My husband and I will be celebrating ten years of being together come this June. If you haven’t experienced it in your own relationship already, I’m here to tell you that a decade with a single partner can make it challenging to keep things new and exciting. Forget excitement, sometimes you just don’t have much to say to one another except work and the kids. I don’t know about you, but a lot of times this just isn’t enough for me. Yes, it’s life, but does life have to be so stale?
One thing that has always helped us get out of the rut is to try new things and begin new hobbies together. Granted, there have been some things that haven’t worked out (poetry, for example. He never felt comfortable reading it to me!) but right now we’ve landed on one. An avid reader myself I’ve often tried to get my husband into reading the same book so we’d have something to talk about. However, he never has been much of a reader, and definitely doesn’t read the books I find interesting.
Funny enough, it is him who has chosen this title. Right now we’re reading The Game of Thrones a series that has inspired both a television series and a video game. J has always been into fantasy novels, especially those based on lords and ladies and knights, so this was right up his alley. He is out reading me, for a change! We’ve also begun to watch the television series together, which I enjoy immensely. I have been threatening to watch ahead, because of course they always end of a cliff hanger, but J doesn’t want to watch any further than he has read.
It’s fun having something new that we’re doing together. We talk about the book, and the different places we’re at, and our observations about the characters. Inevitably this leads to a conversation of what they should be doing differently, or what we think is really going to happen with the individual characters.
Hey, I’m up for anything that brings us closer and helps us try for another ten years! What do you and your husband do to stay close?