The Downside to a Talking Toddler

Posted 11-14-2012 at 12:23 PM by Krista

I have always heard that kids are sponges. I used to be super careful about what I said in my girls’ hearing, but with neither of them talking eventually I became forgetful. Now that my oldest is truly showing the benefits of speech therapy I am seeing both the good and the bad. Now that she is able to express herself I am getting to hear her thoughts quite often—and the uncensored version, too, as toddlers don’t know much about tact. Unfortunately, as much as I’d like to deny it there are times when she says things that I feel can be traced back to me.

Here are some new habits she has picked up on. Whenever I make her mad, she says, “You don’t love me!” For the record, I have never, ever told either of my girls that I don’t love them! Not entirely sure where she got that one! On the flip side, when she is happy with me she will say, “I love you, Mama.” Hmm, I think I might be being played!

Some of her other favorites are: “I can do it by myself!” Yep, she got that one from me. She’s an independent woman all the way! Also, “You hurt me!” every time as I so much as touch her when she is mad at me.

Another not so pleasing thing since she began talking is that she blames everything on her sister, and I mean everything. Sadly, I have to admit that it took me a few days to realize that she was lying to me quite often. Oddly enough, even though she hasn’t been talking she seems to have been storing up hurtful remarks and deceit in that brain of hers!

At least once a week my husband turns to me and says, “This is what we get for pushing her to talk!”

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2 Responses to “The Downside to a Talking Toddler”

  1. Pixi6s on November 14th, 2012 1:26 pm

    Kid’s are always listening. Even when they can’t speak. Recently my almost 3 year old asked me to sing a song that I haven’t been singing lately. I did and he stopped me and told me I was singing it wrong. I asked what I was doing wrong and he sang for me the version I use to sing they first year of his life — before I looked up the lyrics and corrected myself. Talk about shocked!

    He is picking up our mannerisms, luckily they are not that bad, but some of them are not our favorite.

    I think what I have the most trouble with is only saying positive things about my toddler in front of my toddler. I never say bad things, but when talking to extended family they want an honest opinion on using the potty or other things that he is working on. Trying to say he is doing well but has accidents — doesn’t sound bad but I also don’t know if it’s something he should be hearing me telling others.

    When he was born I had said that I would always respect that he could hear me when he could… I haven’t respected that as much as I should. I would like to improve.

  2. mibarra on November 15th, 2012 12:15 pm

    They hear EVERYTHING! DD2 spilled something on the couch, and I muttered ‘Dammit’ under my breath. Every time she saw a spill for the next 2 weeks she pointed and excitedly squeeled ‘DAMMIT!!’…. Ooops….

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