Why the Vaccine Hate?

Posted 07-31-2012 at 12:35 PM by HollyRay

Hi reader. Chances are either you are anti-vaccine and you decided to read this blog so you can shake your head at my vaccinating my children, or you are pro-vaccine and you opened this blog to stand beside me in defense of vaccines. Guess what? I’m not telling you if I am for or against vaccines, I wish it was April 1st so I could say APRIL FOOL’S!

It seems almost daily we have to have this vaccine debate, I read over what everyone has to say. The pro camp wants the non vax’ed children shipped off to an isolated island where no one and nothing will come in contact with them so the vaccinated public aren’t at risk. The anti camp wants the vaccinated to realize they are brainwashed and believe a whole mess of lies, and then the pro camp comes back around with their evidence, and then the anti camp, and so on and so forth until it gets down to business. By business I mean name calling, future seeing (You know what I mean, the “Your child will suffer a horrible death all because you did/did not vaccinate”), and general mud slinging. YAYE US! We are so incredibly awesome! In an intelligent, forward thinking society, of course we should get upset with stupid, uneducated people, who are not doing what is best for their children.

Dear anti-vax, if a child died of a vaccination complication would you look that mother in the face and shame her? Would you be the one to stand up and cast your stone? If you answered yes, I’m sorry for you. You have no heart if you think that just because a child suffers a complication from a vaccine  you have a right to say “I told you so” or that somehow that parent is unfit, you are wrong. After all they had a choice, and in that moment they made the choice that they thought was best, they could not have foreseen something bad happening to their child. After all, all pro-vaxer’s state how fine their children are.

Dear pro-vax, the same goes for you. If the mother of an un-vaccinated child was suffering due to not vaccinating would you honestly just rub her face in it? Again, if you answered yes, I’m sorry for you. It really doesn’t matter the statistics or numbers of vaccinated verses non vaccinated, it isn’t just about statistics. At the end of the day every child has a parent, and most parents love their children in a way that cannot be expressed by words, to assume that a parent must not love their child because they didn’t make this decision is detrimental to our society. After all all the anti-vaxer’s state how fine their children are.

To both camps, when we sling words with anger, even if we feel we have a mountain of information to back us up, those words are not heard. The only thing that is heard is that we are judgmental robots unable to feel empathy for anyone who chooses different from us. Is that the way we build community? I ask why the vaccine hate? Why must you hate a mother who makes a choice different from yours? Is her choice the wrong one?

I’m sure I will get the comments from the die hard pro and anti, I understand that you feel passionately about your cause. I’m all for the vocalization of  opinion. However, when it comes to our children, I am not for and will not tolerate the “the other side is uneducated” comments, or the “my children are fine” antidotes. It leads us NOWHERE, when both sides feel the other is uneducated we fall down into the mudslinging, and the hundreds of new moms that look to us for guidance are left more confused and unsure of their decisions. We leave them to wade through all the garbage to get to the information from both sides, the information they originally asked for. Why hate a mom based solely on one decision? Is that all we are? Is that all there is?

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9 Responses to “Why the Vaccine Hate?”

  1. gaia06 on July 31st, 2012 1:49 pm


    I don’t see this issue as any different than the BFing vs. Formual feeding debates and pretty much any other decision that parents make for their kids…it doesn’t really matter what the issue is, people will find a way to debate it and to vocalize why they feel their way is right.

  2. ServingHim on July 31st, 2012 3:31 pm


    I agree! I don’t even bother going into those threads. I will talk with a mom face to face about what our decision is and why we made it; but I will never judge another mom on what she decides is best for her child and I would like the same!
    I do believe that everyone should be well informed and not just take what a doctor says as the right thing. Do your own research before making any big decision. This is what I encourage every mom to do, as far as what decision she makes, that’s none of my business.

  3. Mack on July 31st, 2012 3:35 pm


    The problem is that those women who are choose not to vaccinate are putting children everywhere at risk. They are making a choice that affects others, not just their own children.

  4. MaMaJodiapers on July 31st, 2012 4:09 pm


    This is so true. The same thing can be applied to circumcision, breastfeeding, spanking and even cloth diapering. We are so quick to judge and be angry- but they are hot issues and I guess a lot of moms really get defensive. I feel it is all grey- no black , no white, and I do get upset when someone says “well this is the way it is and i wont listen to any other opinions”. Like circumcision and breastfeeding- there is important medical information that people should have before making the decision, and it does upset me when people wont hear it. It actually breaks my heart.

    I am in the medical field and really really struggled with vaccinating my second child after my fist had so many health issues and was most likely on the autism spectrum. It is not black, not white, but a huge grey and we should all somehow find a way to support one another during these difficult choices.

    MaMaJO

  5. Steph on July 31st, 2012 11:22 pm


    Well said. I think the important thing to focus on is that parents are trying do what they believe is in the best interest of their child. I applaud and respect any parent that makes a thoughtful decision, even if it’s not the same one I would make.

  6. thekuan on August 1st, 2012 6:10 pm


    Very insightful. It’s a struggle for us on both camps. We have decided to delay vaccines for a couple of years, but we aren’t judging either side. We are doing what we hope is best for our babies. And, honestly, the vaccinated parents shouldn’t be scared of my unvaccinated baby- the vaccines your baby has are meant to protect your child should there be something out there.

    Only 50 years ago, it was acceptable to give a woman hallucinogenic drugs for childbirth. Now we know that isn’t healthy or right. But they were doing what they thought was right at the time. We cannot judge them for the information on which they based those decisions.

    Thanks for voicing the love parents on both sides of this debate have.

  7. Jim in Texas on August 2nd, 2012 1:22 pm


    As a doctor, the anti-vax are simply part of the larger anti-intellegencia, anti-science, narcissistic, fundamentalism that is rampant in the rural parts of the country and among the lower educated.

  8. gingerpeachee on August 3rd, 2012 9:46 am


    People are thinking, “If you make a difference choice then I made, then you think I’m wrong. I’m not wrong, you’re wrong and I can prove it!”
    It’s just like telling Grandma that you’re going to nurse your baby. You have to specifically tell her that you don’t think she’s a bad mom because she formula fed her baby.

  9. jaks on August 3rd, 2012 8:51 pm


    “The problem is that those women who are choose not to vaccinate are putting children everywhere at risk. They are making a choice that affects others, not just their own children.”

    Yeah. That. The decision to vaccinate affects everyone.

    That said, that is no reason to berate or humiliate people. We should be able to have level-headed discourse without making personal attacks.

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