Yes. I am STILL nursing.

Posted 09-21-2010 at 03:03 PM by Mom2Finn

Here’s what I hear.  All the time.

“How old is he?”

“And you’re still nursing?!”

Yes, I’m that woman nursing a toddler.  And being told “You know, if he’s old enough to ask for it, he’s too old to nurse.”  First of all, says who?  And secondly, who does my nursing affect except him and me?

Finn is 21 months and we’re still going strong.  He has been a nursing champ from day one.  He would just nurse and nurse and nurse.  The doctors who saw him as he grew (and grew, he was quite the little piggy) couldn’t believe what a big baby he was on only breast milk.

It was (and sometimes still is) exhausting to meet his nursing needs.  And to feel like I could never be away from him because he didn’t want a bottle, he only wanted me.  It is still like that now, to some extent.  I can be away for the occasional long period during the day, although he won’t nap without nursing first.

Our first time, just minutes after he was born.

When we are reunited, he gets a big smile and shouts “Mama!”  No, just kidding, he actually should “Nurse!  Nurse!”  I have asked him before “Did you miss mama or mama’s boobs?”  He pats my chest reassuringly and says “Boobs.”  Oh well, at least we’re a package deal.

I never had any plans to nurse past a year.  I hadn’t really thought about it at all before Finn was born.  I knew I wanted to nurse, but that was about it.  Then we both fell in love with nursing.  We did it all day and night.  When one year came and went, I didn’t even think about stopping; it was still such a big part of our lives.

So where do we go from here?

We are about to begin the night weaning process (which is, perhaps, a topic for another post).  I have very mixed feelings and had hoped he would just night wean himself, but I don’t think that’s going to happen anytime soon and extenuating circumstances (upcoming dental surgery and trying for baby number two) have forced my hand.

Finn at 3 months...proof that breastmilk does a body good.

I am planning on continuing to nurse him during the day indefinitely.  I still love doing it.  It is one of the few times when my crazy, frenetic baby is still and cuddly.  And I love feeling like I know exactly how to soothe him and meet his needs.  So, until it stops working for us, we will continue on.

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24 Responses to “Yes. I am STILL nursing.”

  1. janae_69 on September 21st, 2010 3:50 pm

    That’s absolutely awesome! He looks so healthy and happy. You go girl!!!!

  2. MamaGoth on September 21st, 2010 5:00 pm

    My DD is also 21 months old. And she continues to nurse day and night! Somehow, I managed to get pregnant with baby #2 even though I was nursing full time. So my DS will be born next month, and my DD will be 22 months and still going strong with the nursing. Im looking forward to tandem nursing!

  3. Qbit on September 21st, 2010 8:02 pm

    So great! Thanks for sharing:)
    My DS is 21 months too and we ALSO still nurse day and night. And still on demand, even in public. I’m very proud to nurse and I know that what I’m giving my LO is very special.
    My DH and I just went away last week for 3 days and left DS with my mom. They see each other just about every day and are very close so I was quite comfortable having her look after him. But I was nervous about our BFing relationship possibly coming to an end.
    Well, when we returned DS was already in bed for the night. I went to bed shortly after getting home and about an hour later DS woke up. I would love to night wean and might have had decent luck denying him at that point since he had gone 2 nights without nursing already. But I just couldn’t help myself! I offered the breast immediately and hoped right down to my toes that he would take it! He did without hesitation. And about half way through he stopped, unlatched, and gazed up at me with the most beautiful, dreamy smile. He pulled my face in for a kiss and then went back to nursing.
    Night weaning, though the result would be nice, just freaks me out. I wish you the best of luck with it and I’d love to hear how it goes:) Maybe a success story will give me the courage to actually give it a shot. But for now, I think I’ll just keep going with the flow;)

  4. mommytoallgirls on September 22nd, 2010 2:02 am

    That is fantastic!!!!!
    I wanted to nurse forever with my dd1. She totally weaned herself at 18m. I was so sad and “forced” her to nurse one more night so I could say a proper goodbye:) lol.
    Hopefully dd2 will nurse longer!!

