Ah, the age-old power struggle. I bet you thought this was going to be about you and your fiery tot, but not today. I am actually wanting to discuss the power struggle between man and wife. Since my husband and I are trying to rebuild our marriage, we have realized that communication is our number one issue. I’d say that this is probably the case for a lot of couples. In our case, we feel victim to the awful power struggle.
You see, as a child of the late eighties and the nineties I was raised to become a strong, independent woman. One who doesn’t take no for an answer, who makes her opinion known. I would like to let you all know that I have succeeded in this goal. Yay me! Right? Um, not so much.
Because what ultimately happened is that that strong, independent woman married a man who was just as strong willed. In case you didn’t know, there can’t be two chiefs and no Indians, which is what our marriage became. We each wanted our own way, and fought to have it.
I truly believe that a power struggle can erode a marriage. Yes, I believe in equality, but I also believe someone has to be the leader. That doesn’t mean you follow the orders of a dictator, but someone has to be in charge. I am in charge of my children. My husband is in charge of my family. After all, someone has to be responsible, and truly, better him than me because as such he is held accountable for our family. That is a tough job.
In today’s word it is often laughed at or looked down upon when a woman admits she is submissive to her husband. Actually, I wouldn’t be shocked to get a few negative comments to this post, but if it works for us, it’s what we should do for the sake of our marriage and our childrens’ well-being so that they can be brought up in a happy home. Now, I wouldn’t say I am entirely submissive, but I am trying to get there, and I think it would help other marriages turn around which is why I had to share.