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hilaryisinked
06-26-2011, 06:30 PM
DH and I have never used any form of BC (well, since we've been married). We knew we wanted babies close in age and soon after marriage. I'm not up for Irish twins or anything this time like I was after DD so we need to start planning for BC. I'm not taking pills. For years I took 30+ pills a day due to all my kidney stuff. I am free from all of that so I am not going back to being a slave to pills. No one is getting fixed yet since we are only 21 and will probably have more kids. Anyway, what are your plans? Right now I'm leaning most toward condoms (DH is willing).

drkelli
06-26-2011, 06:38 PM
We've pretty much always used condoms. I can't ever remember to take pills.

MrsJordan85
06-26-2011, 07:20 PM
DH is getting snipped but I tracked my cycle and we used condoms around my ovulation. It worked well until we started getting lazy lol!

youngmomma
06-26-2011, 07:53 PM
Sorry I got nothing...I like my pills:-)

Jelliebean
06-26-2011, 08:07 PM
The big V !!!!

angel0123
06-26-2011, 08:17 PM
The big v. We are done.

Dandelion
06-26-2011, 08:23 PM
We've been talking about a V for DH. He likes me more off BC. :)

CheapskateKate
06-26-2011, 08:50 PM
We will not do anything permanent, and I won't do pills, I have been down that road and they truly mess me up! I bled nonstop on the pill! We will use charting/NFP, and condoms if we feel we must when it is a bad time.

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ghadden
06-26-2011, 09:15 PM
We've been talking V. Also been thinking about going back on NuvaRing. It was the best bc I tried and it really helps with my bad cramps and other period unlikes (and I don't have to remember to take pills)

nevsmom06
06-26-2011, 09:40 PM
V here for us too. My period doesn't return until around a year post partum, so DH will get it done in May when the snowboard season ends and before summer operations at the resort begin. It's hard managing a week off of work for him or light duty because his work requires him to snowboard or mt bike depending on the weather neither of which are particularly great activities to be doing two days after a vasectomy lol

anahrose
06-26-2011, 09:47 PM
DH has finally decided to get the V. He says he will get it in November. Yay! Pills didn't work for me.

JeDeeLenae
06-26-2011, 09:50 PM
DH is getting snipped but I tracked my cycle and we used condoms around my ovulation. It worked well until we started getting lazy lol!

Same here.

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vinsmommy
06-26-2011, 10:56 PM
Nothing. :) We've never prevented. No plans to. We're happy for what babies come our way.

TwinKristi
06-26-2011, 11:20 PM
I'm getting the Essure tubal procedure done and getting the Depo shot until that takes effect about 6mos PP so 2 shots? We've used many forms of BC over the yrs and dh isn't up for getting a V and doesn't have insurance anyway and mine will be covered with my pregnancy coverage.

CandiceM
06-27-2011, 03:51 AM
we were just talking about this. DH was reading the Yaz pamphlet at the OB's last week and said that he doesnt want me to take it, and that since we have such a hard time conceiving (had to use clomid for our last three babies) we should just go with it and if we conceive again, then we'll look at one of us getting something permanent done. I'm not sure how I feel about that yet, but it was so cute how he was so concerned about hormonal bc :P

Mercy24
06-27-2011, 05:03 AM
I really liked the patch when I was on it a few years ago but apparently a lot of insurance companies won't cover it

Three Little Monkeys
06-27-2011, 06:37 AM
Unfortunately this has to be our last baby:cry: My body just does not need to be pregnant again so the decision has been made for us. DH will be getting a vasectomy around the beginning of the year. Odds are we won't need BC before then and if we do we will just use condoms.

foxygoober
06-27-2011, 08:30 AM
DH is getting snipped but I tracked my cycle and we used condoms around my ovulation. It worked well until we started getting lazy lol!

Same here. . . he is going to schedule an apt for when I'm around 20 weeks. . .we don't dtd while I'm pg-poor guy-so it's as good a time as any.

malaynasmommy
06-27-2011, 08:34 AM
Vasectomy here too

HeavenlyHold
06-27-2011, 08:35 AM
I am considering getting my tubes tied. DH will not even consider the big V, and I'll be having a c/s anyway. Plus we can't ever be on any form of hormonal bc since my blood clot.