  5. mmmarmalade on September 22nd, 2010 3:38 am

    Mine only went to 13 months and then weaned himself in a day. I wasn’t really ready for it, but what can you do? Like you, I must have produced pure cream because at 6 months, having had NOTHING but breast milk, not even to taste, he weighed 20 lbs! Maybe more… I can’t remember now. I just remember he was a super chub, and I was very proud of it. Mama’s milk is definitely best! I don’t think we started him on solids until he was about 7 or 8 months because he was doing SO well with just breast feeding.

    Love the red hair by the way!

  6. whitneywalters on September 22nd, 2010 2:45 pm

    Great post! Kairi is 14 months and still nursing. My other two self weaned at 18 months.

  7. emilyinmichigan on September 22nd, 2010 2:46 pm

    Good for you!! Love to hear about others nursing toddlers. My DD is 19 months still nursing.

  8. carmelita625 on September 23rd, 2010 2:41 am

    I love to read these stories but it gives me a tinge of guilt. I Bf my two girls for 19 and 22 months and it was the hardest thing I have ever done. I only enjoyed it in the beginning and it was so hard not to give up. I kept at it for there development. It didn’t help I could never produce excessively like other women, pumping was not an option. I had to wean them when I did because I couldn’t take it anymore. It wasn’t an easy overnight wean it was a slow teaching her to trade nursing for a back rub or just laying on my belly.

    My now two year old still hugs and pats them but now we cuddle to sleep each night or she likes to hold my hand. She wraps those little arms around my neck and gives me kisses every morning, which is the best way to wake up!

    Kudos to you all for going the distance. I wish we could all nurse so easily and enjoy it so fully. Count it as a blessing.

  9. jemilyon on September 23rd, 2010 3:43 am

    I’m so grateful for this post and all the replies that are VERY encouraging! I weaned my DS at a year (I was physically drained but have learned a lot since then about proper nutrition). With my DD, who is only 4 mo now, I am planning on nursing til she weans herself but am honestly a little unnerved at the idea of nursing a toddler+. I know I have awhile before then but I feel I need to start steeling myself against other’s reactions and my own culturally affected schemas! Thanks, ladies!

  10. MyLittleSonshine on September 23rd, 2010 6:01 am

    Mine is 6.5 months and still going strong! like yours he’s always been a champion nurser so i sat him on our scale the other day and it said 24.6 lbs!! AHH!!! what a chunk! I LOVE IT! :D lol

  11. RachelBostwick on September 23rd, 2010 11:27 am

    Love it :) Great pics, great story :)My DS #3 weaned himself at around 18 months, when I was 3 months or so PG with DS #4. Later, when he became more verbal he told me it was “yucky”. LOL. But then when baby came, and the new little one became the new champ, he wanted back in the game – just for a taste now and then. Toddler nursers are so funny!!

  12. mama_ashley on September 23rd, 2010 3:19 pm

    My DD is 26 months and still nursing. I have days where I am ready for her to wean and others I am grateful we still have that bonding time!
    Good for you for nursing your toddler!

  13. Karyn on September 23rd, 2010 3:33 pm

    I’m still nursing my 30 month old! I night weaned him at 18 months and conceived our 2nd a month or so later. 2nd is now 2 months old. :-)

  14. amelia222 on September 23rd, 2010 3:46 pm

    This was just what I needed! My dd is 16 months and still nursing constantly. Lately I’ve had some comments from friends and family about continuing to breasfeed her. I think it is really important now that she is at daycare to have that re-bonding when we are together. Personally, I would be happy if she still wanted to nurse for bedtime 2 years from now!

