How do you handle FSOT?

[AmandaHW]

Usually this has not been a problem for me since I am usually buying more than I am selling :blush: but I recently listed a bunch of stuff that we had outgrown and/or wasn't pockets (Due to DH demands I am switching to all one "system"), so I have sort of an etiquette question:

If someone PMs me and says they are interested I answer any questions they have (to the best of my knowledge/abilities) but I don't really consider them "in line" to buy it until they actually say "yes I want this" and "where do I pp you/can you hold until such and such a date for pp, etc." If in the mean time someone else PMs me and says they want the item, I usually sell to that person. My reasoning is that lots of people will PM me and say they are interested or will ask questions but then I never hear back from them. Is that the right thing to do or should I hold for the first person who PMs me with interest? I don't ever mind holding things for a few days for someone to pay if they say they definitely want it, but I don't want to make other moms who might really want it wait. I am just trying to get opinions on this to see if everyone else thinks this is the fair thing to do. I always try to be fair to everyone I deal with so I don't want to make anyone feel like I sold something that they thought they were first "in line" for.

Thanks
Amanda

ETA: I usually respond to PMs in the order I receive them and give the first person who says they want it time to get back to me and on down the line.

[Knittress]

Amanda,
Here's a simple remedy. For example

"Hi, blahblahblah,
The fuzzi bunz is a blue, size M. It has only been washed in Allen's Naturally. No bleach has been used. There are no stains. It has minimal pilling on the microfleece. Our home is smoke free and pet free (or we smoke like chimneys and our dogs wear the diapers :giggle: depending upon your household). If you are interested in purchasing, please respond immediately because this item will be sold to the first person who contacts me saying that they want to purchase it.
Thanks,
Amanda"

[Bare Bottom Gear]

I don't think you're doing anything wrong. Just be sure to tell them your selling policy. Most ppl just ask ?'s but end up not wanting it. If they want it they'll tell you but there are some ppl who get mad when it gets sold to someone else because they didn't tell you they wanted it. It's their fault but still, it's better to just spell it out in the pm that you answer all the ?'s to so they have no reason to be mad when they don't get it.

[SandyG]

what alyssa says its good
i ususally just wait though, im just like that
no biggie. of course if they say the interestedand thennot PM then its gone to the next one. but if they tell me, hold it till friday (lets say its mon) I will certainly do it.

[ocfb16]

I always go with the first person who asked questions even if they never said they wanted the item. If I have another person as a question I tell them someone else is interested and I will let them know if they do not want it. Then I pm the peson who asked a question first and ask them if they want it or not b/c I have other ppl interested. That's just how I do it and it seems to work out great. Plus the moms I pm that was interested first always seems very grateful that I let them know someone else is intersted.

[offlikeapromdress]

Amanda, Im not upset about it. I didnt say I wanted it in the first post/and pm, I did just say I wanted to know weight for each. Then said in the next post/pm when you said you would find out, that I was interested in whichever would fit my dd. But if in between someone pm'd you and said they wanted the medium, I understand selling it to that person. Again, Im not upset about it. it happens. I have had people ask me a general question then someone ask to buy it several hours later and I have sold it to that person. No biggie. i just thought since I said i would take whichever would fit my dd once you had the weights that it meant I was first in line. But thats ok. Live and learn, for both of us I guess. No hard feelings at all.