MinkaK
06-27-2011, 09:48 AM
NFP. We have done it since we got married in 02 and all three pregnancies were planned, so it works well for us. Dh wants to get a V but I really really would like 1 more child and hope to persuade him. If I don't that is life ( he only wanted one child to begin with so he has compromised tons already) but I do not want anything permanent done.

MrsJordan85
06-27-2011, 09:51 AM
NFP. We have done it since we got married in 02 and all three pregnancies were planned, so it works well for us. Dh wants to get a V but I really really would like 1 more child and hope to persuade him. If I don't that is life ( he only wanted one child to begin with so he has compromised tons already) but I do not want anything permanent done.

DH wanted to be done after DD but I wanted 1 more and after telling DH that I would submit to him and we could be done we got prego with the baby we lost which made DH come around to have this one :) It will work out the way God intends it to.

CheapskateKate
06-27-2011, 09:54 AM
My dh is the middle child of 5 and wants a large family. I originally only wanted 2 but God is changing my heart. I would like to keep it an even number, and Dh wants an odd number. Someone is going to lose that one :giggle2: maybe I will have multiples next time and he will get his odd number...but I think I would draw the line at 5. :)

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Macyllehub
06-27-2011, 09:58 AM
We're not done... neither of us believe this baby is our last. We're not firm in that decision though.

We use NFP until we would like to conceive again :)

ChelseaGirl7
06-27-2011, 10:26 AM
We are pretty much quiverful. At some point we may feel the need to avoid and use nfp, but right now we use LAM and that's about it.

TwinKristi
06-27-2011, 10:28 AM
NFP worked great for us but this cycle when we got pregnant was weird. Either I O'd early or his swimmers lived 7 days! I was 1 day off when I took my OPK (I was CD15 thinking I was 14) and it was turning negative already which confused me because on CD14 it was always BFP. I went back and counted and realized we DTD on CD8 which has never resulted in pregnancy from Oct 2008 on. There were several mos in there that we were TTC and nada yet we DTD 7 days before O while TTA and conceive. LOL
I figured NFP would eventually backfire on me but it worked well for those 2.5yrs! :giggle:

ho11yb
06-27-2011, 10:34 AM
I am not sure yet, I'm considering something like Mirena. Dh has mentioned getting a V. Im reluctant to do anything permanent even though we are both pretty certain is will be our last baby (we truly can't afford another). We got pg this time while trying to prevent using NFP, but we knew we were risking it and didn't really care, but i doubt we will rely on that after this baby although it took nearly a year for my fertility to return. After years of infertility it was bizarre for it to happen so easily.

Abbaloosa
06-27-2011, 11:30 AM
We will probably use condoms again...neither of us mind and it's the easiest. Not up for anything permanent and I refuse to do hormonal BC. I am looking into NFP though...my first two are 14 months apart and I just can't do that again. Needs to be 2-2 1/2 yrs apart, but I really don't care how many. It will depend on whether I get my VBA2C, I don't want so many C/s.

ktmelody
06-27-2011, 11:44 AM
We are hoping to have the money for a vasectomy by october. If not I am considering adiana (essure uses nickel and I am allergic). Or I just might get a full tubal. I cannot get pregnant again. My body is done.

HeatherM0529
06-27-2011, 01:50 PM
I have no idea. I had an IUD and it was TERRIBLE, I want something less permanent.
I can not remember to take a pill every day. DF is... well endowed and condoms don't work well.
I was thinking like the nuvaring but heard terrible things about it around 6 months after using it. Maybe I'll use that for a couple and switch to something else, but I'd rather not. I don't want implants or anything.
Think a diaphragm is a pain in the butt. So I'm lost on what to do. I'm considering just telling him use condoms or suck it up, I'm not taking more hormones!

I've had hormones since August 06 and I'm done! I got pregnant then, Had my DD in May 07, got the Mirena in September 07. Got it out in November and got pregnant in March. YES I am DONE for a long time with these hormones.

Mom2ManyBlessings
06-28-2011, 12:57 AM
Nothing really except lots of breastfeeding (as soon as I start solids, or move the baby out of our room I get preggo lol) so were keeping the baby in our room, and BF lots even through nights for about 18mo if possible (maybe not night the whole time)
But we want what the Lord gives us. We thought about being done but both decided that wastnt gonna work...funny t hing is we each thought the other would be upset at wantin more but we both did! The tubal though was a moment of overwhealment that has long passed I think :goodvibes:
We'll also use NFP. Mainly just avoiding if I *know* I'm fertile. Which I usually do.

