Hi reader. Chances are either you are anti-vaccine and you decided to read this blog so you can shake your head at my vaccinating my children, or you are pro-vaccine and you opened this blog to stand beside me in defense of vaccines. Guess what? I’m not telling you if I am for or against vaccines, I wish it was April 1st so I could say APRIL FOOL’S!
It seems almost daily we have to have this vaccine debate, I read over what everyone has to say. The pro camp wants the non vax’ed children shipped off to an isolated island where no one and nothing will come in contact with them so the vaccinated public aren’t at risk. The anti camp wants the vaccinated to realize they are brainwashed and believe a whole mess of lies, and then the pro camp comes back around with their evidence, and then the anti camp, and so on and so forth until it gets down to business. By business I mean name calling, future seeing (You know what I mean, the “Your child will suffer a horrible death all because you did/did not vaccinate”), and general mud slinging. YAYE US! We are so incredibly awesome! In an intelligent, forward thinking society, of course we should get upset with stupid, uneducated people, who are not doing what is best for their children.
Dear anti-vax, if a child died of a vaccination complication would you look that mother in the face and shame her? Would you be the one to stand up and cast your stone? If you answered yes, I’m sorry for you. You have no heart if you think that just because a child suffers a complication from a vaccine you have a right to say “I told you so” or that somehow that parent is unfit, you are wrong. After all they had a choice, and in that moment they made the choice that they thought was best, they could not have foreseen something bad happening to their child. After all, all pro-vaxer’s state how fine their children are.
Dear pro-vax, the same goes for you. If the mother of an un-vaccinated child was suffering due to not vaccinating would you honestly just rub her face in it? Again, if you answered yes, I’m sorry for you. It really doesn’t matter the statistics or numbers of vaccinated verses non vaccinated, it isn’t just about statistics. At the end of the day every child has a parent, and most parents love their children in a way that cannot be expressed by words, to assume that a parent must not love their child because they didn’t make this decision is detrimental to our society. After all all the anti-vaxer’s state how fine their children are.
To both camps, when we sling words with anger, even if we feel we have a mountain of information to back us up, those words are not heard. The only thing that is heard is that we are judgmental robots unable to feel empathy for anyone who chooses different from us. Is that the way we build community? I ask why the vaccine hate? Why must you hate a mother who makes a choice different from yours? Is her choice the wrong one?
I’m sure I will get the comments from the die hard pro and anti, I understand that you feel passionately about your cause. I’m all for the vocalization of opinion. However, when it comes to our children, I am not for and will not tolerate the “the other side is uneducated” comments, or the “my children are fine” antidotes. It leads us NOWHERE, when both sides feel the other is uneducated we fall down into the mudslinging, and the hundreds of new moms that look to us for guidance are left more confused and unsure of their decisions. We leave them to wade through all the garbage to get to the information from both sides, the information they originally asked for. Why hate a mom based solely on one decision? Is that all we are? Is that all there is?