The Difference Between Boys and Girls

Posted 04-27-2012 at 09:54 AM by Krista

I have two girls, and while I do hope to one day have a son, for the moment I can honestly claim ignorance on all things little boy. Well, most things…don’t all men have at least a tad bit of little boy in them still? Today my daughters saw the extended family for the first time since Christmas. They are three and nineteen months, so four months has seen them grow quite a bit.

They are currently the only small children in the family, and at one point I saw my aunt looking a bit daunted by the whirlwind of their rambunctiousness.

“Do you ever wish you had boys?” she asked my husband.

“Not really,” he shrugged.

“You should. They’re much easier to deal with.”

I have no idea if this is true. In fact, I have often heard that boys are harder to deal with. Of course, it seems people with boys will claim they are the harder sex to raise and vice versa for those of us with girls. I don’t deny my daughters can be quite a handful with all the demands for attention, the running around, and tantrums. However, I have no clue if that is atypical for a little boy of the same age.

I got this same reaction when I was potty training my eldest. Everyone had advice to give, usually geared toward the sex of my child. Such as, “It will be so much easier if you wait until she’s three. Girls don’t really potty train until they’re three.” Or, “Boys are easier because they can watch their daddies.”

So, my question to the above would be is it easier because Daddy does the work? And in the same sense, can’t mommies just as well show their daughters?

I don’t know about you, but comments like these irritate me because they are neither productive or helpful. What do you think? What causes people to compare gender so often?

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19 Responses to “The Difference Between Boys and Girls”

  1. Blossom of Snow on April 27th, 2012 12:52 pm

    I agree! I have a 2 year old daughter and am expecting a boy in June and everyone keeps telling me “boys are different!” Well duh, ALL children are different! My rambunctious little girl loves to play in the mud, collect rocks, and do other “boyish” things. They never know what to say when I tell them about my “tomboy.”

  2. zandj on April 27th, 2012 3:21 pm

    All I can say is, when I go in to pick up DS from school he and all the boys are running around in circles while the girls are quietly reading books or coloring at tables (without throwing crayons at each other lol). Teacher said that’s pretty typical!

  3. Catelinden on April 27th, 2012 3:49 pm

    That’s interesting, because people always tell me GIRLS are easier to potty train! I think all kids are different, plain and simple.

  4. King2 on April 27th, 2012 4:07 pm

    I have two little girls as well and it bothers me all the time when people say this. I have 7 brothers, the youngest of which is 4 years old. I pretty much helped raised 6 of them because the oldest of those is 7 years younger then me. I don’t think boys are easy at all. Then again my 2 year old is a little terror right now. We will see if it gets easier :p

  5. gertiemom on April 27th, 2012 5:20 pm

    My mother-in-law had 4 boys. All together she has 7 grandchildren right now with 4 boys and 3 girls. She makes comments constantly when the children are all together, “This is why god gave me boys.” Granted, all of our girls are very…spirited! But I know for a fact her 4 boys have ALL been a handful. We’ve finally grown tired of it and have vowed that the next time we hear her say something about it we’re going to politely point out that the girls aren’t stupid and can understand what she’s saying and what kind of impression she is making on them. I personally believe she does it out of some deep seeded jealousy because her own mother had 4 girls and was always proud of that fact.

  6. 04Maggie on April 27th, 2012 6:21 pm

    While it seems that some stereotypes are true (some of the time), most of the time all kids are individuals. Having two boys before my daughter, it’s interesting to watch her walk around and carrying her babydoll- something my boys never did. However, she is just as happy to carry around one of her brother’s lightsabers…sooo… I completely agree!

  7. katt42 on April 27th, 2012 7:11 pm

    This is one of the biggest pet peeves I have when it comes to children (other than abuse/neglect). There is absolutely no actual difference between boys and girls until puberty (other than genitals). We heap our perceptions and permissions on them. We socialize kids to act the way that they do. I was given absolute freedom in gender expression and I loved to dress up, climb trees, get dirty and run around screaming at the top of my lungs. I got into physical fights with boys my age. Teachers and others tried to put their expectations upon me, however my family was very open to expression and let me do what I wanted (except the fighting, they tried to curb that). We, as a society, tend to treat boys and girls differently from birth and kids are keenly aware of this and will exploit these differences to their advantage. Oh, I could go on!

