I have two girls, and while I do hope to one day have a son, for the moment I can honestly claim ignorance on all things little boy. Well, most things…don’t all men have at least a tad bit of little boy in them still? Today my daughters saw the extended family for the first time since Christmas. They are three and nineteen months, so four months has seen them grow quite a bit.
They are currently the only small children in the family, and at one point I saw my aunt looking a bit daunted by the whirlwind of their rambunctiousness.
“Do you ever wish you had boys?” she asked my husband.
“Not really,” he shrugged.
“You should. They’re much easier to deal with.”
I have no idea if this is true. In fact, I have often heard that boys are harder to deal with. Of course, it seems people with boys will claim they are the harder sex to raise and vice versa for those of us with girls. I don’t deny my daughters can be quite a handful with all the demands for attention, the running around, and tantrums. However, I have no clue if that is atypical for a little boy of the same age.
I got this same reaction when I was potty training my eldest. Everyone had advice to give, usually geared toward the sex of my child. Such as, “It will be so much easier if you wait until she’s three. Girls don’t really potty train until they’re three.” Or, “Boys are easier because they can watch their daddies.”
So, my question to the above would be is it easier because Daddy does the work? And in the same sense, can’t mommies just as well show their daughters?
I don’t know about you, but comments like these irritate me because they are neither productive or helpful. What do you think? What causes people to compare gender so often?