  15. ChicanaCoqueta on September 23rd, 2010 4:07 pm

    STILL nursing here too, after (doing math) 28 months.
    He mainly nurses at night but sometimes during the day too.
    He’s not a small baby anymore but he’s still a growing toddler and they need milk, it’s really annoying that people want to push cow’s milk on him (but he’s allergic anyway so that’s my easy out LOL)

  16. BoyCrazy on September 23rd, 2010 4:27 pm

    I think it’s great that you can still nurse your toddler! While extended breastfeeding isn’t for everyone, more power to those who can make it work! I had medical issues that resulted in my breastmilk vanishing practically overnight when my 1st child was 3 months old, fortunately with diagnosis (hypothyroidism) and medication I was able to nurse my 2nd and 3rd for 10-11 months. I would have gone longer but they were so squirmy they never would hold still long enough to feed! If we’re blessed with a fourth (and last) baby I will nurse as long as I can. I always loved looking down at my sweet babies when they were nursing, sweetest view ever!

  17. briannah on September 23rd, 2010 8:21 pm

    Thanks so much for posting! My 14 month old twins still need to nurse before sleeping (naps and bed) so I’m glad to hear someone else’s little one does too! It’s hard, I guess, mostly I think because other people think that it’s hard! I don’t see our BF’ing relationship ending anytime soon, they love it and so do I! Thanks again so much for the post!

  18. ARogers on September 24th, 2010 2:33 am

    This is wonderful. I am still nursing my 16 DD. I am glad I’m not the only one out there. Great job!

  19. chloebeansmom on September 24th, 2010 8:16 pm

    Excellent job. I nursed my DD until she was 26 months (and i was preganant and very sore). Some members of my family gave me the “If they can ask they are too old” line. I started responding with “She new to ask for it the day she was born, they only difference is that she doesn’t just scream at me for it now, I like words better anyway”

  20. crunchymom2b on September 25th, 2010 9:38 pm

    What an awesome post! Unfortunately I was unable to nurse due to a whole mess of a particular medication, ill informed hospital staff, and a very stubborn baby! I did pump every 2-3 hours for 8 months straight- I wanted to make it to a year but physically my boobs were cracked and bleeding and the pain was excruciating. But even with everything stacked against me my son got the very best for 8 months.

    I hope and pray that I can nurse our next child for as long as possible. I know what it’s like not to have that relationship so I won’t give it up in the future for the world!

  21. momofcutebutts on September 26th, 2010 9:17 am

    You go girl! As long as you both enjoy it there is nothing against it. Since my milk supply went down completely with DS2 being 10months I have to give him formula and reading the ingredients is really scary!!! I do not feel comfortable giving him this stuff but what can I do? At the moment he refuses to eat and only drinks the bottle…wish I could still nurse him two more months at least to give him THE SAFEST NUTRITION OUT THERE!

  22. momk2009 on September 27th, 2010 2:40 am

    loved reading this. I just returned to work and have gotten that a lot actually. DD is only 13 months now and I plan on nursing her until she is ready to stop. She night weaned a long time ago, and doesn’t nurse obviously while I am at work but when I am home she nurses right away, and several times through the evening ;) The cuddly time sure is nice!

  23. nancylynn1025 on September 27th, 2010 6:16 pm

    I don’t plan to nurse past 1 year, but I also LOVE nursing my DS. Don’t be surprised, though, if you get pregnant and he stops nursing. I know of several people whose babies stopped when they got pregnant. One had a toddler who would say “yucky milk” when she tried to nurse him… maybe something to do with pregnancy changes the taste??

  24. Noahs-Mom on October 13th, 2010 9:30 pm

    I have two DS. My oldest Noah is nearly 4yo and my youngest Eli is 2.5yo. My oldest son BF till 2.5mo. He got teeth and he refused to latch again.
    I was DETERMINED to BF Eli as I felt I had failed my oldest son.
    Eli was EBF till 14mo. At which point he would rarely eat solids but he would snack on Cheerio’s. He still mainly BF till 17mo and then he started eating solids.
    He has started weening recently. He will be 3yo in Jan.
    I never thought we would make it this far! But I am grateful for it….

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