  8. mskalinin on April 27th, 2012 8:33 pm

    I think a lot of it has to do with social norms and expectations of behavior. In my experience as a teacher to very young children (ages 1-6) I noticed boys were allowed to do more “bad” things because it seemed to be expected of them.”Boys will be boys” and all that. Anecdotal but I think its true.

  9. mama21 on April 28th, 2012 8:34 am

    Weird. I have two small boys (nearly 4 and 12 mo) and I’ve always been told boys are harder when they’re young and easier when they’re teenagers. Girls are easier when they’re young and harder when they get older.

  10. BradleyMomma on April 28th, 2012 10:44 am

    I really don’t subscribe to “girls act this way and boys act that way.” I have one of each and they are completely different from one another and usually do not fall in line with the gender stereotypes. Children are no different then adults, they are unique individuals and present with unique personality traits. It’s society that brands the gender roles and stereotypes.

  11. mcpforever on April 28th, 2012 11:03 am

    I think it’s because there really are some generalizations that can be made about each gender and it’s just interesting to note the times when kids do or don’t adhere to these generalizations. I also think some of the comments you get are just attempts at acknowledging that parenting is difficult and it unintentionally comes off as gender blame. Although I’ve always heard that boys are harder to potty train and it has been true for my kids. Boys typically mature more slowly and have all of the extra equipment to figure out.

  12. mibarra on April 28th, 2012 1:09 pm

    It’s interesting to see how boys and girls are different, but it also just depends on the individual child. My DD1 is a rambunctious, active, screaming, yelling, running around, hitting, biting, sports and car loving little girl who is more at home playing with the little boys because they don’t break down in tears whenever she gets rough. ;)

  13. lilac0226 on April 29th, 2012 2:37 pm

    I’m surprised people give you those comments about girls, since I get the same kinds of ones directed at that I should wish I had girls instead of all my boys. I’ve always heard girls are easier when they are little and potty train faster than boys.

    I agree gender generalizations are annoying. I think that some traits are more common for girls or boys, but each child has their own special temperament.

  14. Krista on April 29th, 2012 10:37 pm

    I completely agree! Thanks for reading and sharing your take!

  15. abunchoflemons on April 30th, 2012 9:20 am

    It just depends on kids & parents. I know boys & girls that are the same like energy & such…but the things they like.

  16. amb2j on April 30th, 2012 10:09 am

    I think CHILDREN are generally rambunctious… regardless of the sex-lol

  17. sara.kane on May 1st, 2012 8:21 am

    My mother-in-law always tells me that boys are easier to raise then girls. I shrugg off her comments because I feel that gender is only one variable of many. Genetics and parenting have huge impacts on my children’s personalities. I have a 3 month old boy who happens to be “easier” so far than my 2 1/2 daughter was when she was an infant; but I really don’t think it’s because of his gender! My daughter has done very well with potty training so far.

  18. angelarose on May 1st, 2012 12:54 pm

    I find the gender comments annoying as well. I have always wanted a daughter and my first child was a boy. He has been pretty typical in his behaviors from infancy to now toddlerhood, he has thrown tantrums (not so much now), been destructive with his toys among other things, been reserved, been outgoing, attempted to argue with me and be defiant. He is really loving, compassionate, and sensitive. The list goes on… I don’t understand how any of these behaviors or personality traits are specifically boy or girl, but am really perplexed when people say girls are harder and I should get “ready”, I happen to like being a girl and don’t think I was “harder” as a child than my brothers. I think its the adult hang-ups, pre-conceived notions, and overall conditioning that makes them perceive girls or boys as being harder or easier in some ways.

  19. angelacez on May 1st, 2012 5:00 pm

    I think kids in one family tend to be more a like than the boy/girl difference. They is a lot to it though. Boys do tend to bounce around more while girls will sit and play with something. But that is very generic. I watch my friends’ kids and while it is true of her kids, it isn’t of mine. ALL of my kids bounce off the wall, want to play in the mud, but my daughter still loves her dolls. Evey kid is different as is how they are raised. I think that plays a lot into it. Some kids are just plain crazy! LOL. I know mine are.

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