that i can have a low-stress hospital birth. due to financial reasons i most likely have to ditch the plans for a home birth :sadbye:. i'm devastated. insurance won't cover home birth midwives because there really is no licensing for it in PA. they will cover CNMs but they won't do home births. we just can't come up with the rest of the money to pay for the homebirth and all the supplies out of pocket :badday:. my midwife works as a doula too so i think i'm going to have her take the money we've paid her as payment to be a doula at my hospital birth. i'm almost 27 weeks so that is not making things any easier. i feel like i don't even know where to start finding a dr. i will not go back to the group that i used with my dd. i despise them and the hospital i gave birth at. i've decided that i'm going to a hospital that is about 45 min away because they're a very nice woman's hospital and they let you room in with the baby. no where any closer will let that and after dd, it's a deal breaker for me. there is a midwife group that works out of that hospital and they have a hospital based birth center. i am going to call them tomorrow and hope that they will take me this late in the game because if not, i don't know where to start. this is so far from what i wanted and thought i was going to have but that's the closest thing i can get i guess.
DH is not at all comfortable with UC because that was my first reaction. people do it all the time but i guess i won't be one of them :fit:.
08-10-2010, 07:09 PM
We chose a homebirth because we could not afford the hospital, funny how it can work both ways! You still have some time to find a doctor, don't stress! The hospital you are calling sounds wonderful, but if that doesn't work do you have a lot of friends or family with children? I would ask them about their doctor's and see if theirs sound good to you. Good luck!
08-10-2010, 07:40 PM
no one in my group of friends/family are really very interested in all natural birth so they aren't really looking for the same things in a dr as i am. many of the girls from work have had just a fine time birthing at the hossy that i had DD at. the only way i would go there for anything would be if i was already in the area and i was bleeding to death (that may be slightly exaggerated but to give you a picture). they misdiagnosed my labor so badly it's unreal. i was having horrible contractions like 3-4 min apart and they sent me home because their stupid monitors weren't reading them as such. 10 min after i got home (from a 15 min drive) my water broke. when i got there they told me the dr would be in in the morning (this is almost 11pm) but they would call him if i wanted to get an epidural. because of the stupid monitors i was tied to for no reason i could barely move around enough to deal with my pains. then i had to wait 15 min (felt like hours) to push til the dr got there. then in my post postpartum room they wouldn't let me room in with my baby and i'm pretty sure they gave her formula because they surely weren't bringing her to me so i could nurse her. after all this, i swore never again but here i am :(.
08-10-2010, 07:44 PM
08-10-2010, 08:13 PM
That is awful about your first hospital! I really hope the new place works out for you. Looking forward to an update after you call! Also, does your midwife know about this situation? Maybe she could set up an easier/more flexible payment plan for you. I know there are lots of midwives who would understand and be sympathetic to your situation. I know if I were a midwife I would be! I wouldn't do it to make money, I would do it for women like you, to provide a wonderful birth option away from the crazy healthcare system in this country. OK I'm dreaming there lol...would love to be one but I couldn't be away from my babies for all the schooling.