Stop looking at ads with the beautiful preg belly on momslikeme. It hurts.
10-01-2011, 01:02 PM
Here are my notes:
Stop trying to do this naturally. It won't happen.
Stop going to the TTC forum and reading the posts about woman getting preg. after only a couple months. It makes me annoyed and sad.
10-01-2011, 02:02 PM
* stop checking in on the due date clubs of lost pregnancies.
* stop looking at your newborn stash and aching for a little bum to fill them.
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10-01-2011, 08:51 PM
After today I also need to add:
- Remember DH is grieving too, and he feels just as helpless, so cut him some slack.
10-01-2011, 09:55 PM
10-03-2011, 09:12 AM
:hugs: to all.
10-05-2011, 07:17 AM
*note to self: DH is mourning too.... I don't need to keep asking him if he's even sad at all. He is. He just can't express it the same way I can.
*no, the kids are not going to mourn like me. They will go on and be happy, even when I'm still sad.
*try not to look at all the tiny newborn fluff right now.
10-05-2011, 09:20 AM
I remember with our first losses I thought DH wasn't really being affected by them - he gave lots of hugs and cuddles to me, he said he was sorry, but he seemed so strong and... not hurt. Then when we got the bfp with Levi I realized how much he had been affected - he told me then that he was really scared and couldn't get excited about the baby right away, he was too scared of another loss. :(
It definitely is hard on them, too, just in a much different way. They don't have the physical loss to deal with, and they just want to be so strong for us. But they need :hugs: and breaks too.
10-12-2011, 03:16 AM
Turn off the radio, too. Half the songs on it still put me into gales of tears. And stay away from Facebook. Right after a loss is when everyone on the planet posts pregnancy updates.
10-13-2011, 04:38 PM
Stop checking the calendar to see what time you'll miscarry if you accidentally got pregnant this month
10-13-2011, 09:48 PM
don't go to loveybums and order newborn diapers for a baby that isn't going to be wearing them.