. As this continues on, the confusion becomes, well, if you’re anything like me, a case of hurt feelings. During the majority of this vacation, neither of my children was interested in so much as holding my hand, and had to be practically bribed to sit next to me.
I spent a good amount of time with my mouth hanging open. I couldn’t believe my eyes as my two little girls morphed into yelling, screaming monsters fighting over my husband like he was the last M&M in the bag. While my husband quickly became annoyed at the attention he was receiving, I became lonely and yes, more than a little jealous.
From the moment I’d become pregnant, I’d been warned that I was carrying a “Daddy’s Girl.” I am not sure if this is really true for every little girl, but it certainly has become true for mine. And while it makes my husband groan and roll his eyes, when they want nothing to do with me I feel hurt and confused as to what I could have done wrong. Any other mothers out there been through this? What did you do?