Mom2ManyBlessings
06-28-2011, 12:57 AM
Nothing really except lots of breastfeeding (as soon as I start solids, or move the baby out of our room I get preggo lol) so were keeping the baby in our room, and BF lots even through nights for about 18mo if possible (maybe not night the whole time)
But we want what the Lord gives us. We thought about being done but both decided that wastnt gonna work...funny t hing is we each thought the other would be upset at wantin more but we both did! The tubal though was a moment of overwhealment that has long passed I think :goodvibes:
We'll also use NFP. Mainly just avoiding if I *know* I'm fertile. Which I usually do.

hilaryisinked
06-28-2011, 04:34 AM
Nothing really except lots of breastfeeding (as soon as I start solids, or move the baby out of our room I get preggo lol) so were keeping the baby in our room, and BF lots even through nights for about 18mo if possible (maybe not night the whole time)
But we want what the Lord gives us. We thought about being done but both decided that wastnt gonna work...funny t hing is we each thought the other would be upset at wantin more but we both did! The tubal though was a moment of overwhealment that has long passed I think :goodvibes:
We'll also use NFP. Mainly just avoiding if I *know* I'm fertile. Which I usually do.

That was our plan going into marriage. We were both really excited about having a large family. Then I learned that all my pregnancies would be high risk so now I'm not even sure if I want to do this again even though we really want 3 kids very close in age. We have always said we were going to adopt so there is still a way for us to have our large family without all the doctors, specialists, tests, and inductions that make pregnancy so miserable for me.

MeCo7707
06-28-2011, 06:50 AM
We want one more after this - DH will NOT have an odd number of kids - which is fine. After that we are hoping that the new V will be in America so he can have that done, we heard it just hit California so hopefully it will take off quickly...we don't want a traditional V if we can have the new one...less complications.

If we end up having to wait for the V well then I have no idea what we will do...we've never done anything to prevent.

CheapskateKate
06-28-2011, 06:53 AM
We want one more after this - DH will NOT have an odd number of kids - which is fine. After that we are hoping that the new V will be in America so he can have that done, we heard it just hit California so hopefully it will take off quickly...we don't want a traditional V if we can have the new one...less complications.

If we end up having to wait for the V well then I have no idea what we will do...we've never done anything to prevent.

What is the new v? How is it different? We still would not have anything permanent,just curious more than anything!

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IMfun
06-28-2011, 06:54 AM
NFP. We have done it since we got married in 02 and all three pregnancies were planned, so it works well for us. Dh wants to get a V but I really really would like 1 more child and hope to persuade him. If I don't that is life ( he only wanted one child to begin with so he has compromised tons already) but I do not want anything permanent done.

I am in the EXACT same position. I want one more.... DH says no!!! :-(

kristen121
06-29-2011, 12:43 AM
I don't know. I think this may be our last baby, but I'm not ready to do anything permanent. I went on the mini pill after DD was born, but I was awful at remembering to take it and didn't have a regular period on it, so I was always worried I was pg again. I have used the pill in the past and didn't have trouble remember to take it everyday, but with a newborn and sleep deprevation I couldn't do it. I'm kind of thinking about an IUD, but they scare me a little bit. I don't want to to depo shots, I've heard too many horror stories and don't like the fact that once you get the shot, if you don't like the SE, there is nothing you can do but wait for it to work its way out of your system months later. So I guess that leaves me with FAM and/or condoms.

MeCo7707
06-29-2011, 01:10 AM
The new V is permenant - except it's easier to reverse and doesn't tie off the "escape route" for sperm. The procedure is the same UP untill the cutting...there is no cutting, instead a polymer is injected, the sperm can pass through but by passing through they are rendered "useless" and/or without a tail. A doctor in India invented it, but he hasn't let anyone but those in India get one, from what I have read he has been working with doctors in California to bring the procedure to the U.S.

hilaryisinked
06-29-2011, 05:27 AM
The new V is permenant - except it's easier to reverse and doesn't tie off the "escape route" for sperm. The procedure is the same UP untill the cutting...there is no cutting, instead a polymer is injected, the sperm can pass through but by passing through they are rendered "useless" and/or without a tail. A doctor in India invented it, but he hasn't let anyone but those in India get one, from what I have read he has been working with doctors in California to bring the procedure to the U.S.

That is really neat!